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this8384
Aug 11, 2008, 02:55 PM
Give me your opinions on this:

The last time I spoke to my ex was January '08. The conversation was less than 5 minutes long and only took place because he owes me money. Yesterday at 1:00am, he decided to send me a message which consisted of a lot of complaints over things I did or didn't do in our relationship. I'd like to point out at this time that we haven't been together for 3 years! He says he needed to send me this message to "get some sort of closure."

I'm completely baffled by this. He got married and has a 5 month old child with his wife; what more closure does he need from me? Is this a drunken online rant directed at me or is he just certifiable?

Handyman2007
Aug 11, 2008, 03:00 PM
If he is a drunk, he will always have something to "harp" on you for. IT's in his nature. My first wife was a drunk (God rest her soul-she passed away 4 years ago) and for the 14 years after we were divorced, she made it a point to try to make my life miserable when she was on a real drunk. Let it go, Ignore him, he will eventually go away...

amricca
Aug 11, 2008, 03:02 PM
Ignore him, what closure does he need at 1:00 am? You had a relationship, it didn't work out, both moved on and has a family now. I suspect a drunken rant and some certifiable behavior, looks like you dodged a bullet there.

this8384
Aug 11, 2008, 03:11 PM
He's not really a drunk, I'm just wondering what the hell he was doing awake at 1AM on a Sunday *lol*

Spikeman
Aug 11, 2008, 03:12 PM
Ignore him and leave it at that

amricca
Aug 11, 2008, 03:14 PM
He was thinking about you apparently. Flattering or scary?

N0help4u
Aug 11, 2008, 03:25 PM
Is he seeing a counselor that has been filling his head with you need closure?
I can't imagine A GUY in another relationship out of the blue 3 yrs later suddenly wanting closure!
I wouldn't bother but keep the email in case you ever do have reason to need to reply.

Maybe it was just getting it off his chest how he felt. I am sure you could reply with your side of the story but most often the other doesn't see it from your eyes even when you explain it so why bother.

talaniman
Aug 11, 2008, 04:09 PM
Whatever it was, or whatever it means, it doesn't deserve a response, nor time thinking about him. One of those things that makes you go "HMMMM!".

Romefalls19
Aug 11, 2008, 04:30 PM
Simply delete the message and forget it was every sent. He has no meaning or bearing on your life anymore