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Xplic1tContent4
Jun 22, 2008, 09:18 PM
Hi everyone, I am wondering the best possible way to approach this situation. My girlfriend and I recently broke up a few days ago and I am crushed. I believed we were meant to be, but let me give the situation on the relationship. We had a few trust issues because we both lied to each other once throughout the relationship and it hurt us both. We get along very well and just I can't find myself finding someone else that would fill that void. We have been together for a year and 7 months, and I just don't know what to do. She says she wants more space to be with her friends and that she was unhappy with the relationship. She said she still loves me a lot and wants to be in a relationship but just can't right now. I have called her a bit and have been a little annoying to her so she says and I can understand where she's coming from. The big concern is that 3 days into the break up she has already kissed another guy but swears she is not looking for another relationship and says I still have a very high chance of getting back together with her. I have written her a letter telling her how much I care about her and now I am just unsure of whether to grab onto the hope, or to just let it all go. Please help me out :)

aws1632
Jun 22, 2008, 09:46 PM
Dealing with a break up is never an easy thing. I dealt with one four years ago and felt the same way you do. I even wrote letters and poems trying to win her back because I thought we were "meant" for each other. Since then I have met another great girl and things are going very well. There is no easy way of dealing with this and I know exactly how you feel... It sucks! My recommendation is to keep your mind off her by hanging out with friends or meeting other people. There is no reason to mope around when she is meeting new people and having a good time. In the end, if you two are truly meant to be together, then it will happen. Until then, enjoy the present and let the future unfold as it must.

RedneckMama
Jun 22, 2008, 09:47 PM
"We had a few trust issues because we both lied to each other once throughout the relationship...3 days into the break up she has already kissed another guy but swears she is not looking for another relationship...says i still have a very high chance of getting back together with her...."

Sounds like she is still lying to you...
One of her reasons for not being with you, despite still loving you (as she claims) is that she "just can't be in a relationship right now"... did you possibly ask her WHY?

Here's what I'm getting from what you wrote: she's done with the relationship and is trying to let you down gently by saying she still loves you, and yes, maybe there's a shot in hell that you two might get back together... BUT... the facts remain: you broke up, she's already kissed a new guy, and she'd rather hang with her friends...

I'd let go of the hope if I were you... embrace other emotions... like independence & clear headedness...