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sweetie_tink
Jul 12, 2007, 11:22 PM
My ex says that he has changed... he's grown up, and wants me to give him a second chance. I don't know if I can though because we had been talking about getting married and then he left me. I don't know if I can stand the heartbreak if he leaves again, but I know that I still love him... what should I do? Do I give him another chance, and risk another broken heart, or do I say no, and go on without him, and keep my heart safe?

talaniman
Jul 13, 2007, 04:51 AM
Go very slow and see if he has changed enough for you. How long have you been together, and how old are you both? Why did he say he left?

Bluerose
Jul 13, 2007, 05:16 AM
In my book everyone deserves a second chance. I will hold my hand out to someone and if they knock it away I will hold it out again but if they knock it away again I do not hold it out a third time.

Hold your hand out once and you are loving and caring, hold your hand out twice and you are a compassionate human being, but the person who holds their hand out a third time is a fool.

Everyone has their own journey to make. We can lend a helping hand no more.

iAMfromHuntersBar
Jul 13, 2007, 05:23 AM
In your heart do YOU think he deserves a second chance and do YOU think he's changed?

Think of the best thing about a relationship with him that is possible, now think of the worst possible situation (your heart being broken again as you said).

Now put them on a HUGE imaginary weighing scale...

Does the good outweigh the bad? Is it worth the risk?

Only you can decide that!

ILOVEKDB
Jul 14, 2007, 11:36 PM
Give him a chance but start slowly... and if you think he's honstly changed let him in completely again... I completely broke my grilfriends hear... and after 2 months of pain and tears I finally got up the courage to ask her for a second chance, to fix what I did wrong... and she gave it to me... now we've going out for 5 1/2 months and more in love then ever before! I would do anything fro this girl, and honstly from the bottom of my heart she means everything to me... but I have hurt her bad at least once (not nearly as bad as the frist time) in those 6 months... so I am living prof that guys can change, but that doesn't mean love is easy, your both ganna make mistakes your both ganna cry... but its worth a shot

mckenzie134
Jul 15, 2007, 02:51 AM
NO chance MOve on get someone who deserves you he doesn't... You will be heart broken again... It obviously didn't work with his other girl. He willonly use you and this will happen again. Trust me move on there is better than this guy out there for you and you will realise this...

s_cianci
Jul 15, 2007, 07:18 AM
It sounds like he's kind of desperate. I'm sure you know what the scoop is when it comes to desperate people, right? Enough said.

ILOVEKDB
Jul 15, 2007, 07:35 AM
Well did he break up with the last girl or did she dump him... If he dumped her maybe he's worth it... but just because she dumped him doesn't mean he's not worth it... if you like him don't even bother... But if you honstly think you might love him... start slow and don't get so attached too fast, judge if you think he's changed... then get more involved...