I am over 50 years old and I am so WET turned on by him that I am wet before we have sex. He said I am too wet and he does not like it.

HOW TO PREVENT THE VAGINA FROM BEING SO WET.

How long have you been dating this person? Has it been an issue for him since you begain having sex with him? Has he said why he 'doesn't like it'?

Your being 'wet', as you have said, is a sign of your being aroused. Since he is the one arousing you, he should take it as a compliment.

As far as I know, there are no ways to reduce wetness other than by not getting turned on. Somehow, I don't think that would be a good thing.

If he is complaining about this, he likely wants more friction... this might be connected to his girth, or might just be his mental preference.

Is he struggling with keeping a quality erection? Reaching orgasm?

Wet is good. It protects you. You aren't going to change this and you shouldn't try.

Is he open to different positions? Is he willing to get you to orgasm first, with whatever you need to get there... whatever position, self stimulation during, whatever... and then attend to his needs?

A fav position of mine for hitting orgasm quickly, best done after the woman has had "hers", is woman on top of the man, her back to his chest... you are basically lying on him, a little angled with your head next to his, best supported by a pillow. Might be easier to ease him into you with you sitting up some and then lay back.

In this position he is inside you. The curve of your rear is right on his pelvis. He has full access to your chest with his hands. You may be able to turn your head and kiss his neck or bite at his ears. He should "slide" you up and down... toward his head and feet. Your legs are inside his, which creates more friction, and he can increase this with his squeezing some with his legs occasionally. The pressure of your arse against him is great. Almost like the vaginal penetration that has an anal twist without being anal.

When I say it's a "fav" position, that comes with a big qualification. It isn't a position I've found lovers to care for when they are seeking their own Big O... at least not without self stimulation... there's no cl!toral engagement unless you are willing to reach down (love it when a woman does)... so its better that he attends to you first... orally or otherwise, and then uses this to finish. Its fun for me when I've done right by her first and it speeds me there in short time. Off balance for the woman, powerful position for the man to have complete control of every sensation.

Easier positions can be had with, again, your legs together... such as on your side and he approaching on his side from behind.

Also, if he needs more stim, if you aren't using your fingers to cradle or caress his "guys", its an option. Some hate this. Some love it. Just throwing out ideas.

He isn't a complete arse if he feels the need for more friction. Sex in a pool, for me, isn't as much fun as sex on "land"... friction is good. Fine. OK. You aren't "too wet"... he just needs or likes more friction and mentally he can't seem to lose himself in the moment.

When you can't lose yourself in that moment, you rely on "crutches"... different positions might be the crutch he needs if he cant, or won't, rewire his thinking.

The things that dry you are unhealthy and/or promote infection. He needs to be willing to do a little work here. It isn't about you. Its about his mental need for more friction. Fine. How hard is he willing to work for this?

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Originally Posted by alty

Well thanks for the mental images KP. I'm not sufficiently aroused.

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I have other plans for you.

But you are complaining. So is that all you can do? Any tips? Suggestions? Impress me darlin.

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Originally Posted by kp2171

i have other plans for you.

but you are complaining. so is that all you can do? any tips? suggestions? impress me darlin.

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I meant now, not. Oops. :o

Stupid typos you can't edit. :(