My boyfriend masterbates to porn instead of having sex with me even when I want to.
We've been together for almost 4 years now and we have a 8 month old daughter together. I know he would do it to porn while I was pregnant and I did bring it up once then but it turned into a huge argument and I left it alone. I kind of understood why he didn't really want to have sex with me then... we still did but not as often as we used to ( in the beginning of our relationship we used to have sex multiple times a day, we both have very high sex drives) but now he doesn't want to even when I try to initiate it he just turns me down but he still masterbates to porn all the time. I know masterbating is a normal thing I even do it myself sometimes but what's hurtful about it is he would rather do it to porn than with me and he leaves the evidence out in plain site... I've tried talking to him about it multiple times but he gets mad and says I'm teasing him but I'm not I'm really hurt by this, I feel like he's not turned on by me anymore. Like I'm not overweight or anything I'm maybe about 10 pounds heavier and I was really tiny before I got pregnant and I didn't get any stretch marks when I was pregnant either. What do I do I care for him and I still find him attractive I just feel so unloved...
Comment on CravenMorhead's post
I meant to put that here...
Comment on Keesha290's post
Also with the mother getting all the attention during pregnancy this MAS issue can also occur then, like I said, RESEARCH!
Comment on Keesha290's post
This may have been the problem before but 3 months ago I went back to university and he started staying home... so he's with her more now and I had to stop breastfeeding so she's now formula fed and the parenting duties are equal between us now
Comment on Cat1864's post
That does seem like that could be the problem, thanks for your input and shedding some light on this, I've been embarrassed to talk to people about it but I think I got some answers now thank you