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  • Feb 27, 2007, 04:08 PM
    919263
    Does Size Matter?
    OK, this is an age old question for the ladies...
    Does the size of the male organ matter?
    What in your opinion is the optimum size?
  • Feb 27, 2007, 04:13 PM
    shygrneyzs
    No, size and/or diameter does not matter, in my opinion.
  • Feb 27, 2007, 04:18 PM
    curlybenswife
    Its not how big it is its how you use it...
  • Feb 27, 2007, 04:37 PM
    RubyPitbull
    Women have a tendency to be a lot more forgiving of a man's shortcomings then men are.
    As curleybenswife says, if the guy knows how to use it properly, and the woman is fulfilled, it doesn't matter.
  • Feb 27, 2007, 07:33 PM
    powerx7
    OK how about this girls... two guys both can use it equally well, but one is a couple inches bigger... which would you chose?
  • Feb 27, 2007, 07:36 PM
    tinsign
    It is not the size that matters, it is how they use it that does.
  • Feb 27, 2007, 07:45 PM
    Skell
    They're all the same size when they are erect arnet they? ;)
  • Feb 28, 2007, 10:33 AM
    chipmunk2921
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Skell
    They're all the same size when they are erect arnet they? ;)

    NO they are not.
  • Feb 28, 2007, 10:42 AM
    Tuscany
    I am with Curly Ben's Wife. Size can be wasted if not used correctly... and things can be made to feel larger then they appear when used well. If you catch my drift.
  • Feb 28, 2007, 11:00 AM
    Tuscany
    This whole discussion reminds to of 2 signs my friend has in her bathroom. On her mirror is a small wooden sign that says "Men: Objects in mirror are larger then they appear...Women turn around Please." Then there is a sign on the opposite wall "Women: object in the mirror are smaller then they appear" (women always love having a smaller BEHIND)
  • Feb 28, 2007, 01:35 PM
    kp2171
    or my wife's fav joke

    why do so many women have problems estimating distance and measurements?

    because men have lied to them their whole lives about how long 6 inches is.

    =)
  • Feb 28, 2007, 01:44 PM
    Squiffy
    I think size DOES matter. If they are too big, it can get a little painful! They don't need to be big to pleasure a woman, a man just needs to know what he is doing with it.
  • Feb 28, 2007, 01:44 PM
    Synnen
    I've found it more important that a man know what to do OUT of bed.

    Frankly... this question is like asking guys "Does it REALLY matter how tight she is? or how big her breasts are?"

    The question is going to get you a different answer from everyone you meet. I think size DOES matter... but not as much as men think it does. I would say that I wouldn't be satisfied with 2" but I certainly don't want 12"... except... really... if I loved him, it woudn't matter in the least.

    Edited because Frank and I were getting too close, "Frankly".
  • Feb 28, 2007, 01:46 PM
    kp2171
    Oh, and I know a girl who says too long can hurt, as it can hit the cervix.
  • Mar 11, 2007, 09:45 PM
    dulla_girl
    No size doesn't matter as long as he can use it well

    But I can say that my boyfriend is quite thick and I find that great cause there is no way he can fall out then
  • Mar 12, 2007, 12:52 AM
    JoeCanada76
    Of course, size does not matter at all. Like everybody has said it is all in the way, us guys use it that makes the difference.
  • Mar 12, 2007, 06:45 AM
    bronzebabe
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 919263
    OK, this is an age old question for the ladies...
    Does the size of the male organ matter??
    What in your opinion is the optimum size?

    Oh, hun, NO! size doesnt matter... if you know what you are doing, then that is what is best!
  • Mar 12, 2007, 06:54 AM
    Parajr
    To be honest size matters. There are things that you can do to compensate for shortcomming in size, but to be frank about it size matters. Size becomes a factor when you consider certain positions, and body size or with. A wide man with a short penis will have problems in certain positions. A longer penis makes some things easier. Not to say that you can't fully satisfy a woman with a short penis. You just have to master your craft. Just like short players in the NBA. They have to work harder to get things done
  • Mar 12, 2007, 07:11 AM
    Parajr
    When you think about the enormous variance in penis sizes you have to consider that size matters. Just like the diameter of woman matters to us, our width and length matters to them. If the difference in length, with or diameter is minute from what you are familiar with then it won't make that much of a difference. If a woman has been with a man with 10in and suddenly finds herself in a relationship with a man under 4 inches how can you expect it not to matter. If a man has been in a relationship with a woman that was relatively small and firm he is going to notice a difference in a woman that has probably had kids. This is not to say that it won't work. We find a way to make it work, but when we ask the question about size mattering we are asking if there is a noticeable difference. The answer is yes we will notice if the variance is great enough.
  • Mar 12, 2007, 07:47 AM
    Tuscany
    I have to say Para that I disagree with you.
    I have been with both a rather large man and an average sized man, and I would have to say that size honestly does not matter. I had far more fulfilling, fun, satisfying sex with the average sized man then I ever did with the large man. I am a firm believer that it is not the size, it is how the man that uses it that makes all the difference in the world.
  • Mar 12, 2007, 07:59 AM
    Parajr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Tuscany
    I have to say Para that I disagree with you.
    I have been with both a rather large man and an average sized man, and I would have to say that size honestly does not matter. I had far more fulfilling, fun, satisfying sex with the average sized man then I ever did with the large man. I am a firm believer that it is not the size, it is how the man that uses it that makes all the difference in the world.

    I know that it is possible to have excellent sex with a average penis, but I just saying that physically you have a better reach with a longer arm. Even if you never saw the size, you would know a difference in size from the sensation.
  • Mar 12, 2007, 10:15 AM
    Anayden
    Honestly size only matters if you are only like 3in. A good 5 or 6 is pretty good. But you also can be a 8 or 9 and can't work your penis. That is THE WORSE! When a guy has a nice penis but don't know what to do with it. Its annoying. But I guess I wouldn't go lower than a 5... well I am married now so it doesn't matter. Average penis size for a caucasian male is 5 - 5 1/2 inches and in african americans its 6 1/2 - 7 inches. I hope that helped you. I mean in the quote of famous comedian, Jeff Foxworthy, "Its not the size that matter, its the motion in the ocean. But you can't get to England from America in a tug boat." :D And actually the top 2/3 of the vagina has NO nerve endings so... there you go.
  • Mar 14, 2007, 08:29 AM
    freebird1981
    To me personally size does not matter, again its how you use it that counts. My ex was bigger than my partner but it makes no diffrerence to me whatsoever, and I am the first to admit sex with my current partner is BETTER than it was with my ex... as in... with my ex there was no affection,no kissing,no variety,just him on top all the time with the lights out... now with my man, omg that's all I can say, yup he's a bit smaller but I won't loose sleep over it,far from it.
  • Mar 15, 2007, 12:20 PM
    smoothy
    Unless the poor woman resembles the Holland Tunnel in certain aspects it won't matter is its anywhere in the average range. Now the poor sole with only a few inches when excited... well that's a special case.
  • Mar 15, 2007, 12:38 PM
    AsherBlu85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 919263
    OK, this is an age old question for the ladies...
    Does the size of the male organ matter??
    What in your opinion is the optimum size?

    I don't think size is a big issue ONLY if you know how to work it
  • Mar 24, 2007, 05:53 PM
    kepi
    I think size matters to an extend. I mean, if you have anything below 4 inches, then you will need to find a way to make sure the partner is equally pleased. And if you're over 7 inches, you have to be careful: the average vaginal capacity is 6-7 inches. I know someonw who has a 9-incher and hates it because he can never have sex without worrying/tearing the vaginal walls. And many of his partners complain that they'd rather have a guy with a 6 incher.
  • Mar 26, 2007, 02:49 AM
    Krs
    Size does matter... but Its all in the moves, not the size! :)
  • Mar 26, 2007, 07:43 AM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Synnen
    I've found it more important that a man know what to do OUT of bed.

    Frankly...this question is like asking guys "Does it REALLY matter how tight she is? or how big her breasts are?"

    The question is going to get you a different answer from everyone you meet. I think size DOES matter....but not as much as men think it does. I would say that I wouldn't be satisfied with 2" but I certainly don't want 12"...except...really...if I loved him, it woudn't matter in the least.

    Edited because Frank and I were getting too close, "Frankly".

    Well, I will admit while Tighter feels better, but looser allows the fun to last much longer, I've known women who had mussel control that could clamp down so hard it almost hurt.. As far as breast size? I for one care less about size than I do shape. If they have a great shape then they are great even if they are an "A" cup like my wife. Who at 42 has natural breasts some 16 year old girls would envy.
  • Jun 11, 2007, 08:29 AM
    smoothy
    MummaCrash, I Haven't figured out how to comment on posts so here goes... While I find no issue with my wife's breast size she does despiratly wish she had C or D cups...
  • Jun 11, 2007, 02:55 PM
    hedgepig
    Not at all. Sometimes it can be too big (even small ones) when they're used wrong. Guys care too much. Gals don't! As long as it is there is all that matters.
  • Jun 11, 2007, 05:53 PM
    kirriky
    I'd say that with a certain range (15-20cm) skill matters much more than size. And outside that range, skill can do wonders.
    Another point is that there's also a visual/psychological side to it. When you first see/touch it, big can be hot and impressive, and small can be disappointing. But once in bed, small can be skilful and big clumsy.
  • Jun 11, 2007, 07:12 PM
    goldos mom
    I don't think size really matters, as long as he knows what he's doing and if he can keep it up for more than 5 minutes!, but, I would have to say that is nice to see something bigger than the regular, once in a while... I guess that's what porn is for. Just like men get tired of seeing the same ol' thing, some women get tired of seeing the same ol' size!! ;)

    To tell you the truth, the best I have had is a 6 inch, but,, I have had a 8-9 inch before,, and trust me,, they ARE interesting, and nice to look at!!
  • Jun 12, 2007, 12:38 AM
    Andreas_111
    Experts say it's the thickness not the length that matters more! At great lenghts it can even be painful for the woman!
  • Jun 13, 2007, 10:46 AM
    UnwantedHero
    Here's a quick question for the ladies... if there's big and small what about having small but fat or is long and thin better?
  • Jun 13, 2007, 12:52 PM
    atl-shygurl
    It sort of matters but if he doesn't know what to do with it then no it doesn't matter
  • Jun 13, 2007, 12:59 PM
    here4BD
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 919263
    OK, this is an age old question for the ladies...
    Does the size of the male organ matter??
    What in your opinion is the optimum size?

    There's no hard and fast rule... but I will say I wouldn't want anything bigger than an average size - 5 to 6 inches does everything I need - Plus - If you read the kama sutra you would note that not only penis size varies but also vaginal canals lengths and sizes vary - so maybe it's got more to do with "good fit". For any guys out there concerned cause they are maybe 2 or 3 inches - learn great techniques on how to use it - an enthusiastic skilled lover is better than a "dud" who's hung like a mule. Hope this helps.
  • Jun 14, 2007, 07:43 PM
    greenopal56
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by powerx7
    ok how about this girls....two guys both can use it equally well, but one is a couple inches bigger...which would you chose?

    Well, if the smaller guy looks like brad pitt and the bigger guy looks like a homeless person, I'm prob going to go for the smaller guy...

    If they are both equally good looking, aka not like homeless dudes, then it'll prob have 2 look at it over a personal level. Who am I more attracted to? So their actual size doesn't factor into the issue.
  • Jun 18, 2007, 12:50 PM
    Kattalover
    To me, length doesn't matter (well, it does when it's longer than 6" because then sex gets uncomfortable), but girth does. The thicker the better. In the end, though, it's the guy who matters, not the size of his equipment.
  • Nov 16, 2008, 06:12 AM
    hedgepig

    Sometimes it can be too big. Don't you think?
  • Nov 16, 2008, 10:04 AM
    kp2171
    The only thing id add here is while I think its most important a guy knows his lovers needs, likes, etc... I know two women personally who had an added mental charge because their men were well endowed... a woman with a bigger bra size doesn't make her more sexually gifted, but it might push the right buttons on us dumb males... likewise, a man who is bigger isn't necessarily more talented than one who isn't as well endowed, but the extra mental charge might make some difference.

    One friend, now divorced, lamented the loss of her ex's unit. He wasn't great in bed, wasn't good to her, but apparently his size and lasting power enabled her to get hers if she was willing to work for it. All she wanted in the divorce was her car, the house, and that piece of flesh at her convenience. Two out of three isn't bad, I guess...

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