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  • Jun 7, 2009, 07:07 AM
    MoodsterMan
    Its hard to ejaculate.
    I am 18 years old and I seem to have trouble ejaculating.. the only way I seem to be able to "Cuum" is when I masturbate or after a long time having sex. I have a pretty large penis.. and I was wondering would that have some sort of side effect to this whole situation? Are there pills I can take? Is it all in my mind? I need help.. :confused:
  • Jun 7, 2009, 07:40 AM
    griffers90

    Hi there chick don't worry you are not alone. Have you tried getting a lot of foreplay? This tends to help. If you feel that you are being selfish in sex try 69r this will allow you to both receive pleasure. Then when you come to the actual act of sex it might be easier for you to ejaculate.
    Also are you relaxing during sex? If not that will straightaway make it far harder for you to orgasm and ejaculate.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 07:53 AM
    bronzebabe

    The size of your penis has nothing to do with being able to ejaculate.
    Has this Always been the case? Have you always had trouble being able to have an orgasm?
    If so, you might want to see a doctor to see if there is a problem.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 11:58 AM
    griffers90

    Also side thought! How long is long ? Don't be embaressed! I'm 19 and I'm just thinking it might be your perception of a long time.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 12:17 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    If you do a lot of excessive masturbation you get so used to that feel, you control all the pressure that you get "hooked" onto the own feel of your hand so that other feelings don't do it for you as well.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 05:26 PM
    MoodsterMan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by griffers90 View Post
    Also side thought! How long is long ? don't be embaressed! I'm 19 and I'm just thinking it might be your perception of a long time.

    How long as in sex? Around an hour perhaps an hour and a half? Sometimes It dragged on to two hours.. at which point it was very hard to ejaculate because the side of my quads were warn out.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 05:27 PM
    MoodsterMan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    If you do alot of excessive masterbation you get so used to that feel, you control all the pressure that you get "hooked" onto the own feel of your hand so that other feelings don't do it for you as well.

    Do you think If I stopped masturbating so much that I would get those "feelings" back? Because right now my girlfriend who is 16.. wants to wait until she is 18. So I only ejaculate during masturbation .

    Help?
  • Jun 7, 2009, 05:44 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Well depending on where you live, you need to wait till she is 18, since many places it is illegal for a 16 year old to have sex.

    And personally unless both of you are ready to be parents you need to wait also.

    But yes, if you don't masterbate for a few weeks, it should be a lot easier.
  • Jun 7, 2009, 07:08 PM
    letmetellu

    If I masturbated for two hours I would be sore for a week, you need to find a better way.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 09:36 AM
    MoodsterMan

    When I do finally ejaculate... A lot comes out. Is this normal?
  • Jun 14, 2009, 10:52 AM
    real soldier
    And vitamin b12 and omega 3 will keep your sperm count up, so make sure you have your full daily allowence if not then %10 more then your daily allowence but have no less then %100 rda.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:02 AM
    nikosmom
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    and vitamin b12 and omega 3 will keep ur sperm count up, so make sure u have ur full daily allowence if not then %10 more then ur daily allowence but have no less then %100 rda.

    How does this address his question?

    I think the others have given some sound advice.
    1. Penis size has nothing to do with how fast you will climax
    2. Cut back on the masturbation
    3. If your GF is only 16, you shouldn't be having sex with her anyway

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by moodsterman
    When I do finally ejaculate... ALOT comes out. Is this normal?

    It may not be as much as you think it is. But if it seems to be "a lot", that may be normal for you.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:03 AM
    real soldier

    At the end of the day I've studied body science for 5 years so what you just said don't mean anything.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:06 AM
    nikosmom
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    at the end of the day ive studied body science for 5 years so wot u jsut sed dont mean anything.

    That's great but you didn't address his question.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:08 AM
    real soldier

    You should try penis workouts such as jelqing, if you masterbate to often your body becomes used ot it and the sensation will decrease, physically it won't but mentaly it will, and every time you masterbate you release male hormone, my suggeston for now is don't masterbate for a few days but get turned on with pornogrohpy or summin but don't masterbate, try it
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:10 AM
    real soldier
    And to increase your testoserone which will help, you have to get 8 hours sleep minimum and 11 hours maximum, don't eat within 2 hours of sleep , and don't have any sugar after exersice, you can before but not after.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:12 AM
    real soldier
    And the phycology of it, is that you may be so concerned that its on your mind during sex, and this won't help
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:14 AM
    real soldier
    You should have food such as gin seng, foo foo, horny goat cheese, and granola, it will increase sex drive you will be able to within 20 minutes and keep going afterwards
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:16 AM
    nikosmom

    Real soldier, I have no idea what thread you are answering because most of your answers make no sense in relation to the OP's questions. Please cite your references for the information you're doling out.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:17 AM
    nikosmom
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    you should have food such as gin seng, foo foo, horny goat cheese, and granola, it will increase sex drive you will be able to within 20 mins and keep going afterwards

    Where did the OP say anything about lacking sex-drive?
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:22 AM
    MoodsterMan

    My goodness my "friend" ? Are you trolling? I literally do not understand anything you are saying? Penis workouts? Horny Goat Cheese? And what does testosterone have to do with any of this? I am a 190 pounds bodybuilder, I have enough testosterone as it is, thank you.

    Thanks anyway man..
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:42 AM
    MoodsterMan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    and b.t.w , if i didnt know wot i was on about i wudnt waste my time with the longish lines and detailed sentences trying to help.

    Your "lines" are not detailed at all, they don't even make sense? I am sorry I just don't understand where I said I have a lack of sex drive? Lack of testosterone? I could really care less if you studied Social Sciences for five years, your grammar and redundant vague facts provoke otherwise.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 11:44 AM
    nikosmom
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    and b.t.w , if i didnt know wot i was on about i wudnt waste my time with the longish lines and detailed sentences trying to help.

    You haven't "wasted your time with 'detailed sentences' trying to help" because most of what you have written is chat speak, which is not allowed on the adult sexuality board.

    And by having studied "body science"... do you mean anatomy perhaps? Your [several] posts have been unhelpful and unclear, not addressing the questions directly.

    Again, if your claims are legitimate, post sites where this information is documented.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 12:01 PM
    mudweiser

    Kid you need to stop. I'm sure in "Body Science" class the teacher would rip your paper if you wrote like that. When you post answers like yours you should source your information, or else everybody would come up with "facts".

    As for Moodster; I would suggest going to your doctor. If you masturbate daily, I do suggest cutting back. Also, you shouldn't be worried about the amount of semen you are ejaculating.

    Sarah
  • Jun 14, 2009, 12:09 PM
    shazamataz

    REAL SOLDIER

    If you have something to say please do it in the ONE post, do not keep making post after post and spamming the thread.

    Also please stay on topic and answer the OP's question. No need to go off on tangents.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 12:09 PM
    MoodsterMan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    you should have food such as gin seng, foo foo, horny goat cheese, and granola, it will increase sex drive you will be able to within 20 mins and keep going afterwards


    Okay.. first off;

    Ginseng is used for diabetes and to treat sexual dysfunction in men. I have no problem getting an erection, I have a problem getting sexually evoked enough to ejaculate.

    Foo foo I am pretty sure is referenced as cocaine.. unless you are talking about the beated plant I don't know? I have no idea what foo foo does to sexual organs nor do I know where I would get any.

    Horny goat cheese.. I have never heard of. I have heard of Horny Goat Weed which is used in Asian countries as a substitute for Viagra. Again.. I have no problem getting an erection.

    Granola.. what properties does this type of mixed nut contain towards to being able to ejaculate? Granola is very bad for you as it is high in Saturated and Trans fats.. I couldn't even eat it if I wanted to.

    Your other comment;

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by real soldier View Post
    you should try penis workouts such as jelqing, if you masterbate to often ur body becomes used ot it and the sensation will decrease, physically it wont but mentaly it will, and everytime u masterbate u release male hormone, my suggeston for now is dont masterbate for a few days but get turned on with pornogrohpy or summin but dont masterbate, try it

    Jelqing is used for penis enlargement.. if you didn't read the OP I said "I have a pretty large penis" I don't want to increase my penis at all.

    The sensation that I get after masturbation is due to the relaxation of "the mussel" which is located in the penis. Every time you masturbate or get sexually aroused the brain releases Dopamine.. you don't lose this substance.

    And you are telling me to look at pornography while I have a girlfriend? All right there buddy, that is quite enough from you.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 02:34 PM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by MoodsterMan View Post
    ...Alright there buddy, that is quite enough from you.

    Moodster turns out Real Soldier is only 14. Here is his thread where he says so: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ng-363816.html

    I really doubt that he's studied Anatomy for 5 years, he's just begun high school.

    Sarah
  • Jun 14, 2009, 02:38 PM
    rodbisch

    It depends on what you consider a lot is?
  • Jun 14, 2009, 02:49 PM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rodbisch View Post
    It depends on what you consider a lot is?

    I searched online and found out that there isn't really an average amount of ejaculation. It can vary from 1+ teaspoons. It also depends on your age, the last time you ejaculated, your health and even genetics.

    Sarah

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