Ask Me Help Desk - I fake because my boyfriend is lacking a lot in size department.

I fake because my boyfriend is lacking A lot in size department.

Hi,
This is a bit embarrassing but I have been dating the most sweetest guy I've EVER met in my entire life. He is the perfect dream guy & treats me like a princess & tends to ALL my needs EXCEPT one.

I feel so bad because he is very small indeed but NOT TINY TINY just small & I waited a long time before I slept with him because I wanted to connect on a non sexual level & I fell for him hard, but the night we 1st had sex I didn't feel anything & I felt so horrible because he was trying so hard to please me & it was our 1st time together so I faked it & lied to him. I didn't want to tell him I felt nothing at all.. I almost cried because I felt so horrible and so bad for lying to him and I didn't think there was anything he could really do.

As I remember him telling me about how his ex's would make him feel so horrible when they told him how small he was and they found bigger better guys then him. He has always felt uncomfortable and very insecure in that department. I've told him what to do before but I just still never had one from vaginal sex with him and I feel so bad. He asked me repeatedly if his size is an issue for me and I've told him no to spear his feelings.
He does please me in other ways but I just wish I could have one from vaginal sex with him. I've been faking it for awhile now and I just have no idea about bringing it up with him. He is pretty sensitive :(

My question is how do I go about this whole situation without making him feel bad? And does size matter really? And if not what can he do when I just don't feel anything? :confused:

With a "smaller" man, I've found that it's better if you're on top. When you control the angle and pressure, a small penis is a wonderful thing. You have a G-spot about 11/2 inches in. Vaginal orgasms are not only possible, they can be much more intense without a big wanker in there assaulting and ramming away at your insides.

I would not tell him that his manhood is small. That's like a guy telling you that your boobs are too small!

Try introducing toys to your bedroom- have him pleasure you with them.

There are many positions that could help you when a man has a small jimmy:

-Doggy style: I don't need to explain that.

-The snake:Lay flat on your belly with your legs closed. Slip a pillow beneath your hips until so your bottom arches upward. He'll need to keep his knees bent, straddle your hips while maintaining an upright position and start pumping.

-The rabbit ears: Lay on your back, spread your thighs and draw your legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under your bottom, and have start pumping.

You can always Google "best sex position for small penises"

Sarah

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Originally Posted by simoneaugie

With a "smaller" man, I've found that it's better if you're on top. When you control the angle and pressure, a small penis is a wonderful thing. You have a G-spot about 11/2 inches in. Vaginal orgasms are not only possible, they can be much more intense without a big wanker in there assaulting delicate tissues.

I've been on top plenty of times and I've tried everything I "thought" I could do to try & have one but I just never do and I lose interest and get frustrated =/

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Originally Posted by KatiePlce

I've been on top plenty of times and ive tried everything I "thought" I could do to try & have one but i just never do and i lose interest and get frustrated =/

You need to be patient m'dear. Try some foreplay prior sex- get in the "mood".

Sarah

While on top, be sure to "row the boat." Bobbing up and down like it's a pogo stick is no good.

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

I would not tell him that his manhood is small. That's like a guy telling you that your boobs are too small!

Try introducing toys to your bedroom- have him pleasure you with them.

There are many positions that could help you when a man has a small jimmy:

-Doggy style: I don't need to explain that.

-The snake:Lay flat on your belly with your legs closed. Slip a pillow beneath your hips until so your bottom arches upward. He'll need to keep his knees bent, straddle your hips while maintaining an upright position and start pumping.

-The rabbit ears: Lay on your back, spread your thighs and draw your legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under your bottom, and have start pumping.

You can always google "best sex position for small penises"

Sarah

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That's a great idea I will try it & see if it works. I just feel like I've tried almost everything I could think of and I still haven't had one.

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Originally Posted by simoneaugie

While on top, be sure to "row the boat." Bobbing up and down like it's a pogo stick is no good.

I've tried that and it feels like it takes foorever to just feel it in there.. I have to focus really hard to feel it. I can't even bob up and down cause it falls out A lot =/

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Originally Posted by KatiePlce

I've tried that and it feels like it takes foorever to just feel it in there. I can't even bob up and down cause it falls out ALOT =/

I would think so.

This may be taking it too far but some couples do it so might as well suggest it.

How about swapping partners, group sex or swinging?

Just a thought..
Sarah

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

I would think so.

This may be taking it too far but some couples do it so might as well suggest it.

How about swapping partners, group sex or swinging?

Just a thought..
Sarah

That's a nono for both of us.. but he has brought this one thing to my attention awhile back about enlarging it with surgery, I was tempted at first but it felt wrong to ask him to do that and I just told him he didn't need it.

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Originally Posted by KatiePlce

Thats a nono for both of us.. but he has brought this one thing to my attention awhile back about enlarging it with surgery, i was tempted at first but it felt wrong to ask him to do that and I just told him he didnt need it.

So, if he wants to let him. If I were uncomfortable with my breast size I wouldn't want my partner to talk me out of it- because I would secretly resent him.

If he brings it up say "Whatever decision you make I support you, it's your body and you should do what makes you happy- I love you for who you are, not your penis size"

Sarah

There have been some really good suggestions about positions and techniques on this post.

May I suggest one more thing? Perhaps your emphasis on having a vaginal orgasm is too great. Explore other options for orgasm - clitoral, oral or mutual masturbation.

One you have variety as well as pleasure you won't feel so obsessed with what's wrong with your sexual relationship or the size of his penis.

Try and have some fun - good sex is about connection, not jut positions.

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Originally Posted by Gemini54

There have been some really good suggestions about positions and techniques on this post.

May I suggest one more thing? Perhaps your emphasis on having a vaginal orgasm is too great. Explore other options for orgasm - clitoral, oral or mutual masturbation.

One you have variety as well as pleasure you won't feel so obsessed with what's wrong with your sexual relationship or the size of his penis.

Try and have some fun - good sex is about connection, not jut positions.

I think I may be just one of those females who have a hard time having a vaginal orgasm... but how is smaller better?:confused:

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Originally Posted by KatiePlce

I think i may be just one of those females who have a hard time having a vaginal orgasm... but how is smaller better?:confused:

That's why you should try using toys. Don't get a dildo [it will emasculate him]- get a vibrator. There are also female "enhancers" that make you feel tingly and make sex a better experience for you- look for these in adult stores.

You really need to relax Katie. If your too focused on getting that orgasm you won't get it.

When it comes to penis size everyone has their own preference. So saying one is better than the other really has no meaning at all.

Sarah

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

That's why you should try using toys. Don't get a dildo [it will emasculate him]- get a vibrator. There are also female "enhancers" that make you feel tingly and make sex a better experience for you- look for these in adult stores.

You really need to relax Katie. If your too focused on getting that orgasm you won't get it.

When it comes to penis size everyone has their own preference. So saying one is better than the other really has no meaning at all.

Sarah

Thanks a lot everyone I really do appreciate all the suggestions :)

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Originally Posted by simoneaugie

With a "smaller" man, I've found that it's better if you're on top. When you control the angle and pressure, a small penis is a wonderful thing. You have a G-spot about 11/2 inches in. Vaginal orgasms are not only possible, they can be much more intense without a big wanker in there assaulting and ramming away at your insides.

I'd be worried if my g-spot was 11/2 inches in :eek:

MOST women have a VERY hard time having a vaginal orgasm.

Give up on it, in my opinion. You're trying too hard, you're not enjoying the trying, so you won't get there anyway.

Learn to enjoy the orgasms you DO have.

PS--quit faking orgasms. It's the worst lie you can ever tell in your relationship---because you're GOING to have to come clean with him about it at some point, and he's going to feel hurt and betrayed over the whole thing.

My friend who has this issue with her boyfriend introduced a dildo to the bedroom. Her man would insert it and his penis which pleased her.

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

my friend who has this issue with her bf introduced a dildo to the bedroom. Her man would insert it and his penis which pleased her.

I don't know about you, but wouldn't the man feel tiny bit emasculated?

Just a thought..
Sarah

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

I don't know about you, but wouldn't the man feel tiny bit emasculated?

Just a thought..
Sarah

When some men come to grips that their size is not a big size they are mature enough to understand it takes a little bit extra for them to please a woman. Plus I imagine the guy controlled the dildo so technically he does please her.

Size does not necessarily equal orgasm.
Large penises can be just as ineffective as small ones.

Lay on your back with your legs close together.Have him rub his penis in a downward motion ,starting from your clitoris.
Keep doing this with little if any penetration.When he gets to the vagina,have him go back up to the top of the clitoris and down again,repeat as needed.
Guide him to the right spot.With ample foreplay ,this should do the trick.

I know this is a sensitive subject and his feelings has been hurt in the past because of it but at least he tries to please you in other ways in the bedroom. That shows he is making an effort for what he is lacking.

Usually when women experience orgasms during sex, it usually has nothing to do with how far in a penis goes or how wide. Most women’s orgasms are clitoral, and are achieved when pressure from the man’s pelvic bone rubs against her. The G-spot (which needs to be stimulated in order for a vaginal orgasm to be achieved) doesn’t exist in every woman, but those who do have it can reach it with their finger.

Hopefully you can find something that will help ease this problem your having. Also, when your on top make should that your is being stimulated as well.

I agree with what everyone here is advising...
Let me say, MOST women never have an orgasm while having vaginal sex...
continue to experiment...his size doesn't really matter... my ex husband had a nice sized member and had NO idea what to do with it...my husband now isnt AS big, but let me say, he ROCKS! in the bedroom...
experiment!
it'll get better...

I don't think size really matters but if he isn't doing it for you sexualy maybe when you's are having sex play with yourself at the same time. That way your being satisfied and you don't hurt his feelings. Just a suggestion!

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Originally Posted by k3441

I don't think size really matters but if he isn't doing it for you sexualy maybe when you's are having sex play with yourself at the same time. That way your being satisfied and you don't hurt his feelings. Just a suggestion!

He says that ALL his female friends talk about how it does matter & most say it does. I never really thought so myself, but you hear about how it does and it makes you wonder maybe that's why, I guess its more of an excuse then anything on my part, ill try harder thanks for the advice :D

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Originally Posted by KatiePlce

He says that ALL his female friends talk about how it does matter & most say it does. I never really thought so myself, but you hear about how it does and it makes you wonder maybe thats why, i guess its more of an excuse then anything on my part, ill try harder thanks for the advice :D

What you have there is a bunch of immature GIRLS who say that. A small guy who knows how to sweet talk the women and knows what he's doing its going to be far better in bed that a well endowed guy who is a jerk and thinks all that's involved is insert, push pull repeat...

Or fior that matter a young but stunning woman who thinks she is gods gift to mankind and all she has to do is lay back and spread her legs because lord knows any guy in bed with her is lucky to be there.