How many guys out there think female lactation is attractive and why? How many of you would/have asked your girl friend to start lactating for sexual purposes?
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How many guys out there think female lactation is attractive and why? How many of you would/have asked your girl friend to start lactating for sexual purposes?
No sorry not me. Its not a turn off but not a turn on as well.
I've heard of guys that were into it... I think its cool as hell, but I'm otherwise not into it. Long story short... whatever floats your boat.
Hhmm cause one of my boy friends thought it would be cool if I did for him and as a plus I'd get bigger boobs!. anyways I just wanted to know how common it was.
You do realize that lactacting follows pregnancy, right?
How did your boyfriend hope for you to accomplish this? By getting pregnant? Not a good reason to have a baby. :(
Carol,
You've now asked about lactating as a turn on, posted about having an abortion/miscarriage, posted that you got caught having sex with your girlfriend in the piledriver position, asked about tubiligation because you don't want to get pregnant again, have issues talking to your boyfriend about sex in general, aren't sure you even LIKE guys, have posted that you've been raped and molested, and your story changes from issues regarding your CURRENT boyfriend and your PAST boyfriends.
My initial thought was that you were not being straight with us, and that this was all a joke for you to play on people on the internet.
My NEXT thought, however, is that you are VERY disturbed. I know you said you are waiting to get into counseling, but honey---you need to lay off on ALL of the sex stuff until you GET some counseling.
You don't know WHAT you want. You don't know how to communicate with your partner about sex--if you are disturbed by your boyfriend's fantasies, and you can't talk about it with him, then why the HELL are you screwing him? Or thinking about screwing him?
Get COUNSELING. Don't have sex. Don't even THINK about having sex. Your head needs to be fixed before you should do ANYTHING more that has to do with sex.
Who said you would get bigger boobs if you try to follow through on this plan?Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
I currently breast fed my son and my boobs haven't increase in size nor did it increase when I breast fed my daughter.
Also, are you and your boyfriend sharing this account because sometimes you answers questions by saying" my boyfriend and I then other times you say my girlfriend and I"?
OK apparently I've confused lots of people! So let me try to clear every thing up! First off Altenweg you can get pills to get you lactating and second I think all most any women can start lactating just by using a breast pump or having some one suckle from your breast even if you've never been pregnant before. Synnen I'm aware I ask lots of things and non of it is a joke some times I have panic attacks and start thinking crazy things and asking stupid questions and all kinds of s*** hits the fan.. I'm not sure of my sexuality but I do know I love current boy friend... as for his sexual fetish things I am kind of bothered by them not so much that he likes them but that I also like them and that weirds me out because I'm not sure if normal people should like those things! I have been raped I have been molested and I have been pregnant I lost the baby at 4 months! I did post something a while back about the whole issue of losing the baby because I didn't under stand what went wrong and it bothered me but that all happened to me when I was 15. I am now 19 in a relationship and trying to figure myself out. I have OCD, postpartum depression, and anxiety issues I'm currently taking pills for. I try very hard to keep my weird sexual interests to myself because I worry what other people will think of me when they find out how ever I have talked to my boyfriend about my sexual interests and his... *fyi he also has OCD*
liz28 my boyfriend said I would get bigger boobs if I was lactating he said it because I want bigger boobs. And no me and my boy friend are not sharing this account when I said that thing about my girl friend I meant my old girlfriend sorry to confuse you I dated her when I was 17. Hopefully this clears some stuff up...
Also my counseling starts in may its just a group that will help me learn to work with and control my anxiety. And then in October I'm going into another group for women who have been sexually abused. Its not as much help as I might need but it'll have to do I can't afford a therapist
Carol, your boyfriend told you wrong. You can't just start lactating because someone suckles your breasts. Milk production follows having a baby.
It understandable to have questions about your sexuality and to experiment but it does sound like good advice to hold off for a while until you're sure what you want.
As for some of the fetishes that your boyfriend may have, don't do anything that you're uncomfortable with. If he loves you as much as you love him then he won't push the issue.
You say you're taking pills for a number of psychological disorders... so aren't you receiving counselling at the time the pills are prescribed? It seems like a psychiatrist before prescribing meds would counsel you in order to make the best judgement regarding your treatment. So I don't understand why you say you won't enter counselling until May.
Call me crazy but I'm pretty sure you have to be pregnant and have a baby to lactate. Just using a breast pump won't make milk come out. You're breasts change during pregnancy and are able to lactate to support the life of your baby after it's born. It's not rational for your body to produce milk at any other time. Lactating if you've never been pregnant? It seems weird to me.
All because your boyfriend sucks on your breast doesn't mean milk will appear.
My fiancé suck on my nipples all the time and no milk comes out of it.
Also not every woman who produces milk gets larger boobs as a by-product. Some get larger, some stay the same. So lactation wouldn't necessarily guarantee you a larger cup size.
One thing to keep in mind is that for many women after the milk dries up, their breasts sag.
Yes I am aware of these things. And I never said I was going to try it.
Carol,
As to the issues I think you have, I think you've spoken up regarding quite a few of them.
I think your BIGGEST problem is that you NEED to get counseling regarding your rape/molestation.
You can find therapists that can work with you on a sliding scale. I really think you should ask your GP or OB/Gyn about a referral to one.
Look, just as I would never, EVER counsel someone to have sex if there was something PHYSICALLY wrong with them preventing them from being able to fully enjoy it, neither can I, in good conscience, support someone who is not mentally or emotionally unhealthy in regards to their sex lives --having sex.
OCD isn't helping, and your anxiety attacks are probably related to the whole situation.
I just really think there is more going on with you overall that is causing you to have serious doubts about everything in your sex life, which is why you're asking questions.
Let's put it this way: If you had cancer, would you ignore it because you can't afford the treatments? Well, the rape is causing a cancer of your emotions and your mental health. If you do NOT treat this, you will continue to have problems that could just get worse and worse.
Just wanted to add that if you live in the US you can call your local hospital and ask for the mental health clinic because most hospitals offer free counseling. At least the hospitals in my area do.
Also, if you have health insurance you can get a referral from your doctor to see a therapist and your insurance would cover it if the therapist okay it after your initial appointment.
I live in Canada... and I have no health insurance or any insurance what so ever.
Wait, am I missing something? Health care in Canada is funded and delivered through a publicly-funded health care system, with most services provided by private entities.Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
Well yeah I have health care but the doctor said it wouldn't cover the cost of a therapistQuote:
Originally Posted by 45notdaddy
What are you talking about?Quote:
Originally Posted by ihavecancer
SOME women (not all) can start lactating with enough of the correct type of stimulation but that takes time and has to be maintained. No I don't remember where I got that info and it is possible its innacurate.
Question is unless you both have some sort of fetish, then why?
Contrary to what your Boyfriend seems to think Lactation or having babies does not equal bigger boobs. Some get a temporary boost only to lose it and more afterwards... some get not boost at all... and a relatively few might get a boost that sticks around.
A bigger question is what's wrong with what you got now, and why is it so impportant to someone to change that?
Yes, it is possible depending on the females horomones. Some females can produce milk if they aren't pregnant due to, I believe it is called, hyperprolactinemia. Prolactin is the hormone that stimulates milk production.
I tried to find a site with more information on this issue but couldn't but I will continue looking and provide a link once I find one.
I'm beginning to question everything, just as Synnen did a page or 2 back.
First she's with a guy, then she's with a girl.
First she has NO health insurance whatsoever, then she has health insurance that won't pay for a therapist.
The issue here is that many people here are trying to help others by offering their advice and their time. Some people find it funny to make up stories and see what others have to say. My sister is one of those people; while I don't know if she frequents sites such as these, she has a major problem with compulsively lying and creates scenarios which never occurred. When you correct her on it, she gets angry and defensive and tells you that you're arguing with her. Her latest story is that she overheard my husband and I arguing in the next room... when we weren't even in the building.
So yes, it's frustrating to us when someone's stories seem cobbled together. It's not a nice feeling to extend a helping hand to someone just to find out they're laughing at you.
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Originally Posted by smoothy
Yes, it's possible - Lactation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This is NOT correct at all! I live in Canada, so you are not going to pull the wool over my eyes on this one. You go to your family Dr. which costs you nothing. You get a referral to a phychiatrist, phychologist, or whatever he recommends. It IS covered, so don't even try and tell me it's not. Also, you can go to Canadian Mental Health, and all counselling there is free. You can also go to the woman's shelter, where they have programs you can look into, and they will refer you. It's not only for abused women. This is also a free service. You are making excuses, because there are many resources and programs available to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
Good call Starby, I didn't see that.
Health care in Canada is paid by the Government, so you, you do have health insurance, just like every Canadian has health insurance, not matter what!
Did you think that there weren't any other Canadians here? Well, you guessed wrong.
I didn't think I had health insurance but I went and asked my mom and she told me we did I have no idea what it covers but when I talked to my doctor about it she said she didn't think it would cover a therapist... thats why I'm going to this group therapy the doctor sent me to because its free.
I don't get why you people think I'm making up stories? I am dating a guy OK! I didn't say I was with a girl I said one time I was doing stuff with my girl friend and my mom walked in then I tried to clear every ones confusion because every one seemed to think I was with a girl because I failed to specify that this story happened a while ago and I am no longer dating that girl...Quote:
Originally Posted by this8384
I am not making excuses I didn't know any of that stuff! My mom usually pays for all my appointments and makes them to because I can't drive and we live a ways from town.Quote:
Originally Posted by starbuck8
I am beginning to realize when some one like me starts to ask such questions it confuses other people, but I swear I'm not making any of this up I don't find this amusing! This is serious I have issues and I need help... I don't even know what all my issues are and I don't even know what kind of help to get or where to get it from I want to get help and deal with my problems and get better but I'm afraid.. what if there is something seriously wrong with me and they want to take me away from home and put me in some strange building full of crazy people and the only way I can see my loved ones is if they come visit me in a little white room! Would you guys want that? Would you want to be taken away from every thing your use to and love? I don't I'm afraid of myself and how deep my issues may go but I'm afraid to get help to...
How old are you? How long have you lived in Canada? Are you still in school?Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
Unless you just arrived in Canada a few weeks ago, you should know that health care in Canada is free. You do in fact have an health care card that all Canadians have. Your mother does not pay for doctors appointments as they are free, as are hospital visits, testing, everything.
You need to see a therapist, someone that can do testing and figure out what's going on. We can only talk to you, we cannot give you what you need most and that is professional help.
Please, go to your doctor, tell him/her what's going on and get help.
Good luck.
I am not in school I've lived in Canada my hole life I don't usually pay attention to that kind of stuff I'm busy dealing with myself and my family which is no easy task.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Carol, you seem like a lost soul and this is no way to go through life but I hope you find a way to face and deal with your problems and overcome them. It seems like you been through a lot and your really confusion right now but your mental health is very important.
If you can start counseling before October that will do a lot of justice for you. Try what Starbuck suggest by going to a shelter for help because they do offer a lot of free programs or Google free counselors/therapists in your area.
Best of Luck!
You have to realise why we are questioning some of the things that you have written. You did say that you are a lesbian, and that you are not attracted to men, but you have settled for your boyfriend. You talked about "Tranny's," and about how there are no gay or Tranny bars in your small town, and no gay people, which is likely improbable. You didn't write these things very long ago. This is just one of the reasons we need to respond like we do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
I believe you said you are 22. It's really time to start learning on your own about our health care system, and the resources that are at your disposal. Don't you want to be independent and do things instead of having your mother take care of everything? You are old enough to no longer be dependent on your mom. If you are old enough to be worrying about all of these relationship and sexual issues, you are old enough to be living on your own, and taking care of your own life. You are focusing too much on sexual issues. It sounds like you don't even have a drivers license, since you said that your Mom has to drive you to the next town to get to your Dr. Do you have a job? Are you doing anything to further your education?
I have a hard time believing that any qualified medical Dr. would make you wait until May, and then Oct. to get you some help with your issues. A Dr. just wouldn't do that unless you aren't telling your Dr. what you've told us, and if you haven't, you clearly need to. Also, if you don't have your health care card in your wallet, then you need to get it from your mother. You are required to carry that with you at all times, just like a drivers license. What do you use for ID?
So now it's up to you to make a Dr.'s appt. You have now got the info. Enough of talking about sexual issues and boyfriends and girlfriends, and lactating. You have more important things to focus on, so you can have a more productive life.
I'm not 22 I'm going on 19. I didn't say I was a lesbian I asked if I might be! But I cleared that issue up. I don't drive driving scares me. And I did go see a therapist he we talked he said its not a good idea for me to work until I get some issues sorted! So no I have no job yet. And I do have a care card. I am currently talking to a counselor and planning out what to do with myself.Quote:
Originally Posted by starbuck8
It's not uncommon for guys to be attracted by this, but it's not my cup of tea!
Have you read any other posts on this thread? If you have useful advice then post it. If not, please refrain. Please get to know this site before answering questions.Quote:
Originally Posted by lilmaninsc
Carol, we would like to help you, but please get your stories straight. You mentioned being disgusted by men and their body parts, you said flat out that you were at least bi, and thought you were a lesbian. You've said you have had more than one female partner. Then you mention being pregnant, but there was no baby. You didn't know what an ectopic pregnancy was, but that the ultrasound tech told you that the baby died. Then you said you had an abortion. Then you talk about your boyfriend having weird sexual fetishes such as "knife play,"... having sex with "pregnant women,"... this lactating fantasy, etc. and that you are going to have sex with him on this camping trip you are going on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroljj90
I have read everything you have written, so don't play with us. How are you all of a sudden seeing a counselor? You weren't earlier today. Do you remember we spoke about this? You also said you didn't have your health card, and that your mother took care of those things, and you didn't know anything about it. You said you didn't know that you could see one for free, and you didn't know about coverage at all. I doubt very much that you've seen a counselor in the past few hrs. You've been on the computer talking to us most of the day! The last you told us, you were enrolled in some therapy classes. One that is in May, and one in October!
If you are not going to tell us the truth, then we are all wasting our time here. Tell us the truth, and then maybe we can talk.
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Originally Posted by lilmaninsc
I note your other post refers to your math class. How old are you? This is an ADULT sexuality board.
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Originally Posted by Caroljj90
I can only assume that "sorting" out your issues would involve counseling, rather than posting about sex on the computer all day. When did you see this therapist?
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