OK when me and my husband have sex its very hard for him to get in. he says my vagina is too tight and sometimes it hurts him to stay in me. And on top of it I've already had a child so I don't understand why I would be tight. What's wrong? Why am I so tight down there?

Cause you're lucky. Did you have stitches after childbirth? Have you tried using lube during intercourse?

Yeah she tore me inside and I had to have stitches. Yeah and that doesn't really work either

Do you think they could have stitched a little too much? Was this an issue before she was born?

Well I wasn't with my husband then. And there wasn't an issue with my daughters dad after I had her but he was rather small

Perhaps he is just too big. That happens. I would suggest lots and lots of lube. Perhaps try different brands.

Nah he is about normal

I mean too big for you... Has this been an issue your entire marriage? Or is this new?

This is new it wasn't an issue that long ago

Foreplay?

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Are you under more stress lately? You could be squeezing muscles without realizing it... I think foreplay is a great idea. It will relax you, get you in the mood... Throw your inhibitions in the wind, be free, have fun.

Actually that makes it worse and I get tighter lol what's wrong with me

Is there something that you are uncomfortable with sex lately? Is he wanting to do something you don't? Have you gained or lost weight? Has he?

No not really. We have had a good relationship

Have you guys been trying to get pregnant again?

Yes we are trying right now to get pregnant. But it started before we were trying

But you probably knew before you suggested trying that you wanted another little rascal!:p It could be that you are stressed about not being able to conceive right away [read some other posts of yours], or you are focusing too hard on getting pregnant rather than enjoying the intimacy between you and your husband.

I would suggest lubes, oils, new positions... all that good stuff... Focus on making love to your husband, not on getting pregnant.

It's normal for the vagina to get tighter with arousal-- because the labia etc become engorged. I think maybe it's him, not the OP. Could he be having trouble getting in because he's not completely erect but doesn't want to acknowledge it? Just a thought. Having it hurt him does not sound normal either. The pressure of having to actually make a baby could easily affect his ability to stay hard, which would make it harder to get in and stay in, and possibly lead to discomfort for him, and then anxiety, which leads to you know what.

Hmm maybe

Just read that you are trying to get pregnant... were you ever on birth control? If so, when did you come off it?

I had an iud and I got it taken out in June

Ah, OK.

A relatively common side effect of coming off because is tightness...

If you were currently on mirena or any type of iud that secretes a hormone (mirena secretes progesterone) then your body will take time to adjust its hormone levels, and may make sexual arousal (in your case, dilation) harder.

Hmmm you are a smart one thanks

Why do you say that, I Sneeze? Tightness is not listed as a known side effect of Mirena, and drug because pretty much list everything anyone has ever reported as far as I know. Mirena Official FDA information, side effects and uses.

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Adverse Reactions
The most serious adverse reactions associated with the use of Mirena are discussed above in the WARNINGS and PRECAUTIONS sections. Very common adverse reactions (>1/10) include uterine/vaginal bleeding (including spotting, irregular bleeding, heavy bleeding, oligomenorrhea and amenorrhea) and ovarian cysts. Other adverse events are listed below using MedDRA (9.0) terms. Adverse reactions reported by 5% or more subjects include:
Abdominal/pelvic pain
Vaginal discharge
Nausea
Headache
Nervousness
Vulvovaginitis
Dysmenorrhea
Back pain
Weight increase
Breast pain/tenderness
Acne
Decreased libido
Depressed mood
Cervicitis/Papanicolaou smear normal, class II
Hypertension

Other relevant reported adverse reactions occurring in less than 5% of subjects include:
Migraine
Vomiting
Anemia
Dyspareunia
Alopecia
Eczema
Pruritis
Rash
Urticaria
Abdominal distension
Altered mood
Hirsutism
Edema

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Why do you say that, I Sneeze? Tightness is not listed as a known side effect of Mirena, and drug cos pretty much list everything anyone has ever reported as far as I know. Mirena Official FDA information, side effects and uses.

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Not even after you get off birthcontrol

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Why do you say that, I Sneeze? Tightness is not listed as a known side effect of Mirena, and drug cos pretty much list everything anyone has ever reported as far as I know. Mirena Official FDA information, side effects and uses.

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Actually if you look on the list you will see dyspareunia. This includes painful incourse, endometrosis, amongst other conditions. Here is a great link for this: Pelvic Pain and The Uterus - Symptoms, Causes and Treatment Options

Man I just don't know now

Click on the link I provided, read symptoms and such. Have you discussed this issue with your doctor?

Not really I got to the dr on the 22nd

Make sure to discuss this with your doctor.

Of course

Keep us updated!

But Angel doesn't have painful intercourse. Her husband does. (And he didn't use the iud/bc :)). I'm not trying to be flip. But this just doesn't add up for me. Vaginismus sounds possible, and there are websites devoted to that, but it also seems possible that he's having problems, especially as he's the one experiencing pain. Angel can check discretely next time they try to see how hard he is. If that's not the problem, it'll be easy to tell.

I say this because I've seen patients walking into clinics that have just come off the pill (in my case, it's usually the pill) and have been complaining about tightness. It's a wee bit of a stretch, but it's the best I can come up with.

Are you storing anything up in your vagina?? Like your wallet, or a can of green beans?


Anyway, sounds like your boyfriend is messing with your mind. :)

Have a good week,

Hi Angel,

I seem to recall reading something about this, actually I think it was in my Doctors surgery in one of there mags... problem page, anyway this couple had the same problem,and it turn out to be muscle spasms making the vagina totally tighten up, the patient was given meds to help her relax, the trouble being the more she worried the tighter it became.

I would go and see your GP see if there is something that can be done to help, you may get referred to a Gynecologist.

Hope you sort it out soon.

Speaking from a guy point of view. I don't think it's possible for it to be so tight that it hurts, if there is nothing wrong with the guy. I know it possible to squeeze as hard as you want with your hands and it's still not painful. I would think if it's any tighter than that and he would have entry problems more than anything else.

It is harder than hell for him to get in it takes him a good few minutes to get in.

I'm assuming you've tried a variety of positions and it's the same no matter what?

Well I agree with michealb its impossible to be too tight it hurts , isn't it the tighter the better?