Do women like giving a oral? Because being a man I always feel only I get pleasure. What does the girl get out of it?
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Do women like giving a oral? Because being a man I always feel only I get pleasure. What does the girl get out of it?
My wife does... I don't even have to beg for it. Besides she told me so. In fact I rarely have to even ask for one.
I do. It's a great feeling of power and control, really--and I like knowing that what I do turns my partner on, which turns me on even more in turn.
Of course, I like *receiving* oral too!
Some do, and get great pleasure from it, and some don't.
I like pleasuring my man. There's a certain sense of satisfaction knowing you can do exactly what he wants. That's all the pleasure that I need.
I loved to "feel up" my special boyfriends and could orgasm just from that.
I was never much for oral sex except for my husband, rather a really, really special man. :) I have to laugh, the night I lost my virginity, my boyfriend asked for oral sex, and so I went to it, only to hear laughter and, "It's not a corncob!" LOL!
Memories!
LOLOL!
My partner would probably say sometimes yes, sometimes no.
When I step out of the shower and she is waiting for me in the bath, motioning for me to come over to her Now... well, that's about the sexiest thing in the world. She's doing it just to get me off... right then, immediately.
Likewise, when I pull her hips to the edge of the bed at 5am and kiss her softly until she practically pulls at my head and makes it hard to breathe... well, its about the best damn way to start the day.
What does she get out of it when she goes down?
When its oral just to get me off, and not oral to precede intercourse, I think its part power and part kindness.
My partner knows I can get off in her anytime. There is no problem with that.
So she and I both see oral as a "gesture" of complete pleasure. Sure, I know if I can get her off orally that she is "primed" for sex... but I tend to think of oral as a "selfless act"... I LOVE seeing her arch her back and moan, I LOVE seeing her touch herself because she just cannot hold back.
Tell me that there is ANYTHING sexier than a woman getting off, with your mouth on her, and her hands on her breasts with her back arched... I think you are an idiot if you thing otherwise.
That said, why can't she feel the same about you getting off orally?
No, most women find it disgusting. However, love will make a woman do many strange things. But in general, NO Guys, don't fool yourselves in to believing otherwise. A woman may tell you they enjoy it, but the joy is in giving... not doing.
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Originally Posted by LifePaparazzi
Maybe I'm not most women, but I actually DO enjoy it.
Most of my female friends do, too.
Of course, none of us are in any way sexually repressed, either, and most of us have done things we never would have thought of doing when we were new to sex.
I enjoy it as well. I like knowing that I am the reason that my husband is pleased and satisfied. Giving him oral actually satisfies me as well. :)
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Originally Posted by Synnen
Well, then it may be a matter of up-bringing. But all the women I have been around, always told me they hated it.
Yeah, not all women hate it, actually I would say more women enjoy it, knowing that they can please their man in other ways. I actually like the taste of come, it tastes kind of like a milkshake with a little salt and a touch of lemon. Plus, it's good for you! :)
My exp is that its all over the place concerning like/dislike.
One woman who was all but a sex fanatic... she could get off all the time, anywhere... disliked oral to completion for the man. She thought he ought to just go in the bath and finish the job off himself. She was lucky she was good in bed otherwise.. it was a terrible mentality. Lucky for her she was sexy as sin.
That said, as always, a person should only do what they are comfortable enough trying. We all explore our sexual boundaries in increments. What was once unreasonable or unthinkable becomes desirable and even needed.
If sex is just about the big O, then anything less than that is a failure... which is a waste of time and effort. I love to hit that climax with my lover holding me and controlling me as much as the next man, but if its just an "obligatory" act that isn't enjoyed, then its really not about sex. At least not healthy, good sex.
Some girls gave me oral sex so much it turned me off after a awhile some would not even consider it. But the best sex I ever had was the in love sex then nothing like that matters.
I have no doubt some don't like it... but I wouldn't go as far as saying most don't.Quote:
Originally Posted by LifePaparazzi
That's the same as saying most guys don't like going down on their lady. Obviously there will be some that don't but not all or even most.
I'll go out on a limb and say most women that won't have a lot of other inhibitions as well. That's been my experience over the last 30 years since my first time.
I LOVE IT. I love feeling that power. I can go as fast or slow as I want, just to know that my husband is enjoying every min of it just makes me want him more, then when I can't take it I jump him. But its wired he does not want it all the time. Somedays he just wants to do it.
Do men like getting BJs from us? Or do you just want to by pass it sometimes and just "do it"?
Men probably want a bj more than anything
I do it, he likes it, I don't,
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Originally Posted by LifePaparazzi
When men say that most or all women find something of a sexual nature disgusting I have found the problem is with them, not the women they know - usually the problem is hygiene.
The women they are discussing this with are speaking of THEM, not ALL men, just not using those terms.
Following you around I'm coming to the conclusion that you just have to be the opposition.
However, life that is so not true. Ive had girls devour my private. They could not get enough. I don't know what planet you are from paparazzi. You're obviously from the computer world.
That is crazy. Women love it. If they were not in the mood its because they did it so much and needed a break. You must not be all that attractive because they lied to you,
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Originally Posted by jasondbel
You stated above in your comment that you have been following me around, thread to thread. And you have.
Why?
And the only opinions in the World are not yours -
I like to give it too... I must say that it is a turn off for me if he asks for it though!
No, I have no enjoyment what so ever. It makes me gag and it hurts my neck but I do it anyway because my husband loves it.
Well, that's twice now you have been rude to me jasondbel. Hey, I gave MY opinion from MY part of the globe. Sorry you don't like it. But just because I disagree, does not make me ugly or a prude. So, get a grip here, this is a forum to discuss things, not a battleground for your insults, please. Maybe you are just not mature enough to talk about these subjects.Quote:
Originally Posted by jasondbel
Hear hear, that's how I feel about it. It could be that some women have a better oral structure then others and lower gag reflexes. So, I guess this question might be a toss up, with half yea and half nay. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by sassyT
OK. Lets end this once and for all...
Some women get off giving a man oral, some women think its worse than cleaning the toilet.
As for what it does for the woman... it can range from getting him off and sexually empowering her to disgusting her and making her want to vomit.
Hey... isn't life great?
Just got to find your own kind of weird.
You can work past that gag reflex over time by a process of desensitization. Every day for a few moments you get it to a position where you would gag... hold it as long as you can then pull away. Or in a smooth motion go past that point and out before you get a chance to gag.. You only need to do this once or twice each time... over a period you will find you can do it deeper and longer without being as quick to gag. Eventually you will have control of the reflex... but you have to do this with him just laying there. You need to be in complete control as to when, how fast and how deep for this to work. Its 90% mental.Quote:
Originally Posted by LifePaparazzi
As to sore neck? Try different positions. Everything from being towards he feet, to along side him, and depending on your weight to laying on top of him in a 69 position. One or more of those will be a more comfortable position for you, they all obviously can't be.
Between you and him depending on if it point to the sky, the ground or to the left or right will effect which might be best for you.
Half of it is finding a comfortable position...
To each their own. But I personally love the power and connection that I feel when I am pleasing my husband. It is amazing to see a 6'2" guy totally putty in my hands.
I love him, all of him, so why not make all of him feel good.
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Originally Posted by smoothy
Thank you.
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Originally Posted by LifePaparazzi
You are right - we are here only to share - not to make comments on others experiences
It's like asking the question: do women like goat cheese?
... some do. Some don't.
Why goat cheese? I have no idea... quite possibly because my room currently smells like goat cheese...
I got to clean.
I enjoy giving my husband oral also.. Its partially because I know that I can do what makes him feel awesome! And knowing that I give him that kind of pleasure really turns me on... I get completely excited!
I don't like receiving oral sex, (spare me from the line "It hasn't been done right.") but I adore giving it. A little self-manipulation while going down on a man, and I can get off every time!:D
It is something strictly prohibited by religion, you donot have to do immoral things like having oral just for your satisfaction; everybody should learn how to fight against his/her satisfaction; if someone asks us to do an immoral act, only for satisfaction, first think whether it is good or bad morally, then commit yourself to that act; DO NOT FORGET WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS, NOT ANIMALS
While I appreciate your religious views, I don't share them. <Woof Woof>
Yikes, I almost don't want to answer this but here goes. I personally do not enjoy it, but my reason may sound strange to allot of you. Someone posted that they enjoyed it because it made them feel power or put them in a powerful position, I feel exactly the opposite. I do have control issues (I was raped when I was 18) and cannot be in a position that makes me feel like I have no control, and that's how I feel when giving oral. Oh, just so I don't sound like an old fuddy duddy, anything else goes, just not oral. Boy, did I just say too much?:o
I like it when I have control.and they taste good... Just a note to guys... please be clean... you don't want them to hurl at the smell...
Applies to women as well... man the odors that can come from there can gag the dead. :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by l12
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