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When my husband and I do have sex ( which isn't offen ) he wants me to have multiple Orgasm, but after the first one, which is really strong, it's hard to have a second one. I have told him that I need to rest at least ten minutes but he doesn't want me to wait, he just want me to have one after another like if he's having a contest with his self to see how many times he can get me to have one. Any idea?
It may be he just wants to please you! But you need to tell him you will not have any orgasm if he has his pad and pen out keeping track of how many... As that would take some of the magic away from the mo'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobbie Ann
That's the truth. You said your first orgasm is very strong. How do you know its not multiple orgasms all rolled into one? That can happen.
Some women feel complete after one orgasm and are not interested in seconds or thirds. For some women, the first orgasm is the strongest and the rest are milder, for others, it's just the opposite. You don't require another one, and if you try to force yourself, it won't be very pleasurable. Tell your husband to stop pressuring you into having another orgasm right away. Let him know that you will need to take a break before the next one. All that is really important is that you enjoy yourselves.
Hi,
You have received some good answers before mine.
If your husband continues to bring up this with you, you might consider talking with him about going to a Professional Marriage Counselor, together.
I don't mean you marriage is in trouble, please don't get me wrong.
But, a marriage counselor can help work out things like this. It does sound as if your husband wants too much out of your sexual relationship, or doesn't understand what he is asking. A counselor might be able to help him understand, and help work it out with you both. I do wish you the best of luck.
He is playing a foolish game with you. You can only have one. One that is really good. Some women do not even orgasm. Orgasm is not the most important experience that there is. There is the making love. Being satisified. If you are satisfied then he needs to know that is it. If he is not that there is other things that can be done to satisfy him if you want to.
Joe
You know what it is you. They have everyone thinking that all women are supposed to have one after the other and so he thinks she's supposed to do that too. He probably thinks that he's not doing something right because of it and that's why he's pressuring her. So he needs to be reducated on the fact that the people saying this are wrong. He should be happy that she has one intense one.
Just tell him that you can not force yourself to have another one after the one you had a few seconds ago!
Next time you have sex and he cums, tell him to have another one immediately, then you two can discuss his problem.
How about if you don't seem to ever get an orgasm?? What could we be doing wrong? He always cums but I don't
Well, it may be that your husband needs to enforce some more foreplay or start using foreplay. This a huge and if he hits the right spots, then you will have maximum results. Believe!!
I think the idea of multiple orgasims are a bit overated. Everyone thinks that woman are suppose to have them. But I don't think they are that common like everyone thinks they are. Most of the time I think that the first one is probably a few wrapped up into one. Sometimes Illl have one that lasts longer than normal. But I never expirenced one and then another one a few minutes later. Your husband shouldn't pressure you into having "multiples" its not that easy to do consciously. Hey if you get one big one that should be enough to satisfy both partners.:D
You can either fake a few or tell him he needs to work harder,if he balks tell him it was his idea in the first place and he better live up to his word,If he's still alive after a few hours slap him cross his head and tell him you ain't finished yet! By this time he should be ready to listen to reason!:cool: :rolleyes: :eek:
I never even thought of that idea. That is an awsome idea, I hear some women do that anyway to make their man think they are doing the job right. FAKING ORGASM. HOPE you can pretend well.
The only thing about faking is it might make him more determined for you to have them all the time.:eek:
The big difference between faking them and actually "trying" to have multiple orgasms, is that even if your guy expects it all the time, there is really no pressure on you to have more when you fake them. Its better than really trying at it and not succeeding and getting frustrated. There is nothing wrong with a little fake "oohing and ahhing" to get it done.
No harm at all :)Quote:
Originally Posted by bizygurl
It is possible to have multiple orgasms if you are relaxed and not under pressure from your husband. It is not right for him to demand more of you if you're "spent" after the first one. You can't have an orgasm under pressure; it just causes frustration and may eventually cause resentment toward him for putting this kind of pressure on you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobbie Ann
Is it possible to have spontaneous orgasms. For no reason what so ever, it can happen to me. Not when I'm with my husband, but all by myself, and I haven't been trying to do it, it just happens.
It's like one in a million, but is possible. Take this subject up with your doctor, you'll get reassured that there is nothing wrong with you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Chanceymoe
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifSome of us would consider you a lucky girl!
Recently I was on another site and heard some very implausible claims about multiple O's... I mean as far fetched as Bat Boy and Elvis Spotted in Topeka! In my opinion, a lot of people feel so pressured now to perform like porn stars, or what they read about, they exaggerate... and worse, add to the pressure and end up with Nothing.
A couple of suggestions. If you're not very sexually experienced you might not know WHAT is the best way for you. Some women "O" more often in certain positions, or get turned on enough by different things. (I had a friend who could only "O" if she was on top, and facing his feet because she had an inverted uterus.) You might consider buying a book like the Kama Sutra to experiment with different positions and aids. Or, if you're adventurous, rent a few porn movies. Just remind your husband not to take their fake "O's" too seriously!! Even if you don't "O" right away you'll have a lot of fun trying new things and exploring together.
If none of that works, you might consider being checked by an OB/Gyn to make sure there's no physical reason for the trouble. If there's nothing physically wrong, you might benefit from counciling together, and separately, especially if you have a history of sexual abuse or fear of sexual activity for any reason. As another example, I had a college friend who couldn't "O" because she was phobically terrified of child birth. In her mind, sex=pregnancy=child birth, so sex was not enjoyable for her, no matter how much protection she used.
But the MOST IMPORTANT!!!!! thing is for your husband to let you relax! If you can't relax and enjoy it, it's not going to happen. The more he pressures you because of his unrealistic expectations, the more problem you're going to have. He needs to realize it's the Journey that matters most, not the destination.
He may benefit from being reminded that, for men, sex begins when they take their clothes off. For women, it begins in the morning and ends after the act. Being more affectionate and attentive to your needs, kissing and cuddling, enjoying some quiet time together before going to bed, would help you get in the mood easier, relax more and potentially have more "O's"
Dear Bobbie Ann. If he is an educated man, and cares about you, he is making unrealistic demands on you or expects you to be a great actress. Does he realize that if he keeps this up, it will totally turn you off to him due to his selfishness?Quote:
Originally Posted by Bobbie Ann
He evidently got his experience from way off base or a bad movie. Men also have to wait - as has been stated before, so he should realize that we women need time to absorb the 'aftershock' and regenerate too.
If he does not listen to your opinion on this issue, print out this thread and let him read it, or, ask him to see a professional to get the real 'scoop' on what he's demanding from you. Don't be shy in telling him what he's doing to you as this is a type of abuse which should be stopped or he'll lose you.
It's time that he accepts you as an equal partner in this marriage and get his head set straight.
I just got through reading some of your other posts, and remembered that you mentioned him having pictures of other women and also watching movies on the web. Also about the infrequent sex. So, may I suggest you talk to a professional about this, or if you can see one together - because if not, then you will eventually lose interest in him and look for someone else - I can see that coming because you need someone that cares for you - and it's apparent that at this point your husband is not at all the caring, loving partner he should be. He is practically driving you into seeking warmer arms to surround you.
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifWishing you all the best! Keep us posted.
Do not hurry. Your girl friend need time in order to have another orgasm. Don't rush her. Have sex is for both to enjoy not being at a personel competition.
Don't worry about your husband and his desire for you to have seconds. If you *** once and are completekly satisfied then then only thing for you to do then is to try your best to make sure that he is satisfied. If it takes a little Ohhing and Awwing and a few dirty words in his ear to finish him off do it and don't worry about you cuming again. Of course if you are trying to make sure that you get him off it could bring you to the spot of having another. But what ever he is lucky to have you and you with the attitude that you have...
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Originally Posted by nwsflash
the best way to have multiple orgasm=>> is with g-spot stimulation, so teach your husband because After a clitoral orgasm, most ladies will poke you in the eye if you even look at her again. After clitoral orgasm the became to sentitive to touch or pressure but G-ogasms are different. So you start with clitoral until the vagina is lubricates then you start to play with g spot
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4 those of u who don't know what it is or where its at or what to do your in luck. The g-spot is probably 1 of the most sensative sexual organs in the females whitch is located about 3-4 inches in the whitch is round to touch and lize is about quarter to nicle in size, going in with only 1 fingure will not work as well so use your index and middle fingure. Both fingures facing up and u will probably still not find it but yes it is located on the top so get it closer to yourself. To do that use your index fingure to press just on top on the inside whitch will move the g-spot a little closer to you. Use your middle finger to get befind the g-spot not moving your index fingure yet, then once u got the g-spot in your grasp get your index fingure also behind it (that is if you can reach it if u can't then use your middle fingure) then press on it as hard as you can buy now she will be screaming... no not in pain u jackass in pleasure -_-... your lucky woman will love u more and more knowing that u know how to please her. She will have about 5-30 orgasms depending on how well you've done your work. Still there's a lot more to know then just that. Here's the second way to do it. 1st make shure your woman is verry turned on and ready for you then (heres a neat trick to make a woman feel like you're ing her in the without the pain) turn your fingures around 180 degrees and start rubbing and pressing lightly on the skin and she will go nuts. After about 3 min of that shell want more so start moving both the fingures up and down rapidly hitting the g-spot and her other pleasure point after about 20-30 min of working her she will be soaking wet and barrely be able to move... this means its your time to do w.e. the hell you want!!
my gf: "..."
me: "whats wrong had too much of me playing with your g-spot and now u can't even talk?"
my gf: "(with a half dead and happy voice)yeah..."
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hey this is my chick talk=>>
I am a female and I am telling you that the g spot is real. Put your fingers in the vagina, with your palm up. An inch or two in, you will feel a rough spot on the wall of the vagina. More your fingers in a sort of "come hither" motion, rubbing this spot. (This doesn't work on virgins because the g spot is above the hymen)
Ooooo baby, hit my g spot now and I'll do anything you want. A beer, a blowjob, all while watching that football game...
The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the outside or anterior wall. That is it – no mystery, no nothing – that is the G-spot. It is not like the lost city of Atlantis or some beautiful, secret area run by the CIA.
The G-spot feels like a ribbed “bump”, almost like the roof of your mouth. The G-spot swells from the size of a pea to the size of a bottle cap when stimulated.
To produce a G-gasm – a G-spot orgasm, versus a orgasm – you need direct stimulation of the G-spot with fingers, thumb, penis or dildo. The advantage of G-gasms is that most women are capable of dozens per session. After a clitoral orgasm, most ladies will poke you in the eye if you even look at her again. G-gasms are different.
A good guideline to remember will be to show the some mercy but to be merciless when it comes to the G-Spot! Within reason, most women will appreciate a harsher approach to the G-Spot. Beat a man’s fully engorged erect cock with a sledgehammer, and he’ll say, “ohhh … that feels great!”
Same with G-spot - she’ll be a puddle …. Or a lake.
"Holy … what the ? How did you do that?" Gloria asked, totally dazed after a dozen or so G-gasm
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That's insane, why bring another individual to this issue, its like telling these people that THEIR MARRIAGE IS INDEED IN TROUBLE, otherwise why bring up the Marriage Counselor. You don't bring up marriage Counselor if the couple can work things out themselves.
The husband may just simply wanted the wife to enjoy sex more, and for the wife, you need to talk to your husband that it is not necessary to a million times to prove that you are enjoying sex with him, you have to assure him this. This is just a sign that your husband is not measuring up, in short, a little insecure on that part (sex/pleasuring you).
When he sex stops, then that's when you go the marriage Counselor. But then again, I don't believe on a third party intervention, the only people who knows you very well.. is yourself!
I will not pay someone I do not know, to sit there, bull us, tell us what to do, and tell us that what we're doing is wrong blah, blah, blah. to top it all ;a marriage Counselor, who hasn't been married or has been through tons of relationship one after another, now that's full of crap!
Relationship is between two people, not three, thank you!
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Originally Posted by fredg
This question is really old.
Anyway, don't let your husband push you around sexually...
Hang on, HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS??
Maybe its just me but, WHAT DO YOU WANT??
Oh brother.. I'm getting too old for this.
Yes, this topic is as old as the oldest profession. G-spot allows multiples whereas clitoral stimulation usually does not.
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