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  • May 2, 2012, 11:52 AM
    JudyKayTee
    There's an excuse for every suggestion. WG, 100 posts and no resolution.

    Time to close?
  • May 2, 2012, 11:56 AM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    There's an excuse for every suggestion. WG, 100 posts and no resolution.

    Time to close?

    He's going to read a book and report what he thinks of it. New thread then?
  • May 2, 2012, 12:19 PM
    OneDude79
    Judy, you were helpful then started being pretty nasty to me. I am trying to be a good husband here.

    Wondergirl, you're living up to your name, however. :)

    Close the thread, but can I please get an answer to one more question?

    My concerns about the word "fine" can someone address that?

    Thanks.
  • May 2, 2012, 12:20 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    He's going to read a book and report what he thinks of it. New thread then?

    Yup. Sounds good.
  • May 2, 2012, 12:27 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post
    Wondergirl, you're living up to your name, however. :)

    Actually, I called myself that when I registered for this site because in Libraryland and in counseling I wonder a lot about people and situations and stuff. Since 1998 when I joined my first web site and community, I've always been CeeBee which I wish I could change my name to here.
    Quote:

    My concerns about the word "fine" can someone address that?
    If your wife made chocolate chip cookies and you ate several still warm from the oven, with gooey, melty chocolate, and told her they are "fine," what would she think?
  • May 2, 2012, 12:33 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Actually, I called myself that when I registered for this site because in Libraryland and in counseling I wonder a lot about people and situations and stuff. Since 1998 when I joined my first web site and community, I've always been CeeBee which I wish I could change my name to here.

    If your wife made chocolate chip cookies and you ate several still warm from the oven, with gooey, melty chocolate, and told her they are "fine," what would she think?

    I wouldn't say they were fine. I'd say they were good. That's kind of my point.

    I'd say "fine" if they were average and I think she'd know that they were acceptable but not great.
  • May 2, 2012, 12:35 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    If your wife made chocolate chip cookies and you ate several still warm from the oven, with gooey, melty chocolate, and told her they are "fine," what would she think?

    Hit "enter" too soon. I did in fact do that. We were making Christmas cookies and they got a little burned. She knew they were a little burned.

    I said "they're a bit burned but fine." That did not mean the same thing as if I'd have said they were great or good.
  • May 2, 2012, 12:35 PM
    FirstChair
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post

    Close the thread, but can I please get an answer to one more question?

    My concerns about the word "fine" can someone address that??

    Thanks.

    Here you go...

    "Fine"
    This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

    [This is just for fun... or is it.]

    http://www.nowpublic.com/culture/wha...e-really-means
  • May 2, 2012, 12:45 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by FirstChair View Post
    Here you go...

    "Fine"
    This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

    [This is just for fun...or is it.]

    What a Woman Says... and What She Really Means | NowPublic News Coverage

    Although you're using humor, you kind of get my point!!
  • May 2, 2012, 12:47 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post
    Hit "enter" too soon. I did in fact do that. We were making Christmas cookies and they got a little burned. She knew they were a little burned.

    I said "they're a bit burned but fine." That did not mean the same thing as if I'd have said they were great or good.

    You know though, maybe the reason I think this is that I have a more expressive, enthusiastic personality than she does. Not a bad or good thing, just a difference between us.
  • May 2, 2012, 12:50 PM
    OneDude79
    What people really mean when they say they are “FINE”

    Illustrates what my concern is.
  • May 2, 2012, 01:06 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post
    Judy, you were helpful then started being pretty nasty to me. I am trying to be a good husband here.

    Wondergirl, you're living up to your name, however. :)

    Close the thread, but can I please get an answer to one more question?

    My concerns about the word "fine" can someone address that??

    Thanks.


    I'm not being "pretty nasty." You post on a public board you get all sorts of opinions and answers.

    By the way - I'm an investigator. I have great "spidey senses." Someone came to me with your story and I know exactly how I'd proceed.

    But that's for another thread.
  • May 2, 2012, 01:07 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I'm not being "pretty nasty." You post on a public board you get all sorts of opinions and answers.

    By the way - I'm an investigator. I have great "spidey senses." Someone came to me with your story and I know exactly how I'd proceed.

    But that's for another thread.

    You mean you think I'm lying or making stuff up? Believe me, I'm not.
  • May 2, 2012, 01:10 PM
    OneDude79
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I'm not being "pretty nasty." You post on a public board you get all sorts of opinions and answers.

    By the way - I'm an investigator. I have great "spidey senses." Someone came to me with your story and I know exactly how I'd proceed.

    But that's for another thread.

    I'm not getting that. You said sit down and talk (over coffee was how you said you do it) and then not to ask her "how it was" since I do it too much.

    I get that. I'm not sure why you think I 'get a thrill' out of posting stuff. I am trying to answer questions.

    What do you mean by how you'd proceed? As the husband, or the wife?
  • May 2, 2012, 01:13 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post
    You know though, maybe the reason I think this is that I have a more expressive, enthusiastic personality than she does. Not a bad or good thing, just a difference between us.

    Maybe it's the Italian in you coming out. ;)
  • May 2, 2012, 01:18 PM
    FirstChair
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by OneDude79 View Post

    Well I see what you think about your wife when she says, "Fine"

    F.I.N.E.

    Freaked Out!

    Insecure!

    Neurotic

    Emotional

    Maybe this is YOU... just say'n
  • May 2, 2012, 01:23 PM
    Wondergirl
    I'm closing this thread -- too much chat and no problems being solved (yet) after 11 pages.

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