True enough smoothy, we are off topic. I do agree, but also stongly disagree with most of what you said, but back to Strippers, and Adult sexuality.

Sww420, Talk to your husband and let him know how you are feeling. Open and honest seems to be wisest. If he does not resipricate, well it's up to you to decide what to do, counseling may help but other than that, I'm not sure what may help.

Peace and kindness.

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Originally Posted by Nestorian

True enough smoothy, we are off topic. I do agree, but also stongly disagree with most of what you said, but back to Strippers, and Adult sexuality.

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Well I base my comments on 47 years of personal actual life experience in more than one country, city or state. Also having hung out with some extremely diverse crowds during those years. So they may vary from the eperience of someone who has not traveled extensively or lived abroad for a substantial period with different cultures. Or from the contents of a textbook regurgitated at some University. Life is hugely far different than what the perspective of a college professor might lead you to believe it is.

I've actually intimately known heroin addicts, Drug dealers, Prominent Motorcycle Gang members, prostitutes, dancers, Doctors, Surgeons, High ranking Politicians from more than one country, Fortune 500 Company CEO's, Attourny Generals, muderers, Rich, and dirt poor people including people from more countries than I can remember, people who never had formal schooling to people with PHD's. I've spent a year where the only time I met someone that spoke english was on the telephone.


Just wanted to toss a little perspective on where I am coming from and why my perspective may seem so different than what some of you learned in a classroom or have personally experienced.

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See here the dancers or go-go girls are not to dance or make contact with the men (usually with escorts they can)... and I could understand how you feel in light of that. But you have to let it go... it isn't often he goes and so, let him go do his guy thing - he is coming home to you anyhow. I had a pretty crazy bachelorett... the guys do the touching, dancing, etc (women are far worse and rowdy then men - well I think anyhow) and I would have been upset if my hubby questioned my loyalty. You can express to him how it makes you feel and start accepting it yourself... booze, women, sexual encounters, sexual content, all those hard-on's (I have worked as an on floor waitress at the joint and they usually get so excited can't leave the table for a while until they calm down) NO WONDER THEY SPILL THE BEER!! Hahaha, just kidding - but it doesn't hurt to have fun with the idea :). Don't think about it, it is much easier for you this way because in your heart you KNOW he won't cheat on you and you know how much you and this relationship mean to him. I had issues too... I became numb to the idea and emotions - it has helped. Now I am trying to do that with everyone else... sometimes removal of emotions allows you to see it as it really is.

Give up trying to understand guys... just as they try to understand us... it isn't going to happen and you will have to make compromises... honestly use your energy elsewhere - maybe work it off at the gym or buy something nice and say "I am Worth It!".

Good luck.