Ask Me Help Desk - At what point is the husband unfaithful?

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Originally Posted by Pushtumpa

My question is this:

at what part in this scenario is the husband unfaithful:

1. Husband smiles at girl in bar
2. Husband chats to girl in bar
3. Husband flirts with girl in bar
4. Husband touches arm of girl in bar
5. Husband touches leg of girl in bar
6. Husband touches of girl in bar
7. Husmand masturbates in shower, thinking of the girl he met in the bar
8. Husband has`sex with wife but thinks of the the girl he met in bar
9. Husband has oral sex with girl he met in bar
10 Husband has sex with girl he met in bar

At what point is the wife unfaithful?

My question is this: at what part in this scenario is the husband unfaithful:

1 Wife smiles at a guy in a bar.
2. Wife chats with a guy in a bar.
3. Wife flirts with a guy in a bar.
4. Wife touches arm of a guy in a bar.
5. Wfie touches leg of a guy in a bar.
6. Wife touches a guy in a bar.
7. Wife masturbates n shower, thinking of guy she met in bar.
8. Wife has sex with husband, thinking about guy she met in a bar.
9. Wife has oral sex with guy she met in a bar.
10. Wife has sex with a guy she met in a bar.

Now it is time for you to answer . What do you think.

It would be the same for either males or females with me.. Numbers Nine and Ten. Though depending on the type of leg touching that one could be questionable at times...

I wouldn't want my mans hands all over some girl he met in the bar. Think about it, would you want her hands all over some guy in a bar? If the girl was a good friend I could see you being more of "touchyfeely" type as an actual sign of affection for a friend. But if your touching some woman you don't even know in a bar, in a flirty way that's a show of your intentions. That's just how I feel about it.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

This thread just got a whole lot stranger and a whole lot more confusing.

If you think THIS is confusing, read the other threads this person (a trained psychologist, as I recall) started!

When the best sex of your life is sex you have to pay for, you have problems beyond those anyone here can help with.

At what part in this scenario is the husband unfaithful:

1. Husband smiles at girl in bar
No problem
2. Husband chats to girl in bar
No problem
3. Husband flirts with girl in bar
No problem
4. Husband touches arm of girl in bar
No problem
5. Husband touches leg of girl in bar
Problem
6. Husband touches of girl in bar
Touches what??
7. Husband masturbates in shower, thinking of the girl he met in the bar
No problem
8. Husband has`sex with wife but thinks of the girl he met in bar
No problem
SO FAR SO GOOD, BUT THEN,
9. Husband has oral sex with girl he met in bar
Big Problem
10 Husband has sex with girl he met in bar
Big problem.

I do have to agree with the OP that name calling is not necessary.

Be more creative in your insults than "dog", in my opinion.

I'd ALSO like to point out to the OP that I said from the get-go that cheating is defined by the people in the relationship.

If you are not asking questions about personal situations, but are instead making up hypothetical situations just to get a rise out of people---that's called being a troll, and I won't stand for it.

Please clarify whether you are trying to start a discussion (in which case the thread should be in Member Discussions) or whether this is really a situation you need help with.

Since the question was posed to apply to the woman as well?
Personally, I feel the same point is true either with the man or the woman. I don't differentiate. I still feel #9 is where that line is crossed. Fantasy is fine... everyone normal fantasizes, at least those who are not obessesed with someone. But when fantasy becomes reality that line is crossed. I view oral sex as sex, doesn't matter which socket the light is plugged into, once its on, its on, there are no semantics as to certain sockets being OK but not others.

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Originally Posted by Pushtumpa

So my wife cannot complain if I flirt all night with girls in bars?

Would you complain if she flirted all night with guys? I just started to read this threat and that got right on my nerves. Why would you feel like you need to flirt with other girls all night?

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Would you complain if she flirted all night with guys? I just started to read this threat and that got right on my nerves. Why would you feel like you need to flirt with other girls all night?

I think "Flirting" needs to be defined a little better. Depending on the definition the list would no longer be progressive however.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

I think "Flirting" needs to be defined a little better. Depending on the definition the list would no longer be progressive however.

True, everyone has a different opinion on flirting.

To some people it is complimenting someone on their clothing

To other people it is saying "hey nice boobs"