Yes but when you try it are you relaxed?

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Originally Posted by liz28

Yes but when you try it are you relaxed?

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I have been so relaxed I've nearly been in a coma,an inch later and my bottom muscles just spasm... im open to the idea (no pun intended),but.. ach,I don't know.. ive no hang ups about sex,but ill keep the idea on the table.

I love anal. As long as its with the right person, lots of lube and they start gently. My boyfriend and I have been together eight years and it was not until the fourth year we were together when he asked if we wanted to experiment with it (on him not me) he said that if I did he wouldn't mind trying. Now he's extremely homophobic and used to say the act would make him "gay" now he realizes that its not the act it's the person your doing it with. I have my own strap-on (for female to female "fun") and we went out and bought a smaller one for us to try. Now that he's done it a few times he loves the feeling. Occasionally we ask each other if we would like to try new things and if we both agree we go for it. I have yet to come across something I wouldn't try (except for anything illegal or morally wrong) though some fetishes I've heard of completely turn me off. (as I write this he is sitting here laughing at me because I am trying not to use imporoper wording)

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Originally Posted by redhed35

i have been so relaxed ive nearly been in a coma,an inch later and my bottom muscles just spasm...im open to the idea (no pun intended),but..ach,i dont know..ive no hang ups about sex,but ill keep the idea on the table.

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You aren't as relaxed as you think you are if your sphincter is spasming... you need a bit more practice with learning concience control over involuntary reflex action. When you do learn that you will not have those spasms, at all. You don't learn that overnight... but converesly it really doesn't take all that long either.

I am very lucky to have such an open minded boyfriend. Sometimes I wish every guy was as open minded though