Fr_Chuck: They did not cover the end of her crib facing their bed. They do not have blankets large enough to do that for one thing, and my daughter admitted to me that her 18 month old was not even looking at them, which told me that the end of her crib was not covered. Even though she did not look, she still has ears and can hear. Myself, having one of my kids in the room would definitely kill the mood for sex. My daughter did get mad at me for saying what I did, but they used poor judgement and I let her know that. I am glad that you agree with me that this is my home and that what they did is not the way things are done here. Most people on here have disagreed with me. I do a lot of things for the them and the babies, a lot more than most gramdmothers would do. I was raised to believe that when you have kids you don't always get to do what you want to do when you want to do it. I sure didn't raising my kids. This is the point I was trying to get across to others on here. I do give them some alone time, but they are not satisfied with what time I give them. I have things of my own to do and can't always help them out. It is not only stressful for them living here, but it is stressful for me as well and I need some alone time as well and don't always get it when I need it. Thank you for responding Fr Chuck.

While I'm not disagreeing with Chuck, I'd have to see the wording of the statute to see how it would apply.

But I certainly doubt is a prosecutor would take the case. One of the things people fail to understand about our legal system is that a large portion of reported crimes never get prosecuted. This is because the prosecutors office has to decide where to put its limited resources. So there is a prioritization and many crimes get dropped because there is not enough of a case or the crime is too minor.

Basic simple thing here is they are responsible for raising their own kids. You may not like or agree with some things. Odds are few people ever completely agree on that even in the same family.

THere are idiots out there that think its perfectly fine for a 5 or 6 year old to still be nursing. Now for example I think that's just plain sick because those kids are plenty old enough. Not like kids that aren't even two years old yet. Who were not being given a free show. I knew one woman who's son still slept with her every night STILL at 4 years old. Now that's wrong as well, but its her kid. I don't know if or when it stopped as she is no longer in my circle of friends.

If what they are doing is so grievous its dangerous to the kids in some manner then call the authorities... otherwise let them raise their own kids.

Smoothy, I am done on this issue. The problem has been taken care of. Yes I do agree with what you said in this message.

Trust me I get caught in the Middle of my Mom and my adult brother all the time. Both are strong willed. We all are. Thus this sort of conflict. Its because we all care about others.

Hello lioness:

I been reading here... I thought you was done yesterday... I guess you like arguing... But, I'm glad you're still hanging around, so I TOO can tell you that you're wrong.

You keep on saying that she's your daughter and this is YOUR house so you can set the rules... But, you can't. I know, you don't like that... But, it's true.

In terms of the LAW, your daughter and her family are TENANTS, and as such, are protected by your states landlord tenant law. That gives them a WHOLE lot of rights, including requiring YOU to give them notice when you enter THEIR room...

I wish THEY were our clients, instead of you. I'd tell them how to retaliate against you for, not only being a lousy mom, but being a lousy landlord.

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excon-They are not paying rent in this house, and yes this is my house. The problem has been resolved. You don't know me so you don't know how I am as a parent/grandparent. I do all kinds of things for my daughter and my granddaughters. I made sure those babies had a Christmas. I change diapers, I babysit, I give baths, etc. I am a good mother. You were not there when I was raising my kids so you have no right calling me a lousy mother. I took good care of my kids- fed them, clothed them, got up with them during the night, I stood up for them when others ridiculed them. Yes, they are tenants of a sort, but they are not paying rent, and my husband and I as landlords have rights, too. If I feel that they are treating their kids wrong, I will speak up and tell them so. I do love those little girls very much. There are people who would disagree with you about your perception of me. You don't know me and you have not walked a mile in my shoes. No one but God has a right to judge me. I only keep on because I am provoked from the likes of you. FR_Chuck agrees with me about the my house my rules thing. I will not have my daughter and her hubby telling me what to do in my own home. Yes, it is their place to raise those girls, but that does not give them the right to walk all over me like a doormat and tell me what to do and when to do it. By the way, why are you an ex-con?

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They are not paying rent in this house, and yes this is my house.... By the way, why are you an ex-con?

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Hello again, lioness:

Do they receive MAIL at your house?? They DO?? They're TENANTS.

I don't care that you changed their diapers when they were little. THAT'S what parents are SUPPOSED to do. It doesn't give you license to run their lives TODAY. It's your behavior, and your words TODAY that I'm judging you by.

Why am I an excon?? I broke the law. Are you looking for a reason to judge me?? Have at it.

excon

Not much to say that hasn't been said. Of course, it probably isn't the best thing to have sex while your child watches. (keep in mind the child is an infant and won't remember) also it sounds like you don't need advice, any advice that was given to you from the last 6-7 posters you just fired back with an excuse and explanation.

You have to negotiate a time to fit ALL needs, if you love your granddaughters you will sacrifice more time for your daughter and her HUSBAND to be intimate. I know going through hard times, your spouse and your affection is sometimes the only thig that keep someone afloat.

Think outside the box and embrace the opportunity at watching your grandbabies more often (whether you think you do enough or not) and also helping your DAUGHTER with this hard situation!

Hope this helps!

Closed.

This is no longer about helping the OP, but about arguments back and forth.

It is ALSO not about Adult Sexuality, but about family law.

I suggest at this point that another thread be opened in "family law" or under "parenting" if the OP still feels she needs help with this situation.