Ask Me Help Desk - How to confront boyfriend on porn... found on accident?

If you we're,to carry this computer to the police station and the images were what you say, he would be arrested. That is without question. Now some sites cater to young looking woman ( some you can swear are in early teens) and they are legit. It is hard to look nine. This is serious. Often when you look at porn it is an escalating practice as the thrill is decreased the more you look t it. A naked women, then a tied up naked woman, a tied up and abused etc etc.

Also with the Internet etc you become desensitized more quickly. Having said that, he may have it but not be a pedophile BUT the law makes no distinction. So you decide what to do... but it is a bad choice either way. Also if the Internet is in your name, those are your pictures.also deleting them will leave traces. Throw the computer out, or call the cops.

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Originally Posted by Ahj60

If you we're,to carry this computer to the police station and the images were what you say, he would be arrested. That is without question. Now some sites cater to young looking woman ( some you can swear are in early teens) and they are legit. It is hard to look nine. This is serious. Often when you look at porn it is an escalating practice as the thrill is decreased the more you look t it. A naked women, then a tied up naked woman, a tied up and abused etc etc.

Also with the Internet etc you become desensitized more quickly. Having said that, he may have it but not be a pedophile BUT the law makes no distinction. So you decide what to do....but it is a bad choice either way. Also if the Internet is in your name, those are your pictures.also deleting them will leave traces. Throw the computer out, or call the cops.

And if she does call the cops and NOTHING is illegal... I hope he goes after her will every legal recourse he as... and at the very least put her out. Because NO person who went behind my back like that would get to sleep under my rood one more night... because that is an incredible act of betrayal... because people who willingly commoit crimes rarely leave the evidence in plain sight... I.E. a car thief doesn't keep several hot cars parked in his driveway... and a prostitute doesn't put a big sign in the front yard describing her prices and services.

And it might be rare... but its not that hard... there are three very much adult (as in OVER 18) porn stars that are under 5 foot... maybe 80 lbs... and at best a Triple A cup... one was absolutely flat chested... 2 of the three that come to mind are Asian.

Young adults looking 8 or 9 might be common, but they would have to try hard to NOT look very young... so what would you suggest, they date 14 year old boys because they look so young... because apparently adult men that might actually date them would be accused of being pedophiles by a certain few people here... so the alternative is this women should be expected to be completely asexual and celibate for no reason other then they were unfortunate enough to have not fully developed like say... Anna Nicole Smith did?

Besides I find it humorous that women with low self esteem and a chip on their shoulder the size of s skyscraper have an business telling the rest of us who are normal without such huge biases... what porn does and doesn't do to us...

No it doesn't desensitize us. I've looked at it since I first discovered what fun the male penis could be... which is nearly 40 years now... and I'm a downright prude when it comes to sex compared to the average 20 something that don't think blowjobs are actually sex... And that a girl can give head and anal sex every day for years but consider herself a virgin because she avoided vaginal sex, or that has sex with three or more different people... sometimes in the same day... much less at the same time.

It hasn't desensitized me at all... and most of us without personal issues will say the same.

For the people so quick to assume he is guilty knowing nothing about this really... and seriously, nothing has really been proven other than someone pregnant and hormonal glanced at something she didn't like while snooping around when she shouldn't have been had she been respectful.

Lets just hope sometime soon someone accuses YOU of something heinous so you can get a chance of proving your innocence. And find out how hard it really is to prove a negative...

Because... it CAN happen.

If she carries the computer to the police station, she would be arrested, since she has possession of the computer, in fact he would just claim she put it all there if police asked.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

And it might be rare...but its not that hard....there are three very much adult (as in OVER 18) porn stars that are under 5 foot....maybe 80 lbs....and at best a Triple A cup....one was absolutely flat chested....2 of the three that come to mind are Asian.

Young adults looking 8 or 9 might be common, but they would have to try hard to NOT look very young.....so what would you suggest, they date 14 year old boys because they look so young....because apparently adult men that might actually date them would be accused of being pedophiles by a certain few people here.....so the alternative is this women should be expected to be completely asexual and celibate for no reason other then they were unfortunate enough to have not fully developed like say...Anna Nicole Smith did?

So what there are porn stars under 5 ft, flat chested, and 80 lbs! That means nothing. I highly doubt they look 9 years old. You can be completely flat chested, super short and thin and look like a woman. I have 2 cousins built exactly like that. They are 5 ft at most and 90 lbs. They look their age (mid 20's and 19).

Just because someone is flat chested and tiny doesn't mean they can pull off looking like a little kid. That's an insult to many women with tiny builds. No matter the build, a 9 year old's face looks so freaking young. Their face looks like a little girl. I understand plenty people do look younger than they are. But if this is so common please list some porn stars who are legal but look like pre pubescent 9 year olds.

The second paragraph I quoted from you was complete NONSENSE. You said what should these young women who look like kids do, date 14 year olds? And be asexual (I know you were being sarcastic). Um no. And you said according to some of us if these young adults with tiny builds dated men their age we'd think the men were pedophiles. Give me a break. I'd like to know where are all these young adults that look like little children??

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

If she carries the computer to the police station, she would be arrested, since she has possession of the computer, in fact he would just claim she put it all there if police asked.

If she stumbles upon this "kiddie" porn and bring the evidence (computer) to the police station, she will be arrested?

On what grounds? She would be supplying the police with evidence. How would she be at fault?

I disagree with you that she would be arrested.

Chuck may be correct. It might simply be taken as an admission of guilt, especially if this data is stored on her account IP address. When matters are this important, it is best not to open a door if you don't know what is behind it. With all due respect to police officers, just like all other people, some are reasonable and cooperative and some are not.

And now we have the whole other factor of another person who has received and forwarded the porn getting arrested, OP's computer being seized and now these posts are on that same computer's memory.

Suddenly OP is a co-conspirator IF we are talking about child porn.

When was the last time OP responded? It's been a while...

Perhaps she is dealing with this situation, which could be why she has not responded.

The bottom line is that if SHE does not know for sure the age of these girls, then how are we supposed to know?

I really hope she comes back for an update. For the first time ever on AMHD I feel we ALL need some sort of closure on this thread.

Maybe we should also refrain from further comments to avoid completely hijacking his thread, and debating each other personally.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

And if she does call the cops and NOTHING is illegal...I hope he goes after her will every legal recourse he as....and at the very least put her out. Because NO person who went behind my back like that would get to sleep under my rood one more night.....because that is an incredible act of betrayal...because people who willingly commoit crimes rarely leave the evidence in plain sight....I.E. a car thief doesn't keep several hot cars parked in his driveway....and a prostitute doesn't put a big sign in the front yard describing her prices and services.

And it might be rare...but its not that hard....there are three very much adult (as in OVER 18) porn stars that are under 5 foot....maybe 80 lbs....and at best a Triple A cup....one was absolutely flat chested....2 of the three that come to mind are Asian.

Young adults looking 8 or 9 might be common, but they would have to try hard to NOT look very young.....so what would you suggest, they date 14 year old boys because they look so young....because apparently adult men that might actually date them would be accused of being pedophiles by a certain few people here.....so the alternative is this women should be expected to be completely asexual and celibate for no reason other then they were unfortunate enough to have not fully developed like say...Anna Nicole Smith did?

Besides I find it humorous that women with low self esteem and a chip on their shoulder the size of s skyscraper have an business telling the rest of us who are normal without such huge biases...what porn does and doesn't do to us....

No it doesn't desensitize us. I've looked at it since I first discovered what fun the male penis could be...which is nearly 40 years now.....and I'm a downright prude when it comes to sex compared to the average 20 something that don't think blowjobs are actually sex....And that a girl can give head and anal sex every day for years but consider herself a virgin because she avoided vaginal sex, or that has sex with three or more different people....sometimes in the same day....much less at the same time.

It hasn't desensitized me at all.....and most of us without personal issues will say the same.

For the people so quick to assume he is guilty knowing nothing about this really....and seriously, nothing has really been proven other than someone pregnant and hormonal glanced at something she didn't like while snooping around when she shouldn't have been had she been respectful.

Lets just hope sometime soon someone accuses YOU of something heinous so you can get a chance of proving your innocence. And find out how hard it really is to prove a negative....

Because.....it CAN happen.

"It hasn't desensitized me at all.....and most of us without personal issues will say the same"

It may not have, but it made you paranoid. The person said she saw what she thought was child porn. My comment about taking it to the police was to show there is a large difference between porn, even the stuff that try's to look young and real child porn. The cops do nothing with one and you have major problems.

As far as your dumb comment about three pornstars that look young (it's scary you can describe them) that is interesting. Since I don't know, I looked up female pornstars and I read that at any one time there are 1200-1500 registered with different agencies. So out of 1200-1500 women you say there are three. Really? If you immediately know 3 out of 1200-1500 I would worry I might be watching more than I think.

Child porn is not porn. It is not a betrayal, it is a crime.

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Originally Posted by Ahj60

"It hasn't desensitized me at all.....and most of us without personal issues will say the same"

It may not have, but it made you paranoid. The person said she saw what she thought was child porn. My comment about taking it to the police was to show there is a large difference between porn, even the stuff that try's to look young and real child porn. The cops do nothing with one and you have major problems.

As far as your dumb comment about three pornstars that look young (it's scary you can describe them) that is interesting. Since I don't know, I looked up female pornstars and I read that at any one time there are 1200-1500 registered with different agencies. So out of 1200-1500 women you say there are three. Really? If you immediately know 3 out of 1200-1500 I would worry I might be watching more than I think.

Child porn is not porn. It is not a betrayal, it is a crime.

Really... its amazing how you are able to do something nobody else on this thread is capable of... knowing what exactly is Reallyt is really on that hard drive... or do you work as a fortune teller as a profession? Or is it you really don't care... you feel you are entitled to be judge, jury and exicutioner?

You spew one rude comment after another... you really are an unpleasent person, aren't you. Some previous ones have already been removed.

Incidentally... you've been reported.