Sweetie he sounds really weird. I'm having problems of my own, but it could be the age difference. Maybe he's having some erectional disfunctions? You just never know what the case could be. Men are so private at times. They can get very offended when confronted with sex issues. If you could break up with him over this I suggest you do. If you can't see yourself without him, I hope he gets help for your sake. Good luck and I feel your pain.

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Right now you are deluding yourself that this isn't a major issue. Fact is anything that is an irritant will only continue to be an irritant, and in fact grow in time to be a major irritant. FEW, and I really mean very few people will be happy abstaining from sex. Hell you could joint the Monestary or Convent if you wanted to do that.

In fact why get married at all if you don't EXPECT to have sex regularly. And Sleeping with the neighbor in a few years to get your itch scratched isn't an acceptible solution because you know this now before you go that far.

Divorce should be far harder to get because people blindly going into marriages knowing major problems like this that think it will magically go away or cease being important.

And YES I do firmly believe ONE issue is all it takes to discard a person from being considered for the position of Spouse.

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I do see this as a big enough issue to end our relationship over. I agree with you that regular sex is expected in a marriage. I never said I would go into a marriage and think this will magically disappear, my hope is we can work through this. Which, after our talk tonight I feel we are making major progress. We are going away this weekend and intend on work through this. He recognizes now how much this is hurting our relationship. There is no medical reason behind it, just simply that he feels he is not able to satisfy me. Now, I have to do my part in making sure he KNOWS that I am enjoying it so he doesn't feel worthless in the bedroom. We both are playing a part in this, we are working TOGETHER as a team to make this work out... neither one of us want to end this over something that can be fix(which this can be fixed it is just going to take some work on both of our parts)

I completely AGREE with how easily people just go get a divorce. It should NOT be so easy to obtain. I believe that once I am married, that's it. It is ONLY them, nobody else. To death do we part... I would never cheat either, I would never let it go that far. I really appreciate your feed back smoothy. I would like you to know that we also aren't planning on getting married until ALL of our issues are solved. We are only doing this ONCE. Marriage is not a game, it is serious, I just wish more people shared this point of view.

First off, you are only just reaching full maturity (age 24), whereas he reached it six years ago. He's entering into his time where his physical reaction to stress becomes much more evident.

Managing Your Man’s Stress

He's like due for a complete physical, including stress and depression screen.

The Stages of a Man’s Healthcare Needs “Routine Screening” needs based upon age

Though you're not married, these books will be of help:

Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage

Woman Power: Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life

Thank you I will definitely check these books out.

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Thank you I will definitely check these books out.

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