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Originally Posted by DMA
Interesting that you see all this, good on you mate! I say. Here is a little more for you. Sorry that it starts so early on in the thread. I hope it helps you understand what is going on in your body as well as your head. Good luck.
Blake Cory - “The doctor but he can’t help you with the addiction…” I have to disagree with this, a Psychologist or psychiatrist may be just what you need, some one to help you find a way to back up, pick up the pieces one at a time and examine your triggers and how to control the responses you give to them. Like in Behaviourism, when they do shaping. Pretty much you replace unwanted behaviour with desired behaviours by giving the “shapee” (person you are trying to shape.) a reward for behaving in the desired manner. No reward for the “shapee” behaving in an undesired manner. This is just a small part of it, it’s a little more complex but that’s the basic idea.
“I’ve watched porn become girlfriends, affairs, strippers, hookers, molestation and rape. I don’t think that the porn is the problem. Addiction to porn is just a symptom of the brokenness we hide inside.”
As for this statement, I’d have to agree and disagree with the idea that the porn isn’t the problem. When a person is addicted to porn they feel the need to watch it while seeking to pleasure themselves. The Neurotransmitter dopamine is released into our brains and cause us to feel that pleasure, so why do you feel the need to watch porn, because you masturbated so often when watching porn it seems to be a necessary part of the pleasure. The pleasure of masturbation rewards the behaviour of watching the porn, but after a time the regular porn becomes less and less interesting, so you may seek out newer wilder porn, like molestation and rape, etc. (some do, others don’t.) The perversion can be caused by as BlakeCory says, a wound, being anything from lack of attention from a parent, to being raped as a child, or some other perversion.
K, I’m totally running out of time here, sorry, I’ll come back later and finish this, but my suggestion to the OP is to read a book called “the brain that changes its’ self” Chapter 4 “acquiring tastes and love” It will go into far deeper detail about why your mind works the way it does and how it affects the way you behave and if you keep reading, since it uses a story similar to that of your own, it may give you insight as to how to over come this issue, and get to the heart of the problem. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX, and if some one says there is, yes it may be a quick fix but a quick fix means a quick relapse. Try talking to a theorist, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. They can’t fix the problem for you, but hopefully you’ll co-operate with them and they can help by pointing out what you can’t see. I’ll add more later. Peace.
