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Originally Posted by EuRa

I wonder if it's the same for all women, or does each woman differ? My sex drive is higher than my mates. Sometimes she's in the mood, often times she's not. So I'm wondering: What gets you ladies in the mood?

Background: Im 27, she's 26. We've been together for almost 2 years now, we see each other on the weekends, soon to move in together (April).

Ideas?

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I find neck touching. Back rubbing and fingers massaging my face gets me going every time. That and dirty talk combined I'm a goner

Eura
So how did Valentines Day Go??

Everyone has some great advice and ideas.

Women are a strange breed, (I can say this I am one), one moment we don't want it, then we do, then we can't get enough, lol

I am in my 40's and I am now over the child bearing years and no longer afraid of getting pregnant, am settled in my career, we have the mortgage almost paid off. These issues and some others were a concern for me 24 years ago, so sex everyday wasn't a high priority - just a thought?

Your g/f might be seeing your needs as sex - not love making, and is only doing it to please you and your needs, (yes, a lot of women will do this), take a step back and let her take the initiative for a change?

Dinner at a lovely restaurant, an expensive gift, and some savoir faire in the bedroom.

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Originally Posted by EuRa

I wonder if it's the same for all women, or does each woman differ? My sex drive is higher than my mates. Sometimes she's in the mood, often times she's not. So I'm wondering: What gets you ladies in the mood?

Background: Im 27, she's 26. We've been together for almost 2 years now, we see each other on the weekends, soon to move in together (April).

Ideas?

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Suggest you spoil her the best you know how - then ask her.

She won't find it easy to answer: and, remember, the answer is not always the same.

A man that can make me feel loved and desired does it every time: but in a l/t relationship, to show this seems to get harder for men to achieve...

Good luck - glad you care enough to ask the question!

I think no pressure is the only way to get her in the mood.

Anything else is 'payment'. By that I mean a fancy dinner, massage, etc. She knows what the motive is.

Making a big deal of it with displays of affection only adds more pressure.

If she's in the mood, she's in the mood. If she isn't, she isn't.

My problem is the other way around. I'm way more into sex than my boyfriend is, and we're both 18. I was the one at the beginning of the relationship that wanted sex 3 times a day and usually got it. Now I'm lucky if he really wants to do it every other day. However, I'm just saying that all people are different, and if you've been together for two years, you should know by now what makes her happy. And maybe she isn't as into sex as you are. Full body massages not only help to relax, but they help to get in the mood. If you aren't dedicated to putting her in the mood three times a day, maybe you should stick back and keep it to one. Less often makes me want it more, and if it's more spread out, it feels much better. I know that I'm not as experienced, but I have to go through turning my man on usually. Dedicate time into foreplay, too.

Another way to keep a relationship interesting is to buy a love coupon book. Then she would be able to give you the coupon when she feels in the mood and get what she wants. It's pretty win-win.

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