So... what? He got you an engagement ring, and then broke up with you? That's... odd. It's like buying you brand new shoes and then amputating your legs. That's uncool.

Not. Worth. It.

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Originally Posted by Emm Lura

Just an update, he got me an engagement ring for Christmas. And he broke up with me.

Now I'm all alone and I have nowhere to go. I can't handle this heartache.

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I think that's what he planned to do Confuse the heck out of you. He sure confuses me, as it makes no sense.

I love you all so much. You are the best. I love all you that are concerned with me.

Now I'm not much of an expert at this kind of stuff but I think this would be the prognosis...

I think that the stress of us living together and not having much time apart was a key factor in this argument. Also, I think we were both a little high strung about the engagement thing. And maybe event the stress of Christmas plans piling up on us. So I stayed a few nights with my best friend Cynthia and let us both have time to think.

Boy did that help! We told each other that we both have our faults and we just need to learn how to compromise. (We are both kind of hard headed. Me because I've done so much for myself my whole life and him because he's been spoiled his whole life and expects life to be handed to him on a platter.) I told him that because of my past and the pain and suffering I have endured makes me the way I am. I blow up over little stupid things and that might also be my bipolar disorder. I have temper tantrums and I may more than occasionaly throw stuff around the house. That seemed to be what my mother did every time she got upset but usually it wound up being her trying to beat the poop out of her boyfriend or current husband. And that is one thing I refuse to do. I will not hit him or another human. And this is the reason, I'm scared that all my pent up aggression will seriously injure someone and I love people. I do not want to cause harm to anyone.

I truly believe that things will work out. I love him more than anything and he loves me. Stress is very hard on a relationship. Compromise is hard to do sometimes too. Maybe I do flip out about stupid things a little to easily and maybe he is afraid to stand up to his friends because he's afraid that he will lose them so he does put them first a lot.

It's all about trying to help each other learn what pushes our buttons and steering clear of those things.

(Oh yeah, by the way, I left him a note with some of the advice that I have received from you all explaining what my little needs are and that he should try and start fullfilling them or I will quit fullfilling his :D and the sex has been AMAAAAAAAAZING ever since.)

I just wanted to thank you all for your help and I love every time I see a new answer on here because I have learned so much.

Thank you thank you thank you.

Maybe he is bored with the sort of sex he is having with you, maybe he is looking for more variety, something more exciting when having sex with you, its hard to say really, we don't know what you get up to in bed... when it happens, when I was having regular sex with my partner, doing the same thing was very boring and really couldn't be bothered with it, then I had to make suggestions on things that we could do to make things more exciting and pleasurable, rather than thinking of it as a chore. Ask him what he REALLY wants to do in bed and tell him what you REALLY want no matter how embarressing you both might feel. One of the things that I was embarressed about telling my girlfriend what I liked, was to have her stimulate my A-spot while she masterbated me, and it turned out she enjoyed the same thing.

Its called being a nymphomaniac. Lol

Move on with your life. He is still a child mentally. Six months into a relationship and already having problems? Hell I've been married for 17 years and that's never happened yet.