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Oh I've seen people that ridicule, trivialize, ignore and otherwise marginalize large people.
I find that behavior rude. Like I said , big women flat out do not turn me on, and never have, but that's never stopped me from having large friends. Some of my best friends have been large people over the years.
What ever you are talking about Brocksgirl
I ain't into women fat or skinny!!
IF I want to be with someone it will be a GUY thank you.
OH and I ain't blonde either!
Fat maybe, blonde N0PE!
AND the OP said views (meaning either way) NOT who IS into big women.
Play nice, kids.
There's no reason to get rude or mean to each other.
We can still be respectful even if we don't agree.
I am not going to agree or disagree with what Smoothy says, he is entitled to his opinion. If he doesn't like big women, it's OK. Women tend to jump on the bandwagon and chastize men for not having a preference to larger women. It is crazy, when most of us here would not give the time of day to a 400 lb man. If you can't be physically turned on by a large man or a large woman, that is fine and not abnormal. We all have a picture in our minds of what ideal beauty is, what we like and what we don't. I applaud Smoothy for his honesty! Having said that...Quote:
Originally Posted by smoothy
Sex is not better with one group than another; fat people are not better than skinny people. Ugly people aren't better than pretty people. Rich people aren't better than poor people. Making any assumption for a group of people is ignorant. Sex is what you and your partner make of it. It is about connecting, passion, and attraction, it is not about their size. It is about what works for you and what works for your partner and what gets you both hot.
My boss always says...
For every pot, there is a lid ;)
Enjoy folks :)
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Originally Posted by Allheart
Just for the record, I am 5' 9" 150 and am married to man that is 5' 9" 475lbs The sex is pretty dog gone good.
Hello Lady:Quote:
Originally Posted by Ladyviper
Really? I don't mean to get personal, but how do you find his johnson? That's the first thing to disappear when you get fat.
excon
It was trial and error for awhile, but we worked it out. Some positions are impossible, because the "johnson" just won't reach, but we have def found our groove. It is better sex than I have ever had before with normal sized partners. He was the first and only big man that I had ever dated, and there were def some frustrating moments at first.Quote:
Originally Posted by excon
The real problem is fat people are unhealthy, unfit, sometimes sweaty and smelly which makes them not the ideal choice of sex buddies. Sure you can love someone who's chubby or who turns chubby during a relationship, but do they make you want to get a chubby??
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Originally Posted by helpdave
And thin people are obsessive about their weight, just as unfit at times, and sometimes annoyingly smug about the fact that THEY aren't overweight. Thin people are also more likely to have huge egos about their looks.
My point is not that you're wrong--it's that every group of people has exceptions, and every group of people has habits that are annoying or that could be a dealbreaker for others.
I agree with the above poster that clumping people together in stereotypes is ignorant.
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Originally Posted by helpdave
No Dave,
In my opinion, the real problem of today, is people need to live and let live.
Unhealthy comes in every shape and size and so does stinkee.
Expand your view and see past what you see, and your liable to enrich your life ten fold :).
Actually I have seen many big women that have the same attitude toward skinny women.
They are obsessed with their 'more pushin' for the cushion' attitude and put skinny women down like they are inferior.
Did you ever see The Big Beautiful Women Club when they would go on Sally Jesse Raphael in their negligees and flaunt themselves all over the stage??
As Smoothy says
Its all in what floats your boat.
All I have to say about the whole big people are unhealthy, well I'm 5'9 300lbs and my husbdan is 6"2 220lbs and he eats more food then I do, he also eats out (fastfood) then I do. I tend to eat more veggies and fruit then him. So you have to stop looking at one person and thinking that everyone like her/him are all the same.
My husband and I will be married a year in April, and we have been together for 2 years in may, but we had a rocky sex life in the beginning, we tried different things, some worked and some didn't. But we tried to make it work, and I will tell you what this man sure knows how it give it to me.
Who and about the sweting thing, everyone does it, skiny, avrage, and big. So just get over it.
I suppose if you are enjoying yourself then more power to you.
There is probably a larger issue with this and that is obesity is a huge problem in western societies, it is outgrowing cancer as the number one killer. So regardless of your sexual preferences people who are overweight are damaging themselves and the children they are having. Live a fit and healthy lifestyle and imagine how good sex will be with your partner then. So just get over it!!
Remember what I said about playing nice? Let's keep that in mind here.
And as far as being overweight being an epidemic, that may be so--but let's stay on topic, okay?
Sorry. Got a bit carried away there.
Skinny people have health problems but heavy people IF they are not eating healthy and keeping track of their health are more likely prone to
Sleep apnea
Metabolic syndrome
Heart problems
Bad cholestrol/leptin levels
I have to aggree with you in that one. But I'm am trying to get healthyer, it is hard. But like I said my husband fell in love with me for who I am, and told me I could stay the ways I was or change its up to me. He loves me for me, so yeah I guess if you ONLY LOOK AT THE OUTSIDE OF SOMEONE THEN YOU WILL NEVER FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE, AND YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. BUT IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK TO THE PERSON THEN, JUST THEN WILL YOU FIND YOUR TURE MATCH.
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Originally Posted by BROCKSGIRL86
Oh I bet he does love you with all his heart. And I have no doubt you are a beautiful girl.. not one doubt.
Here's the thing, you have your husband who just adores you and you he... and that equates to great happiness.
So you want your time together to be forever - and the two of you to continue to enjoy that happiness and each other.
You don't want to fall sick or him to, so the love that you have for each other, is something that you want to share for a very long time, and is reason enough to want to be healthy. And also to feel good and not tired or drained (assuming you do)
This is not about a weight number or appearnce. It's about you being able to enjoy hubby for a very long time.
So, you can start slow... and again, this is not about losing pounds... it's just about getting healthy. Hey, hubby and I are taking the same road too :)
So, for right now, don't over focus on what your eating. I love to go for walks. It clears my very busy head. So, maybe you want to start with a 5 or 10 minute walk a day. Change nothing else (for now :). Next week bump it up to 15 minutes and take it at your own pace.
What you and your husband have is real and true and precious... hold on to it :)
Wishing you the very best,
Allheart
OK... I received a pm from a distraught member so I feel I better say this one more time out of respect.
I am not and never have intended to put down larger women. Like I have previously stated some of my best friends over the years have been large women.
What I meant by what I said was I am not turned on by them sexually. That has nothing to do with my being able to respect them as friends, and having a real friendship with them just as I would any other person.
I chose my friends based on who they are inside. I will admit I have chosen my lovers based on who they are inside as well as what they look like outside.
I hear you Smoothy. That had to be upsetting that's what happens when we can only read - I go off course myself and take things wrong and vice versa.Quote:
Originally Posted by smoothy
It's really no different then some guys like blonds, some brunettes and we know they ALL love red heads :) (3 guesses what I am )
Anyway, I just breezed over the post but that's how I would see it. But it's a sensitive issue because society can be so cruel. Weight, height, ethnic background, you name it, someone has an unkind word for it, sad really.
But I am sure you were just stating your preferece.
Hope any hurt feelings, yours included heal. I've seen your post and I know you would never be cruel.
I am sure it's all resolved now.
I have been a big woman most of my married life. I did not have sex before marriage. When I married in 1972, I was not really big , but was about 25 pounds overweight and did not have terrific curves but I was considered attractive and I received compliments on how nice my clothes looked on me. My husband seemed to like the way I looked when we were dating and would order lady like portions of steak for me etc. . We had a great sex life . But he began wanting me to eat huge meals with him and ( gain a lot of weight). I thought he was jealous of other men looking at me and maybe was trying to turn them off to me if I was fat. By the time we were married for two years, I had gained 100 pounds. I felt gross but he seemed to enjoy every pound of me. I did not enjoy sex as much because I was ashamed of my body. I went on a diet and lost 40 pounds before getting pregnant. He seemed angry with me as I lost the weight ( pre-pregnancy ). I was careful what I ate while pregnant ( only lean proteins, veggies , fruits, skim milk ) and only gained 10 pounds. But The bigger I got with child the more sex he wanted. After the baby was born, I came home from the hospital 52 pounds lighter, from the baby, water weight , etc. My husband began bringing me chocolates by the boxes, pizzas, any and everything fattening. I gained all that weight back and more. The bigger I got the more he wanted to make love to me. One day , I decided to lose the weight and I got down to my normal weight. My husband was so furious that he started cheating on me with a fat woman. I got so nervous and frustrated that I began overeating. I gained the weight back and he called it quits with the other woman. We moved to another state. He also developed health problems which made him impotent about 15 years ago. I have tried many times to lose weight and once the results start showing up, he will go to the computer and download sites with super obese women. I think my husband must think that sex with big women is great or he is just what they call a chubby chaser. LOL . I do not want to be fat and after seeing all that gross stuff he enjoys looking at... I am sticking to my diet . If he does not like me for the way that I would be comfortable weighing in at... TOUGH.
Good points. I'm not turned on by guys. Doesn't make me a homophobe. I'm not turned on by uber-skinny waifs that think a rice cake and mineral water is a meal and a half. I've dated, as I've already said, women who were generally "fit", active, most not heavier.Quote:
Originally Posted by smoothy
Hell, I don't even fit my wife's "perfect man" profile. I'm generally fit, physically active, and reasonably funny and smart enough it seems to keep her around and faithful, but I'm not 6ft 3in or taller, I'm not latin or dark skinned, I have no accent or super deep bass voice, and I don't play pro football. Still... she seems to like me well enough.
But you shouldn't be receiving pm's concerning a post that honestly asks about primal preferences. Diff strokes for diff folks. And thank God for that.
I had no problem with the PM, it was both quite genuine and quite nice, I wish more people were as nice about things, I felt if they viewed it as they did then maybe others might have as well, And I didn't want them having the wrong idea.
To me its hard to find good friends. Finding acquaintances is easy, dates are easier (yeah I'm happily married and don't fool around but it would be easy to find is my meaning). But the type of friends you can trust and know will be there is what I refer to as friends.
Yeah I know people that don't associate with people that aren't just like they are. I'm not them.
And like I said... some of my best friends have been larger people. Not just people I know, but true actual friends.
I think there is an extreme to either case. I wouldn't think having sex with a 500lb women would be arousing and then again I can't see a 100lb women sexual attractive in the least. As for plus sized women I actually think they are beautiful espically in their 40's while most slender women in their 40's tend to wrinkle and sag. I am a full sized lady in my 20s by today's standards. I am not extremely obese but I am larger than most of my "skinny" friends. My jeans are in the double digits and "they dont make that in my size" happens to me but as for a difference in sexual appeal I find none. I have no problems meeting men and a lot of times I am complimented on being beautiful and intelligent even though I am not in the running for any runway model position. BUt I assure you one thing I love sex and not because I do not get it enough because I like it. As for smoothie... you sound hard up for anything you can get ahold of and I doubt you should be judging anyone at 220. I am 5'10 and not even close to that.
Like I said whatever floats your boat. I'd rather have a boyfriend that was shorter, thinner and not as good looking as what most girls go after. That doesn't mean I find other guys repulsive, just maybe not my type. Like Allheart said some people even have specific hair color they want their 'ideal' to have.
Keep in mind 220 for a man is far different than 220 for a woman. Men carry far more of their weight in upper body mussel mass, wile others don't . Am I hard up? Not by a long shot. My wife is a perfect size zero. Not an emaciated waif. Body type means everything when you start discussing absolute numbers.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jamiefemale79
If I was the fooling around type I could have quite a few on the side at any given time. I have enough women of all sizes making their interest known. But like I said, I have a good wife and I don't fool around. Its as much a matter of respect for her as it is for doing what's right.
So I prefer slimmer women, its what turns me on. Would you fault a woman who only considers men over 6'5" to date, or guys with 6 digit incomes... or guys who are say, exceptionally well endowed (trying to keep it clean here).
Or how about that shorter rotund fellow that always seems to be setting alone. I've known some rather large women express their personal tastes that are not that different than my own in certain ways. And more than a few in fact.
My basic point being there is a huge difference between being one of those people that ridicule larger people (and usually anyone else that's different from them) and being someone that just isn't attracted by it.
Everyone has their preferences as to body type, hair color, eye color etc. And they have their right to it. Even before you toss personality into the mix everyone can't be all things to all people.
Also Smoothy
I am only 120 pounds I wouldn't want to be with someone that big cause a 200+ (maybe even less?) pound guy is going to crush me cause I have shortness of breath so you have to factor in what is preferable to you according to many things besides oh he is too fat, too short, too skinny, too ugly, too poor.
I promise you... a 230 lb man who is fit is not going to crush you. As smoothy stated, that's what upper body strength is for, and guys are absolutely proportioned differently than woman.
I have a wide build, broad shoulders, fit, but I can't buy a suitcoat off the rack at most big box stores. The waist and hips are fine but the shoulders aren't big enough and the arm width is way to small.
Trust me... a fit guy at 230 isn't going to crush you any more than a fit guy at 180 unless he passes out or is a lazy slob in bed. My partner is 138, a previous partner was 120's, and they never turned blue in the face when I was on top. Again, that's what shoulder and arm strength is for.
That and cutting down trees and lifting big rocks. *grunt* *grunt* *grunt* ;)
I am married to a nice figured woman whom I love very much, I have everything I want with her. That being said, if I ever was to get thrown back into the dateing pool, size would not be an issue. I would much rather hook up with a 300 pound woman with a good sense of humor and a bubbly personality than some 120 pound twit with the "my dont stink attitude". The body is simply a tool that carries around the person inside. Have you seen these models lately... fake noses, fake boobs. Heck... fake everything... Naw... I will take a good, down to earth woman any day... Any size!
Mike
First of all.. BAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA to the comment "I have heard that sex with bigger women is better, because they dont get it as often, and when they do.....hold on and enjoy the ride" From 2 personal.
That's the stupidest thing I've EVER HEARD. Im a big girl, size 14 and my boyfriend loves every curve on my body. He NEVER leaves me alone.. is always touching me in public (which gets quite annoying) and tell me that he loves the attention I get from other men.
We have an awesome sexlife... do it twice a day almost every day of the week. And he's a lot smaller than I am. I think people that think like that are idiots, who said the big girls don't get it as often as skinny girls? To be honest, I like woman, and skinny women under size 10 do not turn me on what so ever.. Woman were meant to have curves.. so the more cushion for the pushing the better I say ;)
What's wrong with being big? Doesn't mean were less flexible or that the sex is worse.. I can get my feet over my head!. and yes I'm a size 14... I am also very healthy and love experimenting. My bfs last girlfriend as he told me.. was a deadroot and was boring... and she was a size 6.
So its got nothing to do with size... it's the way you work BABY!
Size 14 is not that big. That is only 34 waist--while it is not petite or small it is NOT BIG.
Bigger women, I would say, start more like size 18 OR 20 on up
I do agree that just because bigger women are bigger doesn't mean "they don't get it as often'' I know most bigger women have to be because they always seem to have a boyfriend no matter what, so they MUST be doing something right.
Personally I like being around a size 8 and am trying to get back to that.
That's got to be the stupidest thing I have ever heard "bigger women don't get it as often" lol. I am a smaller guy and I personally prefer larger women. I find them dead sexy, and when they know that you love every part of them, that seems to boost their confidence. My current girlfriend has been the best sex I have ever had, and I have had my share of skinny little twigs. But I love the way a larger woman feels. They know how to make things fun and interesting. I have had skinny women almost put me to sleep lol. It just depends onwhat you really are into and what your not, I just prefer larger women as they have curves and they are well... sexy. Can't help it. To all the BBWs here live it up!
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