This is going to sound gross as hell but it worked for my wife early in our marriage. Tell her if you blow in her mouth she can kiss you right away and put it in yours... then if you get the nerve to swallow she might see its not so gross. She saw you make an effort to impress upon her its not so much a big deal. She might be far less apprehensive. Trust me I did not particularly like it having never done it before either but the fact I was not asking her to do something I wasn't willing to do made a great impression on her.

I think that each in a couple should respect the others opinion. BUT believe me if a woman is really in love with u she would do anythink to please you as long as it is something only between the two of you!
And to set things right biologicaly sperm is as viscous and as clean as the woman's fluids! Sperm is tasteless at most of the times! It can also be slightly sweet if you eat some pineapple the day before! The woman's fluids thought not always have the same appearanse. They can sometimes be less viscous and have a bad odour...
So my option is you canot forse her but this should give you a message. A woman who adores you should not feel discussed by this. Would she liked it if you felt the same way about her??

Well fix what you broke you may be on to something, but I say that women are programed to think that oral sex is nasty because most of them lie about it. Even if they admit to having sex with someone they will never own up to doing oral sex. Our society has caused this.

Her initial reaction is to not want to, just like most kids don't want to try a new food, they assume they won't like it till they tried it once or twice.

Its not disgusting, but the initial couple times it might be. Like I commented on earlier, my wife had that initial reluctance to do it.. then when we were visiting relatives overnight the opportunity to just run to the can at 3 am didn't present itself, and I popped the question to her then. There was the Blueball frustration of doing nothing or present her the option I gave her. Which was she went half way... came up to me and I took care of the rest. I think we only had to do that twice (and no I am not into that sort of thing) before she saw that if I was willing to do it to show her its not something really disgusting then she took it upon herself to start doing it... there were times she ran off to the can to get rid of it but those got less and less to now she has no problem with it at all. After all I don't run off to rinse out my mouth after taking care of her the same way.

Some people have the same hangups with anal... they just assume they don't like it and swear there is no way they will do it. Before they really give it a chance. I'm not known one single women that gave it a few tries that did not like it. The first once or twice might be the hardest till one learns to relax then they discover the pleasure both of them can share in this.

Dam son, my ex used to love doing that, in fact it was her idea, I have to tell you, its intense at the end but yea I'm going to miss that.

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Originally Posted by anette

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and I love her very much. We have a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship, and we communicate well. Recently, I told her of my fantasy of her performing oral sex on me and swallowing my sperm. She said that would be "gross," and has never brought me to climax during oral sex because she does not want me to come in her mouth. I perform oral sex for her, and I enjoy having her sexual fluids on my face and tasting them. We have discussed sexual fantasies before and have pleased each other very much. But she will still not accept my sperm in her mouth, My question is: what must I do or say to make her change her mind, to make her understand how much I wish she'd do this ?

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The main thing you have to understand is how men and the media have exploited oral sex. A female never feels loved or cared about doing such a thing. If a woman performs it, it shouldn't be done in a rude or rough nature. Let her know you care about her and you want to please her. Point out to your girlfriend that you perform oral for her and you enjoy it because it makes HER feel good. Be honest with her and explain that you're hurt by her not wanting to please you also, however you can't force her into it.

I have a question to all the ladies out there: why are you so opposed to semen in the mouth? I'm not saying your wrong to dislike it, I just don't understand. Is it the taste? The concept? Please explain.

I'm a guy, but my wife initially told me it was the concept... and like kids with certain new foods the automatically decide they don't like it before they really give it a try. Wife now enjoys it. Like I said a while back.. we were visiting and spending the night elsewhere and running to the bathroom was not an option for her and I has horny as heel, told her just do it come up and give me a snowball and I'll swallow it. Just so I could get off. Only had to do that a couple times and she just started to swallow herself without me asking. Once in a while she would go spit, but those have dwindled to almost never.

Don't try and make someone do something they don't want to, you've told her you want it OK, leave it at that don't bug her about it because if you do it could end in a big fight. She may eventually want to do it just to please you.


Also you could watch porn together as a preamble to sex (porn with bj) and she could see its not so gross, but if its still a no leave it be don't be an arse.


Oh and americangayboy I think they don't like it because if they haven't before it may make them feel dirty etc

Depending on a guy's diet, semen can taste AWFUL.

Also... if he ejaculates heavily, it tends to have a choking effect, especially with no warning. Semen down the lungs and out the nose HURTS.

I don't have a problem swallowing for my husband... but the warning I used to give guys was that if he started ejaculating in my mouth, with no warning, I had the reflexive action of biting down, without warning.

Eep biter

You know I'm all for oral sex but does no one find it weird that we would never put urine in our mouths yet we quite happily snack on the place it comes from lol

Some people do like urine in their mouths (I don't happen to be one of them). That aside, oral sex is hot, I love it and don't mind (most people's) semen.

Hey I agree its hot but that was a thought I was having out loud, here's another, no girl of mine has ever known the answer to this and neither do I, why is it called a "blowjob"?

I've heard the word originated from this asian practice with blowing through straws... I don't know if that is even half true so please don't be offended

Yea you would think they could rename it to something better like a "suckjob", I mean blowjob is almost an ironic name.

Lol for the first two years in high school I wondered what it was like for a girl to blow on me lol boy was I in for a surprise :)

Suckjob sounds lame. I prefer to say bj or head

yea maybe but lets look at ths with more detail.

Blowjob - does the girl/boy blow on the penis? Maybe a little but to get the desired effect the penis has to be inserted into the mouth and then a vacuum created around it. Blowjob is not the name for this, that's like making a tractor and calling it a ducati or saying battlefield earth is good - LIES

head or giving head - how exactly are you giving head? Did you murder someone and steal their head and say hmmm one day I'm going to give this to someone. Giving head is stupid stupid name, "oh baby can i give you head" "no thanks, the one my parents gave me still works fine" lol

Suckjob - ahhh now that is a name that does exactly what it says on the tin, besides if someone came up and said would you like a suckjob id say hell yea, that crazy girl was offering me a second head!!

my random thoughts

How about oral

You're a funny guy zooropa, but we'll have to agree to disagree.