I just took the time to read all the things that everyone has said on this list. I think it is a crock... first of all if you ask men before they marry how many times they think they will have sex the answer is always higher than 4 times per week, and if you ask the woman it is always less than twice per week.

I think most of the time it's this list of things that the guy reads and he says the heck with this and he goes out and has an affair with a woman who is willing.

So many times women demand and demand and demand, and the husband gives and gives and gives, but he didn't do it the right way, he was not romantic, he didn't make me feel a certain way...

That in and of itself is a good question.. How do you make a person feel a certain way. Every single Human being feels based on preconceived ideas that each person has and controls. For example I used to love wrapple carmeled apple covers just to look at them made me feel warm and fuzzy inside, then one day I got sick, deathly ill, have to get better to die sick, after eating wrapple carmeled apples. That was over 25 years ago but I think if I saw a pack of wrapples today, I would still sick and ready to hurl. Is my reaction my problem or the pack of wrapples problem? It's my problem, no body can control how I feel unless I give that person my permission or I agree with what they are saying. Some will probably say that I am an idiot but I certainly don't agree with them and I'm not going to listen to them because I know it's not true. Or on second thought I may be an idiot, but I've learned to live with it...

Guys I hope everything does work out for you, but I will tell you this, don't marry somebody or move in with somebody thinking that you are going to change them. An overhaul project on an old car or motorcycle may make a good hobby or weekend project but it doesn't make a real good 7 day a week life. You only pass this way once, try really hard to make the right decisions. For that will make all the difference!