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Originally Posted by odinn7

And I also counted it in the original question but I see now it was edited out. Just sayin'...

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Well don't. I never asked you how many times I said Evan.

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Originally Posted by sazzilou

Well don't. I never asked you how many times I said Evan.

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To be fair, you told me you only said it once... I was pointing out that it was more than once.

And just to clear things up, I wasn't patronizing you.

Aside from that, it doesn't change the other answers... he's controlling your behavior.

Right I know that he's not gay and I can also see that he's controlling me but I still don't understand why he won't have sex with me?

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Originally Posted by sazzilou

Right I know that he's not gay and I can also see that he's controlling me but I still don't understand why he won't have sex with me??

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He will when you do what he tells you to do. What's so hard to understand.

You! Have you Evan read what I've said?
Obviously not

Obviously you cannot grasp the fact that sex can be used as a weapon to control. Have you even understood what we all have been telling you? Until you do, then you will NEVER understand why he doesn't have sex with you EVEN though he and all of us have explained it.

You seem to be stuck only on the lack of sex.

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Originally Posted by sazzilou

You!! have you Evan read what I've said??
obviously not

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He says, "I totally control if you get sex. If you are a good girl and behave the way I want you to, you will get sex. If you are a bad girl and I don't like what you do, there will be no sex."

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Originally Posted by sazzilou

You!! have you Evan read what I've said??
obviously not

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It seems to be you that is not reading what is said. No sex unless you comply with his wishes... very simple...

I'm not quite sure why sex is so important to you. If you really care about this man, then you would be focusing more about his feelings and less about the sex.

Relationships are supposed to be about trust, understanding, and communication. I see none of that here. I only see a young girl who is only interested in sex.

If EVAN calls, ask him if he will come back, EVEN though he was insulted. I'm guessing we're talking about Evan because his name is capitalized.

I don't think the OP's boyfriend is the only person with issues and/or a short fuse.

I understand that words like "but" and "even" cancel out everything that follows - "I love you but ..." "I love you even though ..."