That is why I wrote" its my personal opinion. " but I think no matter what I write until I agree with you that porn is OK, it helps marriages, it is healthy, it's great, it's such a good "express flight, " you will keep telling me that I am rude.
I'm sorry, I cannot agree with you.

Did I not clearly say thank you to the people who were being genuine? Did I not say I appreciated your advice? I only addressed a couple of the rude things people said and I was never asking or expecting anyone to agree with me. I simply did not know what to do and this was the first place I came to. JudyKayTee if I'm remembering correctly you were one of those people I was thanking for your help. Not sure why my thanks to you and no thanks to others is now backfiring. I, myself, agree with most of what you've had to say. And for anyone who's confused my issue was not just about the porn, it was about the fact that it was hidden and he had told me before he would not because of how I felt. I don't need to verify how real he is, but I will say I'm real enough to know that people make mistakes. Thank you for whoever said maybe I'll see it for myself when I find him watching it again. I'm not sure what anyone would get out of throwing that in someone's face because I don't agree with you, but all the same to you.

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Originally Posted by Here2help

I am very surprised of how we let it get to us that porn is ok. If you can just be honest with yourself, I know that you will realize that this is not right. What feelings do you have after watching porn? Do you have feelings of real, caring, unconditional, forgiving love? I am not saying all this stuff because in trying to be mean. My heart hurts for you, because I want you to have the best possible pure marriage and sex. Synen, you're absolutely right. The only sex you should be having is with your husband, and not because our God is mean like that makin up all these rules. But because HE knows what is good for us and I can see the evidence of this in my own life.
Ladies, religion aside, if deep down we are uncomfortable with men watching porn, we get hurt, betrayed, we lose trust... And then someone keeps repeating to us " don't worry it has nothin to do its normal " that doesn't make it right. Is it going to be a year from now that if our husband goes and cheats on us that we are going to hear the same things" don't worry, it's normal. It has NOThing to do with you "
... I'm really sorry if some of this is going to hurt you or offend any of you, I say this because it's the truth.
... For those that are confused, but don't want to feel the way they do and want to have real peace in their lives, seek God. He is the only answer to any of your problems.

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I'm sorry, but you're WRONG. Deep down, I don't give a mouse's donkey whether my husband watches porn. It doesn't affect how often we have sex, and it certainly doesn't hurt me, betray me, or make me lose trust in him. It's just a movie! Me being upset with him for watching a movie is like him being upset with me for reading a book!

The whole idea is ridiculous