Wow, don't think about it like that. If I thought about it like that- do you know how depressed I would be about losing my virginity at 13 to a tampon?? Being fingered and having sex is a totally different feeling physically and definantly emotioinaly. You still have something to look forward to!

I completely understand how you feel though. It seems like he went too far, without you wanting him to. It's always hard to stop a guy, it's hard to say no before it's too late. I wanted to save it for marriage desperately, but unfortunately lost it last year- simply in the heat of the moment.

Regardless, he loves you. You love him. YOU'RE IN LOVE! Come, on- you're experiencing the best part of life, you have no reason to end your life just because it may or may not have happened before a ceremony.

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Originally Posted by ogai

no my dear it didn't hurt me, but it did give me that crampy feelings in my stomach and as usual my back pain increased more when you said it. not because of that it is my period and your words.

Man who cares as long as your culture, family, and religion don't care about virginity and havin sex before marriage. I am muslim, my family, my future husband, myself, and my culture care about the virginity and i hope and believe that i am a virgine. So let's hope for the best.

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All women care about their virginity regardless of our culture, family, and religion.

Thomas is very much right, if your periods date was due then he might have opened your depths to make you bleed,otherwise there isn't any chance of losing the virginity with fingering



Don't WORRY GIRL, I have known it and am sure fingering can't take virginity.so just chill around.
Something that's important to tell you is that, only insertion of man's flesh can break the hymen and nothing else .the finger isn't that thick to rupture it.
Don't worry it is intact,but be careful about your relations next time.

And onething other that is important is that; TODAY IN THIS MODERN AGE GOING, MORE IMPORTANT IS TO BE LOYAL AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE TO A MAN, IF IT IS THIS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO BE UNTOUCHED FOR YOUR HUSBAND. Don't YOU THINK HE SHOULD BE THE SAME AS HE WANTS YOU TO BE... TODAY MEN AWARD technicality and pleasures and they want ou to stick to them after marriage, before that you can have a relation and he might as well had it and how far did he go or you go ,must not be the issue.

SO BE CONFIDENT AND IMPORTANT IN YOUR Existence, YOUR INTACT VIRGINITY IS NOT THE KEY OR LOGO OF YOUR LOYALITY. It is not for you only it is for all girls reading this post.

MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS AND EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES.