Originally Posted by
beachloverjohn
I do see your point. And i do have a confession to make, I just didn't want to worry you. I was married for 17 years and the only way i could have sex with my wife was if I thought of her as just a sex object. Once or twice a month was enough for me. i knew all along the reason why the sex was so imperonal. I no longer loved her. I couldn't make love to a woman that I was not in love with. Eventually, I left her for another woman. I have never talked about this before on this site, because it is not something i am proud of. But your story has reawakened the empty years that i spent with a woman I did not love. I may not have literallty watched porn films before sex, but I ran them through my mind just the same. Your issue maybe much more serious then I thought, only because your story has jarred my memory. But it is not too late to fix this. Counseling might be where you two should start.
