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Originally Posted by chnkytim42

lol i have pondered that question alot, and sometimes the only thing i can think of is cause i love her. 2 years, longest relationship i have ever had, not a longterm guy, but with her it's different. i don't know why i deal with her ****, i can't explain it, it has to be love to deal with something like that right? it drives me crazy, but i don't want to lose her. it's a catch 22. conundrum if you will

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Don't confuse love with being used to her being there...

I see NOTHING to love much less like. In fact I see NOTHING that a relationship much less a marriage can be build on here. You are better off putting your paycheck in a envelope and sending it to me, You will get the same thing plus your space... just kidding there.

You need to see things for what they are... and I hate to tell you... you aren't doing that right now.

Thank you for the lovely compliment Wondergirl. You made my day!

Hi OP so she's bone idle and spends all day in bed.
can I ask what her Mum is like,
I think you should tell her get up off your lazy behind and do something, or lets have sex every night and morning, I bet thatll move her, LOL

NO seriously OP she's taking you for a sucker, I hope you don't plan on Marrying her, I think you might need a JCB by then to get her off the sofa, I take it she can manage to get herself out of bed and dressed?
And of course she can use the remote to watch Jerry Springer?

It's a relationship you're in not a haulage company you really need to talk to her and say its time you put something into the relationship or Im off, you aren't going to lose anything of any value, all she does is waste oxygen all day. If she still doesn't do her share and also put into the bedroom dept then get another girl, Im sure someone would snap you up in a blinking, Hope you can resolve this or move on. She's a waste by sounds of it.

I told her she needed to get a job or go to school or do something, the other night, and it seemed like it went well, then today I had to drag her out of bed a 1:30 pm and she has being crappy with me all day then she goes back to bed, refuses to do any job hunting or fill out any apps. I am done. Tells me she doesn't want to do it today, my day off, but tomorrow, when I work, ironic. And just went to play league without so much as an I love you... I am telling her to go tonight when she gets back.

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Originally Posted by chnkytim42

i told her she needed to get a job or go to school or do somethin, am telling her to go tonight when she gets back.

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I so wish I could be there with you!

Then I found out the one thing she does do, "babysit and clean on saturday for a friend" she sleeps half the day she is there... I thank you for your support wondergirl

Get rid of her... she WILL turn into a 400 lb couch potato at this rate.

If there ever was the definition of a "Ball and Chain"... this is it.

Sent her *** packing... just to update.

Thanks for the update! We always like to know what happened after someone came here to get our advice and opinions.

Glad to here you did the right thing... now you can find a good woman. And there are lots of those.