Have you heard anything that was said here? Are you going to take any of it on board?


Also, Define sadistic?

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Originally Posted by abbeygail

anyone can give me a website that i can get tips for sadistic ideas? but pleasurable?

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That's not my area as I'm not into that sort of thing... but I do know that is a mighty broad topic.

And not every part of it is going to appeal to any one person who IS into that sort of thing.

THAT is something you really do need to talk with him about to get a far more specific answer.

Compare the topic to this... a child says he likes candy. Does that mean they would like every variety of candy that's ever been made? Most certainly not. There will be some they like and some they don't.

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Originally Posted by abbeygail

anyone can give me a website that i can get tips for sadistic ideas? but pleasurable?

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Let me preface the following comments by saying that these are from a 'sub' (If you don't know what that means, then you have a lot to learn before trying to get ideas):

This is actually a good starting point for a discussion about expectations in the bedroom. If he is a long time practitioner, I am sure that he has materials that you can ask him to show you.

DO NOT do anything until YOU are comfortable with the idea.

DO NOT do anything just to please him. It has to be something that YOU want to do. Otherwise, you will lose respect for him or come to resent his concept of pleasure.

Keep these three words firmly in your mind when having discussions about the topic, checking out ideas, and especially when trying anything out: SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL.

Anyone here that know a website that I can look up for sadistic types kind of thing

Like sadistic pleasure for a couple..

Google 'sadistic sexual practices'.

I'm sure you'll find a wealth of information, but really anything that you do in the bedroom that is outside of 'vanilla sex' should be discussed and explored together.

Do you feel you have a pretence of knowledge to keep up? That is a slippery slope to go down. As Cat said you need to be comfortable with everything that you do. If you are not, agreeing to something could not only finish this relationship but affect you beyond it.