Its only diffucult at first... once you get past that you will really be thankful you realized that nobody should have to live with that sort of treatment.

NO MORE CHAT SPEAK.

Seriously.

Any further chat speak in this thread will be deleted without notice.

You said, "My fiancee now,said that he also used ladies before and he just couldn't imagined that "I also became one of the victims of a guy who don't know the real worth of a woman."

tell you the truth it sounds like he's mad at himself for using girls in the past and not seeing them as women... it sounds like he regrets his past because he has taken advantage of girls who could now be in the exact same spot you're in now... I think he feels guilty for taking advantage of those girls, as well as some kind of animosity towards your ex-boyfriend, and since he can't take it out on him he takes it out on you....

maybe sit down and talk to him calmly about his past and his regrets and where those women might be?

Abusers frequently use that tactic to keep control of a vicitm, usually when the victim is about to walk out on them. And when they stay the same old cycle starts all over again.

Boy is this guy something. He took advantage of women in HIS past, and is making you feel guilty for being a VICTIM of someone just like him. I think he wishes HE was the one that " took" you first so you would be TOTALLY his. How dare he berate you for something from your past. It sounds to me that you were basically raped. Find a man that will treat you like a lady, as you are. Not someone who treats you like property. This guy will get worse.

It does sound like he will get worse... the more he pushes you away the more abusive he'll get cause it's his idea of how to keep you around

Ego and insecurities will doom any relationship... something he has to work out for himself. It has nothing to do with you. It's up to you to stay and take it or leave.

The women posters will all tell you he is a jerk and you should move on.

Actually men who also never had or will have a virgin have great empathy with the guy. He will think about it every hour of his life and it will diminish him in his own eyes knowing he is a loser and knowing some other guy is out there smirking over having you first. Thus, many men agree with the women (but for much different reasons) that you should move on.