Ask Me Help Desk - My girlfriends can't orgaism!

A lot of women have that problem, and I've heard that sometimes it's harder for younger females to climax. I had difficulty for a while, until my boyfriend started getting more comfortable with doing what I asked (nothing outrageous, like speed, pressure etc). Just make sure that you really give it a shot. Sometimes it can take over a half hour. I found it works best when he uses his hands, so make sure you're comfortable and give it a go. Most women don't actually climax during intercorse either so I've heard, so don't be discouraged if she doesn't. Take your time, have patience, and LISTEN to her needs. If it doesn't work she may be unable and the worlds best sex god couldn't get her to. Just keep trying.

Talk to her and discover what the underlying problem is. I want to say fear of failing you is enough to prevent her from reaching orgasm. Tell her to be relaxed and enjoy the act. Work more on her soft spot during foreplay.

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Originally Posted by Richard Davies

thanks for your comment sweet1028. my gf and i have discussed it so many times and shes now it seems just having sex to satisfy my needs and she isnt to bothered about hers, when really i care about her needs more than mine so is there any point? gemini54 again thanks for you advice i think your totally right also but ive already reassured her that i care about her and asked her to discover her own body. she tries for me but its like she isnt really willing in the first place. apparently she only gets turned on by me (which i doubt) so she will never have and earge to please herself. i dont know what to do because every peace of advice ive received on this post has been totally relevant and %100 excellent but nothing seems to be clicking with her.

Hi richard,

She has a sexual mental block. Unfortunately she can't get pass the "masturbation is yucky" thought process. Masturbation is just as normal for woman as it is for men. Its just ingrained in our brains as females as being wrong and dirty, though for men its not looked this way. But this is how every woman discovers what she likes. And its very unfourtunate that she isn't comfortable with this thought enough to allow herself to do it. And she has to want to do it for herself and not for you.

After reading the other posts and your responses it seems like she really isn't willing to accept it as an issue. Though clearly its effecting your relationship. It isn't going to get better if she isn't willing to explore what's really wrong or to get to the heart of the issue.

You seem like a very considerate boyfriend.. one that is very concerned of her needs. I highly doubt it is anything that your doing physically. Good luck to you.

The best way is to lick her clitoris and be patiant till she get the orgasm for the first time then she will love that.

Ask her what her emotions are during intercourse,if she feels a ANY exitement and if she WANTS to do it and not just for you. Hope this is helpful. Good luck and keep us updated.

I feel that sometimes women are too occupied with their partners needs to really 'let go' of themselves. Maybe you're paying too much attention to her and she could feel a little embarrest to fully let go and release. The best thing I found is to focus on your own enjoyment... what I mean is, give her the feeling that she is not being watched, let her think that you are in your own zone of pleasure - maybe cheek to cheek so her face is hidden, but all the while, keep mindful of the speed and pressure she likes, when she is pumped up - you should pump up more, express your pleasure more rather than antisipating her release. Point is, some girls get more turned on by there BF's enjoyment than his attention. Maybe BF's need to let go of trying too hard to get an result... but stay mindful of it... secretly... it may just happen when you're least expecting it.