MMM from the new info, it sounds like he may be depressed, which can cause a drop in sexual drive. There isn't much more I can help with hon :( I wish you luck in convincing him to see a psychiatrist, and I hope and pray that you guys can work it out.

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Originally Posted by wendystoney

this is my second husband i don't really want a third

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Don't stay in a marriage for the sake of staying married. If you really believe that there is sa chance to salvage the marriage, then you'll just have to wait it up, since he asked for time.

However, if you don't feel any progress and continue to be unhappy, there's no reason for you to torture yourself. You can stop the pain and suffering by letting him go.

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Originally Posted by wendystoney

thank you, i wasn't asking for that kind of advise.

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That post from Altenweg was not directed at you. If you notice, she quoted another poster. You owe her an apology.

You also need to stick to ONE thread with your questions,

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Originally Posted by Synnen

If he won't talk about it, and you're not happy, then leave.

If you stay, you're accepting the situation the way it is, because obviously he doesn't care to change.

If you go, maybe that will get his attention enough to try to work with you to fix things.

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Thanks I guess I need to decide weather I want to live with someone who care about how I feel, or about sex, I never thought we would have this kind of problem, all our friends envied our relationship

I just remembered something a few years back we were with no kids on a fishing trip, we went to the bar got a little frisky went to the motel, we ended up getting a little carried away, he broke his urthria, he had to be rushed by ambulance to three different hospitals. We were out where there were only small town hospitals, he ended up having surgery to fix his unit, but after he recovered our sex life went back to normal. Could that have some to do with his problem now?

Anything is possible. It could have ruptured again. Or it could be causing some discomfort, either one would cause him to NOT want sex. But realistically, if a man is in pain in THAT area, normaly he wouldn't hesitate to find out why and make it STOP. Especially since it has happened before

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

anything is possible. it coudl have ruptured again. or it could be causing some discomfort, either one would cause him to NOT want sex. but realistically, if a man is in pain in THAT area, normaly he wouldnt hesitate to find out why and make it STOP. especially since it has happend before

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I kind of agree with her. There is probably some reason he not wanting sex. Maybe he is working it himself so he don't have to work so hard at making his wife happy like they once were. I thought every guy wanted sex no matter what. If she has talked to her husband several times and he just gets made there in my opnion there is something else going on. Mental & physical or maybe there is some one else. She sounds like every guys dream, wanting sex 5 or 6 niights a week. I'll give you a few names, lol