Smoothy I was simply stated how the photos from his could have gotten to his email from his cellpone. When I take pictures with my cellphone I automatically sends it to my email address through my cellphone in case I lost my phone.
The OP must have confronted her husband if he addicting to being an addicted to doing this. I wouldn't assume that the OP has self esteem issues because I would've confronted my fiancé about this if it was bothering me. I don't understand how you can compare this abuse and everything else you wrote but his behavior is alarming.
I don't know what issues are going in their marriage but I hope the OP does come back and elaborate more on this situation.