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  • Apr 28, 2009, 03:50 PM
    liz28

    I don't know I just threw out that thought.

    Where I lived I see 5 years old dressed like adults. They have on their ultra minskirts, tan tops, 3 inch heels, they have a pocket book and all. I isn't lying. I don't understand what parent would let their child dress like that let alone buy their child those sort of clothes. I guess they think it is cute but it isn't.

    My child would never wear clothes like that. Her skirts come to her kness or longer and it is still fashionable but and she looks like she suppose to-a child.

    It is ashamed that they make the shorts super short but again I don't buy her those sort of clothes. Most of my daughte clothes are homemade because I make them and make them to my liking. But it ashame that I have to really shop around because most of the clothes in the children stores are too short.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 04:26 PM
    Catsmine
    Lots of people with addiction disorders blame their addiction on the substance rather than change themselves. It's a rationalization, not an excuse. Meth, nicotine, caffeine, pornography, sex, chocolate... addictions require treatment. Pedophiles rationalize their illness just like every other addict.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 04:28 PM
    JustHisGirl

    I came back. Yea liz28 I saw this little girl the other day, she couldn't of been older that 5, her skirt was so short that her butt was hanging out the back. I'm like wow, who would let their daughter go out in something like that. Its great that you don't let your child dress this way. When I have kids they will never go out in public dressed with something like that.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 04:44 PM
    Xrayman

    Addiction to porn may or may not create a problem. What sort of pornography, If you mean child pornography, then yes the person is a pedophile and is addcited to child porn-that puts ANY child near that individual as a potential victim.

    If the addiction is to older women in the pornographic material, then yes, the older woman is a potential victim etc. etc.

    Either way, pornographic addiction creates an unreal viewpoint about the people starring in the scene, (Now I'm going to make a generalisation here) i.e. most porn promotes a woman as "wanting sex-even against her will" just like child porn shows children in sexual activities way beyond their level of maturity and they are being ABUSED. Therefore an addict will form an opinion that children having sex "like that" "enjoy that, and it is good forthem " etc. A SICK INTERPRETATION OF REALITY.

    So depending on the TYPE of pornography, it could make children vulnerable.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 04:56 PM
    kp2171
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fuzzball_Kara View Post
    There was a guy who spoke to some people around campus here a few weeks ago. He spoke about his addiction to porn saying he became desensitized so he had to look at more intensee things.

    We go around and around here about porn "good" or "bad"...

    But some desensitization is actually common throughout a persons life...

    The bus ride to school used to give steel piercing erections. Who knew a nun bus driver hitting every bump and pothole could do that to a teen? Even the slightest peek at a girls bra strap could get blood flowing. Over time, most of us have some desensitization.

    Think about how just the anticipation of sex could get you tied into knots when you were first experimenting. Not saying I cannot get aroused just thinking about it, but there was some level of intensity that was somewhat lost over time, with experience.

    Likewise, I think some who use porn can become desensitized and need more, or different forms, to keep pushing the edge.

    Now... we have members here who have used visual erotica for years and haven't fallen down the "slippery slope" that some worry about.

    So... I don't believe for one moment that watching porn must lead one to become a pedophile, as the OP asked.

    That said... a person predisposed to alcoholism or addiction probably shouldn't work in a bar, and may not know this until its too late...
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:03 PM
    liz28

    KP, you have a great way of analyzing things. Thumbs up!
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:05 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    Desensitation can lead you to want to do more things such as committing the act. But this fact in no way makes an excuse for you to do these things. I'm not saying everyone will end up like this. But I figure some people may grow into this with the help of desensitivity. And once they get to this point, they should probably stop if it's going to cause them to be further tempted. One must know their own limits. If you believe something is causing you to become something, then why would you keep doing it? Only you control what you become.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:17 PM
    liz28

    Fuzzy, I guess they watch it because it is there and use it an excuse.

    It is sort of like a person playing a video game and acts out the scene and when they get in trouble they say "well I saw it in so and so video game" then the media starts to blame the game. Give me a break! It fake for crying out loud. But some people are quick to poing the finger at the other person instead of blaming themselve.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:27 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    I know. It's too easy a thing to do. Like when I'd get in trouble for hitting my sister when I was small... Because she hit me first!

    Ah silly humans.. When will they learn? :)
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:28 PM
    smoothy
    Simple answer is NO...


    Pedophiles need have NO addictions to anything. They just have a perverted sexual attraction to prepubescent children of either sex. There were LOTS of Pedophiles around long before any of the modern forms of porn existed. There were Peophiles around in ancient times... likely since mankind still lived in caves.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 06:45 PM
    Synnen

    This is no longer answering the question, in my opinion---and we have several people responding whom I suspect of being underage.

    Thread is closed.

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