If I were to look at naked men weather in a magazine or strip club as long as I were with other women I doubt my boyfriend would mind. He is kind of insecure but its all about who I'm with. Your boyfriend is going to be with other guys, seriously do you think they wouldn't be gawking at other women while there? Sure they will, "boys will be boys". One time I went over to my man's house and he was starring really hard at my Victoria Secret catalog claiming how he was looking for something to buy me, I tossed that magazine out his hands and tossed my clothes off with a sexy strip tease that he really, REALLY appreciated, and the VS magazine? What magazine?

I think your boyfriend needs to grow up personally. The porn isn't good, because it can lead to addictions. He also needs to get some new friends. Your boyfriends needs to grow from being a 'boy' to becoming a 'man'. When you are around guys like that, and they are a 'pack' it almost starts to seem 'normal'. It's not and they need to grow up.

I am saying this from a male point of view. You can choose your friends and you don't have to have that kind of 'material' around to have a good time.

Most men do watch porn, and of course he makes comments around the guys, he's with the lads. I don't think there is anything wrong with it and if it upsets you that he won't say the comments around you, its because you make a big deal of it and feel strongly about it. If you didn't care he would tell you. Personally I think there is nothing to worry about

I don't see anything wrong with porn or dirty magazines. I watch porn and it hasn't made me a porn addicted.

I think your reading too much into this and you can't change this.

Be happy that your boyfriend isn't cheating on you and don't worry about something like this because it isn't worth it.

I am the same way and have been for years. People can tell you to let him do it, it's a guy thing. But they are not you and they don't know how you are feeling. If it really bothers you, then he should respect that and not do it. Some women are okay with it and some are not. You have the right to your feelings and beliefs.

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Doesn't a guy have that same right to his feelings, and beliefs??

Look, the one thing that life teaches you (bloody obvious I know), is that guys and girls are different - especially when it comes to sex.

Ideologically I don't agree with prostitution, porn movies and 'stick' magazines. In my view, they reduce women to sexual objects for men's pleasure. In an ideal world this wouldn't happen. But, life is complex and the world is not ideal. Fact is, these things do exist. Always have and probably always will.

In your case OP, it's about seeing it for what it is. A diversion, a boys escape, a 'blow out'. In some ways it's also male bonding. Yes, at face value it's immature, but so what?

I think that he'll respect you more if you treat the whole thing with humour and with the understanding that his sexuality is different to yours. (boys will be boys) As long as when he's with you he acts with maturity and respects your sexual needs, I wouldn't worry.

Worry about the important things, and as someone else suggested, enjoy your sexual relationship.