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  • Apr 20, 2009, 10:09 AM
    Justwantfair
    It sounds to me this is more a matter of a female who has never experienced an orgasm.

    She has faked them in the past, but an orgasm is more then just a moaning sensation. It's beyond feeling good during sex. If you have never orgasmed you wouldn't know how to describe it.

    Do you masterbate?

    Also, moaning is not an indication of an orgasm, I moan while I am still enjoying sex. Orgasms are very different and expecting your boyfriend to "just know" is poor communication.
  • Apr 20, 2009, 10:47 AM
    shazamataz

    I have never faked an orgasm and I never will... What is the point?

    If you fake orgasms then yeah it makes your partner feel better that he has 'pleased' you sexually but wouldn't you rather tell him how YOU like to be touched?

    If you fake them all the time then you are eventually going to get bored with sex and bored with not having orgasms all the time.
    It's going to be difficult telling your partner that he has been doing it 'wrong' all this time and won't appreciate knowing that you faked it!
  • Apr 20, 2009, 12:18 PM
    88sunflower
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chrissymarie View Post
    C U M = ORGASM

    It's the same thing. Just 2 different ways to say it. I also dont believe you are educated about sex enough to be having sex at all.



    Well the best education is experience. Not that she needs to run out and have every guy in town. But she is getting educated so to speak. She is doing it and feeling it and asking questions. You can read a book and watch the movies but every ones body is not the same.
  • Apr 20, 2009, 10:52 PM
    payasa14

    Why? Just because I thought c u m m I n g and having an orgasm were 2 different things? I agree I learn with experience and I'm asking questions. If you don't think I well educated and shouldn't be having sex then don't answer my question and just worry about your own.
  • Apr 20, 2009, 11:06 PM
    lighterrr

    You have the right to ask whatever you feel like, its your right as a participant on this forum. Sorry if someone else offended you.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 02:50 AM
    shazamataz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by payasa14 View Post
    Why? Just because I thought c u m m I n g and having an orgasm were 2 different things? I agree I learn with experience and I'm asking questions. If you don't think I well educated and shouldn't be having sex then don't answer my question and just worry about your own.

    Usually after people have answered your question (which people did) Sometimes another related subject can come up. They are just looking out for your best interests and try to give you the most detailed and accurate advice possible :)
    It is easy to specualate here, especially when the OP doesn't give much information, it's tempting to think up scenarios :)
  • Apr 21, 2009, 06:27 AM
    payasa14

    Your right but then those people shouldn't answer my question.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 06:40 AM
    Justwantfair
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by payasa14 View Post
    Your right but then those people shouldn't answer my question.

    This is a sensitive topic. You can't choose who responds but you can choose what information is relevant to you. Please do not be offended.

    Have you masterbated before?

    Having an orgasm during intercourse has a lot to do with knowing your body and the first time is easiest with a partner you are completely comfortable with. For women, orgasms are more related to an emotional connection then a physical one. So first you have to feel emotionally comfortable.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 07:23 AM
    88sunflower
    I hope you don't think I was offending you! I was sticking up for you. But reading over this thread again, I am kind thinking maybe and orgasm are different in a sense. For some reason this thought just hit me. Some men shoot blanks... right? So doesn't this mean they have an orgasm and they don't? So in that sense its different.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 07:32 AM
    chrissymarie

    Well I didn't mean to offend you but in my opinion you are not mature or educated enough to be having sex because you were not able to communicate with your partner and ask him what he meant by you c u m m I n g. he could have told you hisself.

    If you can't speak to your sexual partner about what he is doing inside and too your body and what his intentions are and what his desires are in bed you are not mature enough to have sex. And by not being a mature person... that has caused you to become UN-EDUCATED about sex.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 08:15 AM
    lighterrr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chrissymarie View Post
    Well I didn't mean to offend you but in my opinion you are not mature or educated enough to be having sex because you were not able to communicate with your partner and ask him what he meant by you c u m m i n g. he could of told you hisself.

    If you can't speak to your sexual partner about what he is doing inside and too your body and what his intentions are and what his desires are in bed you are not mature enough to have sex. And by not being a mature person... that has caused you to become UN-EDUCATED about sex.

    I understood what the poster was trying to say and I also get the sense that english may not be the posters first language?:confused: So just because her post was not crystal clear to you it does not mean that she is immature.

    What does maturity have to do with sex. Does age make up maturity? Or is it education. Cause I know a lot of 50 year olds that behave like children.

    I feel like you are being very judgmental and unfair to this poster.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 08:23 AM
    chrissymarie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lighterrr View Post
    I understood what the poster was trying to say and i also get the sense that english may not be the posters first language?:confused: So just because her post was not crystal clear to you it does not mean that she is immature.

    What does maturity have to do with sex. Does age make up maturity? Or is it education. Cause i know a lot of 50 year olds that behave like children.

    I feel like you are being very judgmental and unfair to this poster.

    Were all entitled to our own opinions and I am always welcome to argument. People have been able to change my mind before
  • Apr 21, 2009, 08:32 AM
    lighterrr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chrissymarie View Post
    Were all entitled to our own opinions and I am always welcome to argument. People have been able to change my before

    OK chrissy

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