If he does not them I am ready come on baby

Every time he starts looking at porn you go up beside him and start to suck or what ever the hell you used to do

The answer is very simple: YOU NEED TO STEP.
Keep in mind the action of "step" is very subtle and very gentle... it doesn't mean run away or drop him or yell at him or leave him. It simply means step away. Don't shut him out or be mean. Just make other plans. Focus on your own life. And don't make a big show of it; be very casual. Change things about yourself or your surroundings, even simply changing your perfume or the color of your bedspread. You may even want to take away all the artifacts that you "belong" to him or vice versa. i.e. throw away his toothbrush and say it "fell," or take him off your screensaver in place of a new picture of something else you like. Don't make yourself seem like such an easy catch. Spruce things up literally and figuratively. Start seeing yourself as sexy and acting like the babe you are. Don't cheat on him, but do start checking out other guys, maybe subtly in front of him if you want, and you can watch him sweat it. Be happy, be yourself. Don't do anything to overcompensate with him.

The simple fact is this is a common dilemma in relationships... when the chase is over, yes, the relationship becomes closer and more intimate, but for some guys, the sexual desire decreases. You simply need to create some distance to get that spark back. You need to make him miss you. This doesn't mean ignoring him or fighting with him. Be completely self-possessed and logical. Be fun-loving and positive, not sulky or moody or a drama queen. The more you beg or taunt him or complain or whine, the less he's going to want to have sex, and the less he's going to want you, for that matter. You have to become slightly more mysterious, elusive. If he doesn't want to do it, this doesn't mean assuming he's cheating on you or assuming he doesn't love you. You need to focus on having your own life. Get some distance. Don't be a , don't be passive aggressive, and don't play games. Just stop being so close with him. Let him figure you out. Let him come to you.

How long from initial sexual contact... kissing... do you orgasm?