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Originally Posted by Choux

supa,

One thing about promiscuous, drunk girls is that when they sober up, they find out that they are a different person in the daylight of reality compared to the drunken world. And, they probably don't like sex that much, after all.

There are other problems that will effect a woman's sex drive that also may apply to her predicament, of course.

I think that you two need to have a few sessions with a couple's counsellor to start with. I don't know if you will have to go any farther with professional help, but you sure have to get to the point where you can trust each other enough so you can identify problems and share your authentic selves.

I would see you two starting over with sex therapy....her getting to know her body sober, and her learning slowly how to be turned on by a caring lover. :)


Very best wishes, :)

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That is very positive of you and a very appreciated answer. I have issues of my own that needs to be worked out as well. I will definitely bring this to her attention because I love her so very much. Thank you again.

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Originally Posted by supaflyguy1399

She works from home now. I work 4 days a week and when I'm not at work, I'm the person who cooks, takes care of the baby, clean and still manage to give a back rub. When she feels stressed out, she just goes off and takes a few days vacation to visit her friends in California, we're in Oregon by the way, and I'm the one stuck with the same stuff left alone feeling no gratitude at all. When she goes on these trips all I ask is for her to pick up the phone and she can't even do that. Specially when she's out with guys it's like I'm not even considered in the picture. I really do want this to work for the sake of my family and just for the fact that I LOVE HER SO MUCH! HELP ME!

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My friend I feel for you greatly as I am in this position too, Im with a 13 month beautiful baby boy and I too have had no intimacy since he was born. Ive tried literally everything to make her feel like a woman again as opposed to Mommy. Nothing ever seems to change, we don't argue or fight but I'm beginning to get a very angry man. Im reading up on everybodys advise too and what they say to try I have many times but like you I feel the situation and my feelings get taken for granted. Remember the saying "you can take the horse to water but can't make it drink" that's how I feel as I can't make her want to be intimate in any way and it hurts as I want her more than anything, also I think our child deserves a good SECURE close bonded family to grow up with.
Im still searching for someone to help me so I guess I will keep waiting for the right answer. Good luck my friend, please remember you are not alone.