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  • Dec 15, 2008, 02:44 PM
    talaniman

    I have to agree with the others, as you moved to fast with this stranger, and the more you learn, the more problems its causes. You are in lust, and as the lust has faded, you see more things you didn't know. You will either talk, and listen, and resolve your issues to the benefit of you both, or go home.

    To much, to fast, crash and burn.

    No communication, no relationship!!
  • Dec 20, 2008, 02:27 PM
    Handyman2007

    Six months is not enough time to completely know someone enough to pack up and move in with him AND HIS PARENTS!! Sounds like you are both young. Pack your things and go back home. Find someone and take the time to get to know them better.
  • Dec 22, 2008, 10:18 AM
    ladygoodgal
    What does this mean?
    Ok iv'e been on here before about troubles with my boyfriend... we've had our ups and downs and had a lot of obsticles to get through but were doing OK... just have some communication problems but were working on them and trying to listen to each other... but lately I caught him looking at porn and that's OK with me I don't really have a problem with it but then this past weekend we went out with a bunch of people to a strip club and I have to admit at first I had felt a little bit uncomfortable with it but I did the best I could and brushed it off my shoulders because he's with me not them... The problem I have is when we go out he's all over me with hugs and kisses all lovey dovy and then when we get home and were alone he doesn't kiss me unless I kiss him and he's on the computer looking at car parts and after that I try to get a little intimate and he gets irritated he said he doesn't like making out and never has and then he says sometimes I'm kind of rough and he doesn't like that... I think I handled it quite well.. I respected what he had to say but I'm wondering if the I'm tired or I'm just not in the mood.. I don't know if there's something more but I don't know if I should just not touch him anymore and wait for him or what...
  • Dec 22, 2008, 10:36 AM
    Ber Rabbit

    It sounds like you have opened the lines of communication in your relationship. Now you need to use them.

    He may be acting all lovey dovey in public to either reassure you that he loves you or to let other guys know you're his.

    Some people just don't like making out. Kissing is more complicated than you would believe. Everyone has a different kissing style, maybe yours and his just don't match. The nice thing about that is if you realize it you can adjust to a style that he enjoys if there is one. The only way for you to know is to ask him and to work at it.

    He probably said you're kind of rough sometimes because you're kind of rough sometimes. There's a real opportunity there to communicate with him and find out what he likes. Have him show you how he likes to be touched, etc. This is a great chance for you two to use honest communication to grow closer.
    Ber
  • Dec 22, 2008, 11:08 AM
    talaniman

    Be patient as you must realize your still in the learning process, that you skipped entirely when you moved in with a guy after only 6 months of knowing him.

    You may as well see that you have a long road ahead to know, understand, and deal with each other, so don't try to rush it now, thats part of the problem.

    Pay attention, talk, and listen as your feelings may get in the way of learning.
  • Dec 22, 2008, 12:43 PM
    Moonlight187
    Maybe his porn addiction is what's causing him to not be so interested in you sexually.:confused:

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