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Some are better, than others!
Speak to, or have her speak to a psychologist. Male sexuality is stimulated by mostly visual arousal. Probably the best plan is to pay mondo attention to her and spoil her rotten until she gets past it. Grovelling is a good tool as well. Once your on safe ground with her try to stay off the porn and have long discussions about how she can visually stimulte you. Role playing. Dressing up for particular private activities and a good exchange of ideas and motivations could help also. Don't look at her as a possession but rather a gift. Lovers must win each others love and respect regularly or we lose sight of its true value.
Thinker2255, SOME PRACTICAL ADVICE YOU COULD USE! :)
I'm sorry about some of the feedback I read on here. It shocks me that some people have no feelings... :mad: Porn ruins a lot of people's relationships, and your girlfriend is not the only one who gets hurt by this. This is a tricky situation. I've been through this myself. My boyfriend did the same thing to me. I was so angry with him. I mean, how could he do that? It's like cheating. He was pleasing himself while watching other women! I was asking him if I was good enough, if he wanted someone else, what was wrong with me. I just don't get it, but we girls don't think like you guys lol.
My boyfriend and I were together for about 2 yrs. When I found out about his porn, I was too mad at him to even talk about it. Not to mention it's the most awkward thing ever! But a few months later I took him back. He hasn't done it since. I gave him pics of me and he knows how I feel about porn. And for him, I gave up smoking cigarettes. So the most we argue about now is who does the dishes and who pays the electric bill! Lol
You need to let your girlfriend know that she is the only one who matters to her. And you need to figure out why you did this. Did you know before you did this if she wasn't OK with this kind of stuff? Maybe ask her for some personal pics in case you ever get tempted. I hope she takes you back. After all, 3 yrs is a big deal, and I hope that you two will make it.
Did you read all the posts? Did you see the OP's response to those answers?Quote:
I'm sorry about some of the feedback I read on here. It shocks me that some people have no feelings...
You don't have to agree with anyone, but to say that the people who responded don't have feelings, that's wrong. If I were you I wouldn't be so quick to judge people you don't even know.
As for your post, that's your opinion and you have a right to that opinion, but you do not have the right to say that anyone else's opinion is wrong just because it doesn't coincide with yours.
Allot of people don't have a problem with porn, obviously the OP is one of them. Sadly his girlfriend doesn't like porn and over reacted when she caught him with it.
If he wants to stay with her, follow her rules, obey her and accept the changes she wants him to make, then that's fine, and his decision. He asked for advice, he got it, what he does with that advice is up to him.
[QUOTE=Altenweg]You don't have to agree with anyone, but to say that the people who responded don't have feelings, that's wrong. If I were you I wouldn't be so quick to judge people you don't even know.QUOTE]
Some people were being quite nasty about the situation, and I just felt that they were being s about it OK...
If you thought those were nasty, you should have seen the ones they deleted.
But back to the original point, porn is not that big of a deal. I would much rather my girlfriend watch porn than create it.
[QUOTE=sexiibabii21x]I disagree.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
The only person being "s" (whatever word you tried to use here) about this, was his immature girlfriend, and the poster.
If someone comes here looking for a specific answer or opinion, they are going to be just as disappointed as he was.
What I see here are honest and open opinions and giving someone a "reddie" just because you didn't like what they said is unacceptable.
He asked for advice or opinions and he got them, pretty simple concept.
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