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  • Aug 9, 2008, 05:51 AM
    mattiscool1993
    I think it is a bit early to be having sex. Let him get comfortable. You don't have to jump straight into bed with him. Let him know that you want him for who he is and not just for sex. Start playing sexual games with him and lhim get cofident with you. Soon enough you will be having the best sex of your life!
  • Aug 9, 2008, 06:52 AM
    talaniman
    I think you both can benefit from having fun getting to know each other, for a while, before you throw the intense feelings of sex, into the equation.

    For one, seeing each other so much, in such a short period, and not do what normal people do to get acquainted before having sex, can burn out a relationship really fast.

    Don't you work, or go to school? Going to fast before your both confident, comfortable, and familiar, with each other will be a dealbreaker down the road.

    Talk a walk, and talk next time you feel like getting naked, or hangout with friends, in a group setting, or above all have a life you enjoy, besides him.

    A healthy relationship takes time, and patients to develop, and rushing the process is never good.
  • Aug 9, 2008, 07:54 PM
    wwmichigan
    thank you guys. All your ideas/advice have really helped. =]
  • Aug 10, 2008, 12:07 PM
    Choux
    Take your cue from him, he is probably seeing you as being too pushy... too manipulative.
  • Aug 10, 2008, 02:26 PM
    wwmichigan
    Yeah, I agree. And I want him to respect me. And me wanting to have sex so soon is probably just going to lose his respect. How long should I end up waiting? Until he is ready or longer?
  • Aug 10, 2008, 09:02 PM
    Synnen
    TWO WEEKS?

    Gah, you don't know whether someone would be a good parent in TWO WEEKS--and if you're having sex with someone, you're taking the risk that you'll be parents together.

    Have you talked about STDs? Have you talked about life goals?

    Get a vibrator, woman, and stop depending on HIM for sexual fulfillment.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 05:19 AM
    smoothy
    I think you should wait at the very least 6 months. Give the initial infatuation thing time to wear off and decide if you have compatibility there. Otherwise sex will dominate the relationship and hide other real problems. And sex is the basis of NO relationship.

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