Originally Posted by kp2171
the worst bj i ever had was pretty damn good...meaning even if you dont know what you are doing, itll probably be great for him.
lots of different things you can do... but some personal suggestions...
three positions i love for receiving oral
1) guy standing, girl sitting on a chair. why its good... he can see you clearly, and its great to watch. the angle is good, you are comfortable, and his "guys" (testes) will move forward and back, adding to the sensations. with one hand grabbing him near the base (where his shaft meets his torso) push and pull the foreskin over the head of the penis. some women dont understand you can grab firmly and not hurt the man. also, pulling the foreskin over the head is great stimulation. with your hand in place, follow the movement with your mouth. keeping your mouth close to your hands gives the sensation of you taking him in deeper than you are, which is good for him. follow his lead... in general, slower, wetter movements are great.. if i need more movement, i can move my hips. in the seated position you can also take your shirt off and have his hand on your chest. if it doesnt drive him mad to have him in your mouth and have his hand on you, hes got some serious issues.
added bonus: with him in your hand and mouth, use your other hand to cradle and tug at his "guys"... this can be really intense. might feel silly to you, but simply moving or gently pulling at them can greatly increase the intensity of sensations.
2) man on bed, back on matress. approach him from alongside, with your rear facing his head, kneeling alongside him. why is this good? in contrast to your being near his knees, you are closer to his upper body. again, he can run his hands over your back, rear, and chest, all while feeling you take him in your mouth. i think the approach from "above" with the womans tongue sliding over the top of the head feels more "lush", but maybe thats just me. again... grip well with one hand, follow your hand with your mouth, and dont be afraid to pull hard. i think the pull of the foreskin is often more important that the sliding down the shaft. again... just my opinion.
3) 69. some couples can both benefit from this. my partner is fine with the position, but doesnt want me to "mess" with her orally while shes going down on me. its too distracting for her. from the guys perspective, with the woman on top, he gets great oral stim while being able to feel your back and arse from a great position.
last note... lots of debate goes around about "swallow" or "spit"... my opinion... a mediocre bj that finishes at the mouth often beats a great bj that finishes at hand only. now... i didnt say "swallow"... i said at the mouth.
it feels much more "lush" when the lips are involved. just the truth. my partner tends to finish at the mouth and not swallow, and i dont give a damn one bit. and if it icks you out too much, dont pressure yourself to do anything you dont want to do. its not worth it. that said... the orgasms with her hand alone are less intense than with hand and mouth.
so... all this said. what about you? if hes willing to receice oral, is he willing to give? if not, it isnt balanced. oral on a woman is more complicated, but one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm. if a gun were placed to my head and i was told to get a woman off or else, id use my mouth. period.
so dont be afraid to ask for something in return. the kicker is it takes more work for the woman, and guys are often impatient. dont ever be afraid to ask for what you want "softer, harder, lick here, etc" and dont be afraid to use your own fingers to self stimulate.
have fun and be safe.
