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Originally Posted by R2A0V

I thank you all very much for your inputs and to try and answer all the questions that you’ve all asked:

Yes, my husband watches a lot of porn and enjoys it. I don’t. And I’ve told him that coz he watches a lot of porn and he expects me to do the things that they do on there, but there’s no way and I can do those stuff. He has these expectations of sex by watching all the porn. Those people are sex experts. They do stuff that I’m sure no NORMAL person would be able to do.
And yes, he does play with himself watching the porn. And yes, I have also told him that he is too used to his hand. He is forever playing with himself. He doesn’t give me a chance and when we do, like I said that we will have sex and once my vagina expands he says that I am too big now and he doesn’t have any feelings and theres no enjoyment now.

My husband does have a problem with his mind. He was attacked in his shop and he still gets afraid sometimes (actually a lot more times). I don’t know why but he seems to be still ‘holding’ onto the bad experience. Its weird to be saying that he is still ‘holding on to his bad experience’ but that’s exactly how I see it. Its like he doesn’t want to go on with life and he keeps bring that up and if anything, I know that its that, that’s holding him back in moving forward in life.

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Can I firstly say, that the people in porn movies are NOT sex experts. These movies are made for stimulation and entertainment, and generally target men. These movies are generally about fantasy and are a form of sexual science fiction. They are mostly formulaic and the actors are 'larger than life' physically as well as well as sexually.

I think that your husband may have become addicted to porn fantasy and the feeling of his own hand. The reality of a real, warm, breathing woman just doesn't do it for him any more. The size of your vagina is an excuse and he may be, as other posters have suggested, terrified at the thought of having children.

You need to have a long, honest talk with him about how he sees the future of your marriage. If he is prepared to accept some responsibility for what is happening between you, I'd suggest that you would benefit greatly from counseling.

How about the comment that SHE is ready to have a child... he clearly isn't too excited about that it appears from his actions.

I think there is a lot more going on here than just what we are being told.

And its an old thread.

Good point...

Hey, it is too... oops.