Ask Me Help Desk - I can't orgasm while having sex with my boyfriend

Thrilled that my post has received kind attention. Does a boys heart good.

But, as I said... that was with no restrictions... and those times are hard to come by often with a child in the house and all the normal demands of life.

Sometimes its just tracing her body with my fingers and putting my skin on hers in the warm, morning bed. Sometimes its not sexy at all... just a foot race to the finish line to put us both in a good mood.

Not to be a complete tease, but the one "detail" I left out was all that which is done under "go down" or "oral"...

One word or phrase to describe all the needed tension buildup just doesn't do it justice.

But I wasn't trying to write the great american boddice ripper... just wanted her to have some ideas of what it can take to put it all together... so those details were left out.

Those whove seen my posts lately have heard me mention over and over (I did mention it in that post) "She Comes First"... read it several months ago and I've been talking about it since. I've read books, reports, and studies about sex, but that's one book that should be mandated reading (for both partners) for understanding how to prime a woman's body with oral... sure the first 40 pages or so wander, but there's some good info in that book... read it and tell me you didn't learn at least one new, useful thing.

It won't tell you how to cook a great dinner, won't tell you what scents you like in the bedroom, won't tell you nearly enough about sensual touch and massage, won't list the best positions for you with intercourse, etc... but I think it raises good awareness of some things that are talked about, walked around, sometimes ignored, but rarely explained well.

Plus, he cites some classic other reads and some other stuff you might not have seen, so decent reference for other reads.

I haven't read his follow-up yet, "he comes next"...