You need to take time out from the relationship and examine what it is that YOU want from it. If both of you aren't happy then the relationship won't be healthy or happy.

Just a couple of observations.

I think when you got into this relationship, you wanted the type of sex he offered... wild! just plain f****** everything in sight. There are different kinds of sexual unions, as we all know. From how you describe your boyfriend's sex history, I see no way for him to do an about face, even if he could, which I doubt, and find a way to attach tender feelings back onto his sexual impulse.

You, on the other hand, are desiring a different kind of sex, more personal, with tender loving feelings leading the way. I don't see you satisfying this desire with this friend, but there are a lot of different kinds of men in the world. Can you go out into the world thinking that you want to find a man more connected to his natural, real emotions and then seduce him without having a hard heart? Let your emotions flow... be real. :)

So, basically, you can't change a man. When will us women learn?? :):):)


Best wishes for new experiences in 2008,

danatika...
I really appreciate your openness about this topic. My girlfriend and I are going through a lot of what you have discussed. I am curious what has happened since your last post.

HAY COOL!! Someone brought up a thread with Choux in it ! I love it!

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Originally Posted by lojo1212

danatika...
i really appreciate your openness about this topic. My girlfriend and I are going through alot of what you have discussed. I am curious what has happened since your last post.

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Considering the age of the last post before yours, I wouldn't wait for an answer from the op.

If you want advice on your own concerns, please, start a new thread asking your own question. It will get you a lot more responses that are targeted to your needs instead of another person/couple.