If I was in your shoes I wouldn't be worried because he's married to you and for that porn thing try to make your own porn so you can watch it with him or watch the porn with him now for that talking on sex chat rooms ask him why he uses them and tell him what you think and if he doesn't stop cut him off don't have sex with him and start looking for someone who want you because he looks at this porn and talks to other women instead of you than that means he's looking for something else so you should too that's just me

All the talking in the world is not going to help because he wants you to believe his stories.
He is using the reverse blame game to try and place the fault on you and make you feel guilty so you quit questioning him. When guys try and pull this it is oozing with you questioning where is the logic in that? He says you are the one cheating BUT it is HIS profile that is on there claiming separated.
He wants his cake and eat it too cause right now he is dabbling to see what is out there and hanging on to you while he is in the just looking stage... but IF 'n when he finds someone that he actually can hook up with most likely he will leave you hanging high and dry. In the meantime, IF he never finds somebody worth meeting on there he has you to fall back on.
The date sites and most singles chat rooms are full of cheaters and swingers.

You can do better!

Watch for RED FLAGS
Unaccounted time
Secretive phone calls

I think right now the best thing to do is sit back and not accuse or nag just keep an eye on how he acts and
His behavior and attitude towards you. If you accuse, nag and argue with him then he will use it as an opportunity
To have it as HIS EXCUSE to throw back in your face to justify his indiscretions


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pinkrose7 you don't understand, we don't have sex. Its has been a month now & still nothing. He is the 1 that chooses the computer over me. I'm not goin2 go and look 4 another man, I love this one, & I want to B with him. He just has to wakeup & C what he is doing.
It is not that I told him no. he just wants to be alone back there. I have found his little book a few days ago, and it says all of his passwords. And he name and PW for Aduiltfriendfinder. But I don't know if I should spi. I mean I love him and trust him that he will not doing anything stupid. But I just doing know. Like last night he said that he was giving a friend a ride to the airport, at 3am. OK that's fine I have no problum with that. But the little birdy deep deep deep down inside of me is telling me something different. It took him 2 hours to drop him off and get back. I don't know how far the airport is from our house. I was sleeping when he got home around 4am and he finely crawled into bed with me around 6am. And when I woke up when he was getting into bed, I asked him what he was doing and he said that he was emailing to some frineds online.
But I trust him and love him.

O OK then find some way to take away his porn and see what happens

I would have to trow away the computer and the DVD player.

O OK y don't u guys have sex you should spi that feeling should be listened to I would spi if I was you and one more thing to think about you don't have to listen but its what I know for a fact if he's not getting it from you who is he getting it from? Think about it

The situation is already out of hand. The purpose of any marriage to bind two people together, these two people should love, honor and care for each other. Your current marriage is not servicing its purpose.

You have a husband that comes home after a full days’ work and watches porn on his pc. He is not using porn as a form of martial aid he using as his main source of entertainment. Like a guy would throw in an action movie. On this same pc you discover that he subscribed to adult dating sites and on his profile his marital status is separated. If he has not yet had an affair he is definitely planning on having one. May guess is that not a lot of women are attracted to him. Don’t wait around see if one is. Despite what he says or thinks of you. You deserve much better than this. Every woman deserves a man that wants to love and make her happy.

I wouldn’t recommend counseling even if you two could afford it. I think he may be a sex addict and honestly you are not that vested enough in this person to start this long road of recovery. Road that he has to agree to take.

Please use proper English and not chat speak.

You are adults, please type like it.

That being said--why are you committed to someone who isn't committing to YOU, Brocksgirl? Why are you putting up with his crap, and his lies?

I'm not one who thinks ultimatums ever really work well, but if I were you, I'd be issuing a few.