Ask Me Help Desk - Watching porn movies

Total Bullcrap... me and wife watch porn together all the time... and trust me her tastes in it are different than mine but we both entertain each others fantasies and desires...

Watching porn has helped her be more upfront in what she wants and how she wants it. That lets me cater to her specific tastes a little better and vice versa. We have a much more diverse bag of tricks so to say in that we try different things that strikes the others fancy that we see in porn... those we like we try again and again.

Sure beats the poor soles that think sex is only missionary with the woman on her back.

Variety is the spice of life. That's why after 17 years of marriage sex is better than it ever was. And way better than it was in the beginning for both of us.

Notice I'm not saying watch it alone in private. But together.

Hello anette:

The only thing wrong with porn is that it causes waaaaaaay too much screwing.

Sooooo, given your name, I don't guess porn causes too much pumping and thrusting... Choux will be disappointed.

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I wonder why habitual porn users are so defensive to the point of being nasty to me. Why don't they want to up the quality of the female's sexual response. (and possibly, the male's too?)

By the way, I was no prude or I wouldn't have learned so much about female sexuality. :)

I didn't think I had been nasty--but I'm not a habitual porn watcher, either.

It's an occasional thing that my husband and I do TOGETHER. Honestly, we giggle about it most of the time. BUT--it does bring us closer together because we'll try things that look interesting, or we'll giggle about whether something is actually physically possible.

After 13 years of watching porn, I don't think I've lost my emotional attachment, or have less pleasure than anyone else out there. I don't think I'm "de-sensitized" or less good and loving.

Why not say that romance novels have the same detrimental effect? Or "happily ever after" movies? Don't THEY put unrealistic expectations on a relationship as well?

YES, porn in excess is bad--but so is everything ELSE in excess.

Frankly--the fashion industry and the media focusing on the size 4 woman has more of a detriment on my sex life than porn does.

Just curious, what's wrong with a size 4 women?

Nothing is wrong with size 4 women--except that most of us are closer to size 14.

Ever try to find something sexy to wear that is DESIGNED for a size 14, and isn't just sized up, with more material, etc, for a size 14? When I *can* find it, it's 4x as expensive as the stuff for size 4 women. And I'm not just talking about lingerie or panties--I'm talking about dresses, and tops, and bras that fit, support, and still manage to look sexy.

I can't even shop at Victoria's Secret--they don't carry my size.

The media puts an unrealistic expectation out there of what's sexy--and unfortunately, many women buy into that. If they don't look like a model, they want to have sex with the lights off, under the covers. They don't have as much confidence with men in general, because it's hard to believe that a guy would want to be with YOU when he could be with someone who is "sexier"

It took YEARS of my husband and guy friends reassuring me that I still look good even though I don't weigh 110 lbs for me to believe it--and self confidence is the sexiest thing there is, I find. Unfortunately, if you did a comparison, women in smaller sizes would tend to have more self-esteem than women larger sizes--though women of ALL sizes seem to buy into it, and feel as though they don't measure up to the models and movie stars out there.

So... nothing is wrong with size 4 women, just as nothing is wrong with size 14 women, though society tends to want to tell the latter that they're too chubby and should aspire to the former.

Wow we can get totally off topic easily right!
I understand what you are trying to say. You ask if I have ever tried to find something for size 14, and to answer that, no. I actually never thought about it until reading your post. It actually made me think differently about it.

I agree with you on that society's views need to change, but I think that they also need to change their views on thin people as well. It is just as hurtful to larger people when they are called "fat" when really they are not just like the comments I get for being skinny. I am 5"5' and I weigh 107 pounds. I am a size 2. I don't try to be skinny, it actually just genetics. My mom and grandmom are slim too. I have gotten rude comments all my life for being "stick thin" and as a teenager they hurt the self esteem too. I have come to accept how I look and understand that it is just who I am, and how god created me. Believe me, the names I've been called regarding my weight are just as hurtful.

Lol, and to tell you the truth, I have never shopped at victoria secret either!

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Originally Posted by Choux

I wonder why habitual porn users are so defensive to the point of being nasty to me. Why don't they want to up the quality of the female's sexual response. (and possibly, the male's too?)

By the way, I was no prude or I wouldn't have learned so much about female sexuality. :)

Female sexuality? Most of what you say makes no sense or sounds like something you got from a book nobody wants to read. Porn is much more interesting and educational.

Size 4? My wife is a size 0 , 5 foot nothing, weighs 100 and eats as much as I do. Oh I can hear the roars now. Yeah she does exercise a lot and does have a high metabolism. And I love it. She takes after her father not her mother like her sisters have. He was always thin as a rail. My wife loves Victorias secret. Her biggest gripe is she wants bigger boobs. I'm fine with what she has. Which are a really nice exceptionally firm A cup. Small but then she is small too.

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Originally Posted by anette

Myself and my gf both of us enjoy watching porn movies together. is there anything wrong with that in the long run?

No, nothing at all as long as you do other things together. Too much of anything can be bad. Keep enjoying yourself. That's what life should be about. But keep the drapes closed, as there are people who are not as happy, and they have nothing else to do, but tell you how to be happy in your own home.