Ask Me Help Desk - Is my husband gay?

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Originally Posted by confused26

We were together only a couple of months before we got pregnant, it did come up then I found the gay topic on the computer I tried not to believe it was him

A couple of months is not a lot of time to get to know some one, let alone the right time to make life long commitments. Unless you start talking honestly with each other, how can this work?? No communication, no relationship. You have grown apart, and his maybe being gay is an issue you use to explain the disintegration of this relationship. Whatever you do you have a child together and are tied to each other so work together for the child, whether the relationship continues or not.

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Originally Posted by confused26

We were together only a couple of months before we got pregnant, it did come up then I found the gay topic on the computer I tried not to believe it was him

I hate to keep doing this to you. But my parents knew each other a month and got engaged. A few short months later they were married and my mom was pregnant.

Like we have all said whether he is gay this guy is bad news. He sounds as if he is also a narcissist on top of being emotionally abusive. You can do whatever you need to do. I saw my mom struggle when we were older being on her own but she did it. My father ran and hide from paying child support but my mom did it. She worked three jobs to keep a roof over our heads and food in our bellies. My mom was the most beaten down woman in the world when my father left her but she found so much inner strength that I don't think she even knew she had. Today my mom is the strongest person that I know.

You will be surprised at what you are capable of in this life.

Everything you are saying is so similar to my parents situation. I can almost see how it plays out in your day to day life.

Its so hard to make a sound call when you only hear one side.
I will say this. As a young gay man fresh out of high school in the late 80's, being "myself" wasn't an option. And yes, I wanted to fit in and yes, I married a girl from school, and yes I knew it would never be a story book romance, but I tried... God knows I tried. We both did, but in the end we both lost.
I would bet big money that your man is gay, and this issue needs to be addressed TODAY, so that you can move on and enjoy the rest of your live. God bless you